in a negative way? Do you tell them that they are just nasty - paranoid - whining - absolutely right - do you apologize - give it thought - overreact - think that they have no right - communicate - ask more quiestions.... What do you do?
2006-06-18 00:09:08 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
THIS IS A PRETTY GENERAL QUESTION - MORE ABOUT PEOPLE NOT ATMITTING IF WE ARE WRONG. ....DEFENSIVENESS, BEING HURT BACK, PRIDE ETC your answers are amazing - thanks
2006-06-18 00:45:38 · update #1
I always listen first....and then think.
If someones says I have hurt them, then I really have hurt them.
I listen to what they say and then filter it.
I'm a Pastor's wife. Sometimes people expect me to do or be someone I can't be. Like they want me to stop by and visit with them to chit-chat when I just don't have the time. They have unspoken expectations...and they get hurt when I don't meet them.
I listen to their hurts, and apologize for the things I don't measure up in. Most of the time they are right in some way. I don't go and visit them...regardless of the reasons. If they were sick, I sure would find the time to visit.
Anyways, listen to the complaint, filter out the truth and apologize for your shortcomings.
2006-06-18 00:36:42 · answer #1 · answered by Red-dog-luke 4 · 14⤊ 1⤋
Um.. I'm too slow to get angry so I guess I'll pretty much give it a thought. If I think they're right and I have no problem to adjust, I guess I'll just compromise. Hmm, if they make no sense to me... :D heh I probably going to whine in my diary for a while..Then, I might ask them more questions just to understand them better(since they make no sense to me) and we'll work it out, I guess. :) It's pretty much depends on the situation and choices that are available at the time.
I might apologize and I might not. Most of the time, I won't but I'll bear in mind to give it a thought and act on it.. subtly. No apology needed, only understanding. ^_^
2006-06-18 07:54:38 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on your intent. Did you purposely try to hurt them and in doing so you would not care that they are hurt. Or did you not intend on hurting them and then would question your actions and apologize. Simply, if you are a person of moral beliefs you probably would not intend of hurting the other person and in finding you did hurt them, you'd try and correct the problem.
2006-06-18 07:16:44 · answer #3 · answered by atxconquesttsi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really depends. Is this a physical action you are taking that hurts them, or is it an expressed opinion? Personally, I believe it is always good to take people's feelings into consideration, but itshould not prevent you from being yourself.
2006-06-18 07:13:43 · answer #4 · answered by Bryan 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if they tell you, you are doing something that hurts them ask more questions and stop doing it. if they tell you that you are MAKING them do something negative, you tell them to be more in control of your life.
you didn't give much detail so i'm not sure what the situation is. i understand that you want to keep your private stuff private but we'll never know who you are any way. you can send me a message if you want more help.
2006-06-18 07:24:20 · answer #5 · answered by vampire_kitti 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you don't give enough details that would all depend on what you were doing and how it effected them if you are wrong you are wrong if it is petty will it is petty and tell them that if you think they are full of it then tell them that to but if you are going to tell them off be sure you are morally right not just being stubborn
2006-06-18 10:16:20 · answer #6 · answered by ange449 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Live life on a simple logic -
1) do to others, what you want others to do to you
2) dont do to others, what you dont want others to do to you
if you dont want to rock the boat, as regards your relationship with that particular person who is feeling hurt/affected, you have got to pacify that person, come what may.
either you do it out of true love/affection/care, or you do it to save your skin.
2006-06-18 07:21:50 · answer #7 · answered by kailashmedia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i react pretty badly as a general rule. even if i change what i do, i always seem to get it wrong.
such is life
2006-06-18 07:18:27 · answer #8 · answered by lakey214 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on your hormones at the time...
A true friend will tell you what 'they' think you should hear, not necessarily what you want to...
2006-06-18 07:14:34 · answer #9 · answered by Chiron 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one has ever told me that, so I don't know just how I would react!
2006-06-18 07:15:58 · answer #10 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋