My cousin wants to marry a 18 years old girl. He's 20.
Neither my uncles nor her parents consent to this marriage.
They asked me to be their legal witness. Still I don't know whether this is good or not...
2006-06-18 01:21:24 · 24 answers · asked by AnneMarie 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Since they're adults, although very young ones, they have the right to make their own decisions and/or mistakes, so while approval or "consent" is a nice thing, it isn't necessary to them. Withholding your approval will only cause hard feelings between you.
It doesn't cost you anything emotionally to be supportive of your cousin in this, as he obviously feels that marrying the girl would make him happy, and he surely can't blame you later if it turns out to be a mistake. Be his friend and be happy for him; the very least it could do is bring the two of you closer.
Just keep in mind that it's their life, their success or failure if they can't make it work, not yours. Whether you approve or not isn't even an issue, so be there for him. He'll love you for it.
2006-06-18 02:16:14 · answer #1 · answered by Crooks Gap 5 · 5⤊ 1⤋
It is not up to you or the parents to decide if it is good or not since they are both considered adults in the eyes of God and the law.
The decision on if they are to marry are not is no ones choice but theirs to make. If your family wants this marriage to fail, then they shouldn't consent and stay home from the wedding or give they can give their blessing, suck it up and go to the wedding.
Who knows this could be the marriage that lasts a life time. If not, then they have learned from their own mistakes and the family will still be strong and intact as it should be.
2006-06-18 05:15:05 · answer #2 · answered by tcm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I would stay out of it because her parents are the people who should be the ones giving there consent and if they are not then it is for a reason. I know if someone in my family did that for my child I would be very upset and might never talk to that family member. If she is 18 I don't think she needs any consent anyway and if she does then she should wait until she is of age.
2006-06-18 05:02:15 · answer #3 · answered by Kimberley K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on whether of not you agree with the marriage. They are both old enough with or without anyones consent. A witness doesn't have to be a relative so chances are they will marry regardless of who their witness is.
2006-06-18 06:37:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They both are of age to marry. They can do it whenever they want. Tell them how you feel, if you don't approve their marriage don't be their witness. But that doesn't stop them from going through with it.
They are pretty young esp. the girl. I wanted to marry a guy when I was 18, but we ended up breaking up. Thank god! I don't regret it for a second. Ppl change so much esp from the ages of 18 - 22/23.
2006-06-18 03:09:07 · answer #5 · answered by MandyHawk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-14 22:29:54 · answer #6 · answered by eckis 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is wrong with a 20 yr old wanting to marry an 18 yr old. I don't see anything wrong with that. Of couurse, you didn't say why her parents are not consenting to it but you can't stop them, they are considered adults. If you give them too much static, they will just go and get married and forget about everyone else.
2006-06-18 01:30:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are old enough to do what they want to and nobody can stop them. Its not your place to consent and they don't need you to be a witness either. They can get anyone off the street to do it. If you don't agree with the marriage then dont consent.
2006-06-18 03:57:17 · answer #8 · answered by Jenn ♥Cadence Jade's mum♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the families aren't consenting to the marriage, you shouldn't either - whether you agree or not. Don't get in the middle of this - lest you want everyone against you, too. The couple is on their own.
2006-06-18 02:23:31 · answer #9 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally agree with tina .it is upto you.But whenever you take a decision in life, keep your ethics closer.I dont mind about the girl but is the guy ready for this?Isnt he a little bit young for all of this.Try to make them understand that marriage brings with it a lot of responsibilities and tell them it isnt just satying together and having fun.Tell them that there will be ups and downs through life.Tell them when you marry you are independent of your family that means you are on your own and you have to do everything ....monetary and others.Tell them they need to get settled first and ask them to wait a little longer may be a 3 years that will make them fit for it
2006-06-18 01:29:54 · answer #10 · answered by sana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋