You must have encountered an emotional vampire to feel emotionally drained.
Who are they?
Not just annoying people, but darkly seductive. Emotional Vampires draw you in with charm, beauty, talent and pulse pounding excitement. Then they drain you – not of blood but of every last drop of emotional energy.
You know them – Sexy, but unreliable lovers, drama queens who use emotions like Afghan Rebels use Kalishnikovs, jealous spouses, demanding parents, manipulative coworkers, and bosses with gigantic egos, who are so small everywhere else.
It’s almost supernatural how quickly Emotional Vampires can get you to trust them, then, just as quickly, get under your skin and drain you dry. It’s downright scary how quickly they can trick you into letting them come back and do it again.
Psychologists would diagnose Emotional Vampires with Personality Disorders, those strange mental illnesses drive other people crazy. To protect yourself from children of the night, you must understand what personality disorders are, and how they operate.
How to Protect Yourself
1. KNOW THEM, KNOW THEIR HISTORY, AND KNOW YOUR GOAL
The way to anticipate vampires is by knowing how they've acted in the past. Chances are pretty good that they'll do the same thing in the future. The big mistake you can make with vampires is assuming, without evidence, that though their record has been bad in the past, that they have learned their lesson, and will do better this time. When you deal with vampires, always ask yourself what you're trying to accomplish and why. If you're not sure, don't do anything until you've thought about it carefully.
2. GET OUTSIDE VERIFICATION
Vampires want you to listen to them alone. To control you, they'll try to isolate you from your usual sources of information. Always check out what they say with a trusted friend, especially when you'd rather not. Vampires can't operate in the light of day.
3. DO WHAT THEY DON'T
To prevail over Emotional Vampires you must rush in where they fear to tread. Your greatest strengths lie in doing the things you can do that vampires can't.
4. PAY ATTENTION TO ACTIONS, NOT WORDS
What vampires say is often very different from what they do. To avoid being drained, always focus on what they do.
5. IDENTIFY HYPNOTIC STRATEGY
Vampires are consummate hypnotists. When you see through the smoke and mirrors, their illusions don't work nearly so well.
6. PICK YOUR BATTLES
To be an effective vampire fighter, you have to be able to pick the important battles and ignore the rest. You also have to avoid fighting battles you can't possibly win.
7. LET CONTINGENCIES DO THE WORK
A contingency is an if-then situation. If someone does a particular thing, then certain consequences will follow. The only way Emotional Vampires learn anything is by experiencing the consequences of their own behavior. If you're ever tempted to rescue a vampire, think about what you're teaching him or her about how the game of life is played.
8. CHOOSE YOUR WORDS AS CAREFULLY AS YOU PICK YOUR BATTLES
With Emotional Vampires what you say, how you say it, and when you say it are
all crucial to the outcomes you are likely to achieve.
9. IGNORE TANTRUMS
When vampires don't get their way, they throw tantrums. They can explode into all sorts of emotional outbursts whose only purpose is to get you to give in. Don't.
10. KNOW YOUR OWN LIMITS
Dealing with Emotional Vampires requires a lot of effort. They may be worth it, they may not. Only you can decide. Sometimes it's better to run away, or not get involved in the first place.
2006-06-18 00:35:02
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answered by rodeo 1
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That is an interesting question; of cause I do not your know your specific problem. I will try to answer in a general terms.
It is very important to know yourself and be strong in yourself. One good way to help you achieve this, is give yourself one hour a day
sitting in a char with no radio, no TV, no Book, and on your own with your favorite drink. Then think about
anything you want. This could help after a few weeks. Good luck Martin.
2006-06-18 01:01:57
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answered by MARTIN 1
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ok, hypothetically i could probable agree that suicide is an decision if the suicidee replace into evil and had proved themselves to be so. by making use of this i'm thinking of having committed grievous acts upon others, infants, animals etc etc. From what you're saying it does not sound as though that's the case with you - loss of feeling isn't, for my section, evil. Its a confusing one to respond to with the aid of fact in user-friendly terms you comprehend what you're able to and precisely the variety you experience. for my section, and this could be a private OPINION in user-friendly terms, i think of that, to take your guy or woman life, is probable between the bravest, undesirable and maximum confusing issues a human can do; courageous with the aid of fact no-one is primary with of what comes after death, undesirable with the aid of fact it potential that the guy has no desire and confusing with the aid of fact it truly is fantastically difficult to kill your self cleanly and painlessly. final yet no longer least - okay to whom? the guy worried? God? or people ordinarily? - and, in all honesty, while your ineffective your unlikely to care who thinks what now are you.
2016-10-31 02:06:24
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answered by ? 4
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Create Boundaries
Meditation not medication !
Time to yourself
Someone you can talk to
Start a hobby
Have fun with something that distracts you from everything
Get a pet
2006-06-18 00:52:37
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answered by Anonymous
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A change of scenary. A change of lifestyle. Go to a Church. Take a holiday. Do things differently to mix it up and make life interesting.
2006-06-18 00:38:44
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answered by Anonymous
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Take a vaction from everyone and everything in your life. Get away from it all for a short time or get another career.
either way take a break
2006-06-18 00:34:56
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answered by Chad B 2
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develop a self care plan
2006-06-18 00:41:52
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answered by Anonymous
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stay away from people if you feel certain people are causing that to happen. dramatic people tend to do that to us.
2006-06-18 00:37:14
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answered by sarah 5
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take stress medicine
2006-06-18 00:33:56
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answered by billey32 4
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Have fun.
2006-06-18 00:35:26
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answered by alieneddiexxx 4
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