I fell in love a few months ago with a girl I've been working with and in friendly terms for a few years. I think it was reciprocal but after careful consideration I took the decision to keep it friendly anyway.
The reason was we had incompatible plans for the future and I just couldn't change mine and didn't want to make her compromise hers.
I thought that after she left I would move on and be fine but now that she just left, I'm full of regrets and can't shake her off my mind. Should have I listened to my feelings rather than all my rational arguments?
2006-06-18 00:07:25 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You should have just went for it!! bloody hell you could be knocked down and killed tomorro,dont want that to sound nasty but you may have thrown somthing that could have turned out to be a great relationship because of the future when you dont know what will happen tomorro!! give her a call!
2006-06-18 02:20:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen all we have is the NOW , tommorw is never promised. Life changes every second of every day.I understand that need to want to secure your future but at the end of the day wouldnt it be nice to have somebody to share that with? You never know where life could have taken you with this person maybe life had bigger and better plans for you then you even had for yourself.When you die all you can take with are memories and regrets,now ask yourself which of those two would you rather have more of?
2006-06-18 00:38:27 · answer #2 · answered by 12stepchic 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for the time being i suggest the best thing to do is to let her go... literally and emotionally. to love someone does not always mean that they will end up together, but to know that she has left to pursue her dreams, career, etc., it is for the best of her... which is the very thing that you would want for her isn't it?
but you guys can always keep the friendship going on by keeping constantly in touch...
and if it is fated that both of you are meant for one another then time will bring you guys together again.
there is no benefit in regretting, but it comes naturally to the things where you thought you have missed your chance... nevertheless it takes time to get over it.
perhaps only time will tell that you might just find another girl that you wil not let her slip pass you without making a move.
ultimately, you are your decisions...
feelings and rational arguments rarely agree with each other, no point in blaming yourself for this... take your time to recover. you'll be fine.
2006-06-18 00:34:13 · answer #3 · answered by cynewulve 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. You was planning for the future. Think of it it a positive way. You did the right thing. If you love her as you say you do, then I have much respect for you. You let her go. Part of growing up and being in a relationship is planning for the future, if you didn't see your future together then you got out before you got in too deep. Good choice.
2006-06-18 00:13:02 · answer #4 · answered by dave w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on. You made the right decision. You admit you had incompatible plans for the future.
Rest assured, you will be the one who will have to compromise if you decide to chase this girl. Be prepared for the consequences this will bring if you do.
2006-06-18 02:11:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES! You should also ask yourself why you think you love her? What do you fear in approaching her, etc. Once you know that then GET OVER IT and ask her out! She turns you down, then you move on - it could be the best experience you ever have! And would save a lot of time obsessing : )
2006-06-18 00:12:29 · answer #6 · answered by Toni D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did the same thing five years ago (check out my question now I'm still desperately trying to find her and it's hell.) So long as it's not my beloved Laura you've fallen for I'd have to say find her man, tell her and don't EVER let her go.
Good luck
2006-06-18 00:30:11 · answer #7 · answered by franticsearch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
was in a similar situation a few years ago.....did the same thing as you but it took me years of pain and deep thought to get over it...did eventually move on and now have what i held out for..not exactly an answer i know but it worked in my case.
2006-06-18 00:18:30 · answer #8 · answered by ragbag 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What can anybody say to that? You know, in hindsight I could say something clever -- it is better to listen to the heart in matters of the heart... I have found that where love is concerned we learn nothing so there is nothing to say. I will let someone else say the obvious stuff.
2006-06-18 00:17:28 · answer #9 · answered by madchriscross 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
regrets always come to the last part....
tell me what yoou feel like doing right now?!
i'll tell you what you will do....
if you tell me you want here badly... go get here...
our life is live only once. so try to make a chance so what about the result. atleast you've tried, and have no regrets at all....
if you dont... its up to....
just trying to help out. :D
2006-06-18 00:14:04 · answer #10 · answered by princessAYA 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋