If one is born homosexual why do they have to convince children they are born gay?

Question

wouldn't the child be able to eventually come to that conclusion with out the collusion?

Answer 1

Interesting. Do parents convince children they are hetero as well? "When you grow up you're going to have sex and make babies." Actually, I think parents avoid sex discussions with their own kids. Other people's kids, on the other hand ...

Sex comes up in a kid's life at the appropriate time, after the parents have had 10 good years and the fun is over (ages 2 to 12). Then it's ten more years of you don't understand me, get out of my life. Kids take their own responsibility to explore their sexuality during the time when their parents influence is changing from total to ... well ... less than total, I know that.

I feel it is a parents responsibility to express their own values and urge the child to make his or her own decision about their values and get on with life accepting each other, no conflict BUT that's not real life. It is a goal to reach for and go toward. If a parent feels the need to discourage their child from an alternative lifestyle, they should just highlight the realities of being different in a society that doesn't accept them. Tell them it is a shame, it shouldn't be that way, but it is and they need a warning about it so they can go in with their eyes open.

Answer 2

Since the majority of relationship (incl. their parents (apart from adoptive parents)) are straight, I guess not really.

Though gays are said to be born gay, they only realise when they're older; when they "come out". So even they don't understand as a child.

Answer 3

because theyWERE BORN GAY and want to be truthful with their children, the child would figure it out but to tell them is to take the burden off them and the parent, its called being open with the ones you love !!!!!

Answer 4

I think maybe it takes some of the stigma away.

If it's not a choice then there's no responsibily for a preference.