how do you get a 2 and a half yr old to listen? My daughter wont listen to me when i am telling her to do something, or when i ask her something! like when i want her to help me pick up her toys, she just sits on the floor and whines about it and i usually end up picking up all her toys myself and the other day, i had her in underwear cuz she is almost potty trained, well she stayed dry for a couple of hours and then pee'd in her underwear somewhere's, i got to her eye level and asked her where she went pee, and she kept saying she don't know and wouldn't look at me. also when shes being naughty and starts getting alittle rough, she doesn't listen. I make her sit in time out or i send her to her room, but my biggest problem is getting her to listen to me, it's like everything i say goes in one ear and out the other! help? I know she only 2 and a half but she is smart for her age and does understand alot of things, but she doesn't listen to me!
2006-06-18 00:37:17 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
wait a second...now you see the clinton era it takes a village be kind always be their friend approach never works. Lady you are the mom it is your house. when are you gonna take charge? you need to be firm. instant discipline is the key you say pick up toys she just don't listen then you get in her face and give her a direct order to if that don't work a soft but firm smack on the hiney will work wonders! but you see she is testing you testing the boundaries to see how much she can get away with. she is running you now you run the household. take charge she cant have her way she needs to hear no and made to obey you
are doing great disservice to her to prepare for real life cause in the real world people say no you cant have that she wont know how to properly deal with that if she always gets what she wants.
dont be afraid to raise the voice a little and be assertive and authoritive! instead of suzy....hummm....could....you please....um could you please pick up your toys? say suzy please pick up your toys now. if no response then be more assertive and loud I said pick up your toys now if she still wont listen then be a bit louder and say suzie get your *** in here and pick up your toys or you wont have any toys left! move it little girl! its called tough love!
2006-06-18 00:49:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Congrats!!! you have a normal 2 year old. Make the tasks you ask her to do smaller. They may seem overwhelming. Instead of asking her to pick up all her toys break it down into steps. Tell her "bring me all the blocks" or if she knows her colors "bring me all the red things then the blue things" make it a game and make it fun. Then when she is finished tell her what a great job she did. "You did a wonderful job picking up all the green blocks! Now can you bring me all the cars?" Make things fun and make it seem as if she is deciding to do it. It will make her feel like she has more control over the situation. As far a potty training goes stick with it. "I don't know" is a very common answer. Don't give up if she has one accident. Tell her that her "panties are sad because they are wet and now they have to be washed". Take them off and put another pair of panties on, not a diaper. Switching back and forth may confuse her. Tell her what a great job she did up until she wets. Always praise good behavior. Positive feedback is always better than negative.
2006-06-18 08:29:25 · answer #2 · answered by dasiebob 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a 3 1/2 year old daughter and what your daughter is doing is normal. It's her way of expressing her feelings because she doesn't know the words. What worked for me is using simple, direct words with a reward. 'Mary, pick up your toys and put them in the toy box. When you're done, we'll color together.' Then leave the room and come back after 5 min. If she picked up a few things and put them in the toy box, praise her, repeat. Don't expect her to pick up ALL the toys. If she whines, say 'I'm sorry what did you say? Mommy didn't understand you.' Don't respond to the whining or she'll keep doing it.
2006-06-18 09:55:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
good answers so far.
how many toys does a 2 1/2 year old need? as many as she can and will pick up. if the child doesn't want to pick them up then they go into the trash (so the child can see them in the trash) or goes into a 'give away' bin to take to the shelter for kids who don't have any toys. either way she knows she's not getting them back until she starts to listen; not in a few minutes or hours, not today , even. but after she starts to listen and do what is asked of her. if you don't start now, she will learn to walk all over you.
2006-06-18 07:55:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
not to burst your bubble !! BBUUTT i have 3 teens and well they still dont listen!!!! but 1 thing came to mind when i was really haveing a rough time with them is that i myself had to start listening to them !!!! and that they were only copying me!!! i was forever telling them "JUST A MINUTE" or "NOT NOW I'M BUSY"..and to a child 1 minute is not fast enough !! just like for us!!! I have 16 girl & boy-girl twins 13. and i know for a fact there were times i would just lock myself in the bedroom or bathroom for a time out!!! LOL!!!! but there is light at the end ..
and before u know it your daughter will be grown!!! and never want to be at home or around u !!! SOOO be a cool mom and LISTEN and TALK !!!! be as open and honest about the things you went through as a child and teen .... hope this helps u out some
2006-06-18 08:03:53 · answer #5 · answered by Heather G 7969 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like most 2 year olds. With the toys, what I used to do is put them in a big plastic bag and say they are going away and I'd hide them if my daughter wouldnt listen to clean up.
Or try making a game out of it somehow.
2006-06-18 07:45:08 · answer #6 · answered by KathyS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you tell her something ask her if she understands. If she still won't listen threaten to put some of her toys in time out (hide some of them) and tell she can have them back when she does what you say, listens to you, acknowledges you, etc.
2006-06-18 07:44:05 · answer #7 · answered by songbird 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some how you have to gain her respect or this will be a continuing pattern. But it really sounds like to is she has learned to to cntrol you. I see the same thing with my daughter she is 2. My wife doesnt see it though. You are the teacher. Be in control.
2006-06-18 07:50:20 · answer #8 · answered by twocooldrew 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am a father of 3. my youngest will turn three soon, what your daughter is doing is normal for her age. when our daughter did that i would give her a warning if she ignored the warning she would get disciplined if time out did not work she would get a swat on the butt. i think they are seeing what there limits are at that age so stick with what you say you will do so that you do not confuse her
2006-06-18 07:49:09 · answer #9 · answered by mudslinger309 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think dude's answer is basically correct. It goes farther than that though. Unintentionally, you are teaching her to be rebellious when you don't enforce your rules. You'll have to be patient, it has been proven that it takes 21 days to make a habit - at any age.
2006-06-19 01:27:00 · answer #10 · answered by euhmerist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋