Recently remarried... My wife wants to spank my 2 kids (boy4 &girl7) when needed... I spank some. good idea?

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We have been living together now for 3 years. I spank seldom but bare them when I do.

Answer 1

Come on people... this guy is simply here getting his thrills fulfilled and you're ALL feeding him! Stop and read all his other questions. Don't be as stupid as he is!

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Answer 2

The way you worded your question tells me that your current wife is not the children's biological mother. This is really a judgment call that you need to make. If you work outside the home and she is the primary caregiver, then it is unfair to her not to allow her to discipline the children. And you should discuss how she plans to spank them if it becomes necessary. At your children's age, an over-the-lap hand-spanking is plenty. She does not need to be using a paddle or belt or anything like that. As far as spanking bare bottom, that again is a call that each parent has to make. I spank my children bare bottomed but some parents disagree with that method.

Answer 3

Your wife who is not their mother - should not spank them. Kids need that kind of discipline from their birth parent(s). You should spank them - when they deserve it. Your wife could put them in time out. Sometimes they just need to be talked to, and they should ALWAYS be given 3 strikes before. If they do something wrong that's big, you can give them Automatic 3 Strikes.
Explain to them that what they did is wrong and why it is not acceptable, and when they do right, HUG THEM. Tell them that you're proud of them daily, and that you love them so much.
God bless you for tryng to find the best thing for your family.

Answer 4

It beats being grounded, and it's more effective.

My parents grounded me constantly

By grounded, I mean in room with no lights, no tv, no book, no lyin down, just sitting in bed in total darkness for 5 hours every night after school until bedtime, and 12 hours of darkness every weekend.

I spent months at a time being grounded like this every day. For about a 6 month stretch. I'd keep getting regrounded for breaking some small rule.

I never failed classes, swore, or broke laws. I just do typical kids stuff like get an extra snack or forget to do a chore.

I'd rather have been spanked. I probably wouldn't have trouble in social situations today and still recovering from psychological harm of long periods of isolation during formative years.

What kind of lesson was I supposed to learn? I can still see the lines of light streaming through the dark shades covering my only window to the outside world, and remember the countless hours contemplating absolutely nothing.

To all you "just give them love and attention" psychos, I say this: when your child is stabbing the cat with scissors because you never yelled at them or taught them right from wrong, or is bullying other kids in school because of lack of discipline, you are harming your child and all of society for your negligence. I was treated terribly for years because of psycho liberals like you who love thier terrorist sons.

And grounding the child is how you destroy thier emotional and social growth. Its like animal abuse, but for children. You wouldnt lock your cat in a tiny cage for months at a time, so why do it to your child?

A quick swat on the buttocks is far less abusive than the other two "discipline" methods described. All love and no rules is worthless, all grounding and no growth forms loners who become suicide bombers.

It's a good thing I'm a strong enough person. You would have been scarred by what I've been through. Its far worse than a silly swat on the butt or two.

Answer 5

You must decide this for yourself, I wouldn't want someone telling me to spank my kids even though I do it. There is a right and a wrong way to disipline,along with the spanking there must be a reason and an explination. The child must understand. If spanking is not solving the problem than another rout must be considered. "If you plant ice, your gonna harvest wind"

Answer 6

I have two stepchildren of my own. I personally do not spank my stepchildren. And they are good kids that do respect me. Me and my husband have been married for 8 years and have 3 kids of our own.

I feel that as long as they have a mother, then I can never take their mother's place. Now if their mother had died or she was sick or disabled then I would help out. But, she is healthy. I never talk bad about their mother. I respect them so they can respect me and they do. The kids are 9&10. If my husband or their mother decides to spank them, then that is their choice.
I am still there for them. I give them advice, I cook for them, I help them out when they need help. I am there to help. Not, take their mother's place.

Answer 7

I think that whomever is not the bioligical of those two kids. Shouldn't be spanking anything. I would be pissed if I found out that my wife's new husband was whooping my daughter. I'd be ready to fight! Now, if you're the bioligical you need to tell your wife that you will whoop the kids. I would never want to whoop another child that wasn't mine anyway. I think that's wrong! I do agree that kids need butt whoopings though.

Answer 8

Let me tell you sweety, your wife aint doing nothing but gaining anger within these childrens remember childrens might not seem to know much bout life but they do feel. they feel pain when a person that aint even their mother starts hitting them. Theirs other ways you and your wife can control your childrens without spanks think bout things they like to do and just cut them off on that tell them they cant have it till they follow directions around your house.Show you childrens lots of love too they might feel jelous mostly the little princess(daughter) she might be jelous of your love and if i allowe your wife to spank them she diffinetlly gonn feel jelous of you not stopping the fact of what your wife wants to do to them. Always remeber that a mother is not the one that gives birth to one but the one who raises well and if your wife tries on raiseing these childrens well she gonn earn their love.also try tolking to your childrens maybe they are behaving bad because they want your attention try making plans for the family to be together always include your wife too for she dont feel left out give them all love and treat ech other with nothing but love and respect. i tottaly understand how you feel and i belive this is the best you can do as a father of two and husband of a lady.

Answer 9

**** what the left wants there ways are proven to be bullshit ways to raise kids all they raise is bad kids spank it is the right thing to do spank not beat there is a difference

Answer 10

you don't need to spank your kids, spanking is wrong and imoral and teaches the child nothing except to hate the hitter, especially if a man hits a child, there are better ways to discipline your chridlen