This is hard for me to talk about, so plz bare with me.......i am a 43 yr. old female who is still very sexually active...."i hope i can say that on here" well anyway. i have been married to my hubby for 22 yrs. it's not there for me anymore. my body seems to want more than he can give. it's not his fault at all. he is very loving. i guess i got a feather in my butt about 3 months ago and cheated. well this guy turned me on to domination and i must say it was ecstacy.now it is all i think about. what can i do. im craving it but my hubby wont have it. he is to much fuddy duddy. oh, and also i want this from younger guys. something wrong with me or wat? thanx
2006-06-18 01:43:24 · 8 answers · asked by nobodybutmegonnaloveya 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are a victim of menopause something I guess, but you took is badly. Some women just simply try to focus to their jobs, household, kids, or clubs... but you put yourself in adultary with younger men who can be your sons. Stop it, or you'll find a lawyer for a divorce some day, or worse, a lawyer for a killing.
2006-06-18 01:48:41 · answer #1 · answered by bla_bla_bla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sadly there isn't anything "wrong" with you. I say sadly because there's no pill you can take to resolve the problem. Being that you have been married for 22 years, and are now 43, it doesn't take a math wizard to see that you were only 21 at the time you got married. Also, the fact that you are just now cheating shows that you have had sex with the same man for that 22 years. Sweety, that is very much the same thing as riding the exact same rollercoaster for that length of time. For both you AND your husband!
The fact that you are wanting the sexual attentions from younger men also gives insight to the fact that your body is going through the change of ages. It is going to royally suck for a while, so you are going to need to find some focus, or something to focus ON, regardless of what happens with the affair issues.
After 22 years though, I seriously doubt that your husband is unaware of the changes in your behavior, so I would take that into consideration fast! You have that much time vested in being a couple, maybe you should put it to a test.
Sit down with your husband, and talk to him about TRYING something new... suggest the domination idea, and see what happens. He may very well be a "fuddy duddy" because he values your opinion of him, and doesn't want it to seem like he's kinky or whatever. Some men do hide those kind of thoughts and fantasies.... have you broached the idea at all, or kept it hidden?
But no, there is nothing "wrong" with you.... other than life. Good luck!
2006-06-18 09:00:56 · answer #2 · answered by nonya_askme 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with you! People have diffrent things that they like that turn them on. I have ventured onto that side of things for a while for me and it was a novelty, you may find you like it more. talk to your husband and say to him what you want and you will take it outside of the home to do it as he is not interested in it, but when it comes an obsession and you can;t have normal sexual relations with your husband there is a problem.
2006-06-18 08:50:03 · answer #3 · answered by ozi_nut 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, there is something wrong with you - you are human. But there is hope! 1. First, stop cheating 2. quickly, doctor appointment! 3. Although this behavior may be fun and thrilling, it can aslo be dangerous and self-destructive. You may be putting yourself in situations you will regret later. Doctor! Doctor! Doctor!
2006-06-20 05:29:58 · answer #4 · answered by sgissin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to relax yourself and stop cheating. ok- you had a good time, but it's over- it was not meant to last forever- you are married. I think you should take your hubby to a sex shop and tell him you want to try new things- he may like it too or start him off with a video first and say your friend gave it to you to watch and see what his reaction is from there. he is your husband - i think it may be fun for you two to explore it togehter- he may even like it - who knows
good luck
2006-06-18 08:51:38 · answer #5 · answered by shalirha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are experiencing something new,which you obviously liked,but if your relationship isn't working,you should get a divorce,and find some one that shares your same interest,rather than hurting or making something work,that just doesn't,i my self am 31years old,and like older women,my advise,get profession help marriage counselor,etc,if your husband doesn't want to cooperate,get a divorce,at least you tried and will have a clean conscience!
2006-06-18 09:09:24 · answer #6 · answered by jose_valle76 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing wrong with you my dear. You need to really have a long talk with your husband and tell him your wants. Only thing you cn do hun.
2006-06-18 08:50:26 · answer #7 · answered by Tina 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing wrong.
2006-06-18 10:59:59 · answer #8 · answered by Leonardo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋