I met this guy online a year ago. I really like him and my intuition tells me he is a good heart. However, he has quite a past. Twenty plus yrs. ago...he left his wife and daughter. He then worked as a stand up comedian for two years. Then, managed a strip club for a few years. Did lots of drugs. etc.
Today, he is working in a hospital while finishing nursing school. He only has a couple months to go. He really seems to regret the past. Especially, leaving his daughter behind. He has also been recently diagnosed as having bipolar disorder....and has spent six weeks in a recovery program, getting some much needed therapy.
I'm scared of his past...and of his current conditions....but, my intuition tells me that he is a good person, who just needs someone. And, I need someone, too.
Should I give it a try?
2006-06-17 23:17:38 · 17 answers · asked by treefrog 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He recently contacted his daughter....to apologize...try to have a relationship. But, she declined. Refused to talk with him.
2006-06-17 23:45:42 · update #1
well if you look real hard everyone of us has a past that we are not proud of. we all have skeletons in our closet. the fact is he feels regret and that is what matters. everyone deserves a chance to prove themselves. my past is nothing to be proud of and thank god my husband gave me a chance. so go with your gut feeling it might turn out to be the best chance you have ever taken. good luck
2006-06-17 23:25:57 · answer #1 · answered by connie c 2 · 23⤊ 3⤋
yes his past is behind him,yuou might be worried that he left his daughter and wife and that he might leave you but things always happen for a reason he would have had his reasons and sometimes it is better to leave and let go, we have all done things in our lives that are not the right thing to some people but it is what we are doing tofday that matters and he is good person to be working in a hospital howeverr online relationships can have there hicups you might want to do a backround check on him and make sure he is working at the hospital and he is who he says he is before you go further
2006-06-17 23:31:14 · answer #2 · answered by treatau 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Living with someone with bipolar disorder can be really hard. Don't judge him based on his past, but you might want to find out more about bipolar disorder before marrying him. A person with the disease can not be cured, but they can be stable ( IN GENERAL ) with medication. If they go off that medication, as some choose, it can be scary / difficult.
2006-06-17 23:22:34 · answer #3 · answered by TellMeSup 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a man BUT STILL "Man are Man" !!!
If you have intuitions that he really regrets leaving his daughter behind, ask him to bring her back !!! If all the stories he is telling is NOT to gain you sympathy than he should AT LEAST aplogogize to her wife and daughter (Ohh, offcourse in front of you !! )
Goodluck buddy..........don't follow just your heart.....!!
2006-06-17 23:25:40 · answer #4 · answered by X P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you tried to find out why he left his wife and daughter? it sounds sus to me seeing as he has left the daughter as well.it's ok to leave your wife or husband but you don't just walk off and leave your child.your intuition is telling you that there is a degree of danger there .do you have children you would be taking into this relationship. be friends but don't live with him yet. wait and see how he progresses with his treatment
2006-06-17 23:26:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dated someone bipolar the ups and downs for her was extreme. she would get violent, even towards her kids then not remember much. like any disorder do some research about it. if u deciede to go forward make sure he takes his meds. on his own( i am not saying all bipolar people r like this)
2006-06-17 23:28:44 · answer #6 · answered by pale rider 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hum... tough one, I personally wouldn't... ok, let's give him the benefit of the doubt and suppose he really regrets his past, but what are you gonna do with his bipolar disorder?? it is dangerous for you, you know???... and online relationships, hum, creepier.
2006-06-17 23:21:51 · answer #7 · answered by ma_isa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TOUGH ONE- IF IT WERE ME I WOULD! EVERYONE MAKES MISTAKES IT SEEMS THAT HES OPEN AND HONEST ABOUT TELLING YOU. SOME PEEPS MISTAKES ARE WORSE THAN OTHERS BUT PEOPLE CAN CHANGE! AND IF YOU ARE NOT EDUCATED ABOUT BIPOLAR DISORDER THEN -- WELL IT COULD EXPLAIN ALOT OF HIS PAST ALTHO U SAID HE JUST RECENTLY GOT DIAGNOSED. HE'S PROB. ALWAYS HAD IT AND NEVER BEEN PROPERLY TREATED. I SAY GO FOR IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-06-17 23:31:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If, for some reason, he is the only available choice for you - sorry if I offend you by this statement - then go ahead and give him a chance .. If not, I advise you to forget about him.
2006-06-17 23:30:07 · answer #9 · answered by arabianbard 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is truly trying to overcome his past, which he seems to be, then by all means. It takes a lot of courage to change oneself.
2006-06-17 23:21:20 · answer #10 · answered by DL 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally agree with the first answer. Let it all go.
2006-06-17 23:21:37 · answer #11 · answered by Megan P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋