when she gets sooo fussy and sticks her mind on one thing and that thing has to be got for her, like around 10 pm she suddenly wants a pair of roller skates...I keep telling her I'll get them after sleeping but she keeps repeating and repeating and crying...all I do is silently look at her until she calms down and forgets the issue...
2006-06-17 22:48:02 · 12 answers · asked by 【ツ】ρεαcε! 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
You are doing the correct thing by not giving in to her demands. If you were to get her what she wanted, always when she wanted it, you would only reinforce negative behaviors. Believe me, that would be just the start of your problems.
It's good that you put the positive first by saying,"You get them after sleeping". It may also help to decrease the amount of time you spend listening to her crying/begging. Tell her,"I under stand you want______. You can have_____after you_______. I'm done listening to your hissy fit."
Say no more than needed. Attention spans are short. One minute or less is all you have to drive your point home.
2006-06-17 23:15:41 · answer #1 · answered by BigRed 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she really wants something get it for her when she is good, but warn her if she is not good she can not get it. Put your foot down, don't let her control you. Also try going to the store with her and looking at things you know she would like, if she is bad ask her do you think so and so would like this? She will probably get jealous and from that point she is pretty much willing to do anything to get it.
2006-06-18 05:55:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That sounds like you are dealing with it already. They are pushing the boundries at that age. Seeing what they can get away with. Sorry but you will have to grit your teeth and bear with the tantrums. Hopefully she sees it is ineffective and gives up on that strategy> Important would be not to react to her. Tell her calmly that her demand cannot be done. And that is that. explain and forget her tantrums hard as it may be.
2006-06-18 05:55:59 · answer #3 · answered by brahman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My 4 year old son is a repeater too. He will ask and ask. Arrrgh!!!! So I started telling him, "Ask me again and you will NEVER get it." and I stick to it (within reason). But if its, ice pop, ice pop, ice pop, if I hear the words ice pop again I am gonna lose it... I tell him, "Say ice pop again, and you will not get one and you will go to bed with no snack." It usually works, 10 minutes or so later, after he forgets all about the ice pop, I give him one. He is slowly remembering not to nag about stuff, to ask once, and he will get what he is looking for.
2006-06-19 15:17:00 · answer #4 · answered by carlyanne0425 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Turn off the lights and tell her its time for bed and you will do whatever she wants later even if you are not going to. That is what i do with my 4 year old son
They want to try to boss you and if you let them they will.
I use to do what he said so he would be quiet but i stopped that cause he was seeing he was getting his way and i had to be the parent instaed of him acting like he could tell me what to do
2006-06-18 05:56:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to talk to her and tell her big girls who listens to there parents get roller skates. explain to her when its time to sleep, its time to sleep. when its time to play its time to play. if she has a problem listening try time out for 4 or 5 minutes, its not that long but it is to them.
2006-06-18 05:53:12 · answer #6 · answered by dumb_founded_01 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let your daughter know who's the parent and who's the child and leave it at dat put her in check...... u don't listen to her she needs to listen u .....holla back
2006-06-18 05:53:03 · answer #7 · answered by Nacirema Dream 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is always punching her in the neck meat(just joking) what I do with my brother is say that if he doesnt go to sleep then he wont get them, but if he does then he will get them.
2006-06-18 05:52:24 · answer #8 · answered by bradybootoo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lovely aren't they .... they have mind like steel traps.... and it's just starting .......use some of the ideas here and never never never commit to anything..... they remember...keep smiling silence seems to be working for you... here this is a freebie ...see how THEIR minds work!
2006-06-18 08:57:45 · answer #9 · answered by Clyde 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i beleive the method you use it very good, you can't show her that he can get sth only beacuse she wants it in a particular moment, she has to learn that you state rules
2006-06-18 05:55:13 · answer #10 · answered by osasanka 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋