have you ever been in a situation when you don't have a place to stay and your family turns agianst you?

Question

I'm 21 I have a son and my family doesn't take me serious because i'm a goofy ball and i do what i want to do but I'm trying to show them that i'm not that person anymore but they just don't want to help me out because they don't want to see the same mistakes over again, but i know this time it will be different . I've learn from the many mistakes i've done. So what should i do? and I'm running out of time!!

Answer 1

yea....i was thrown out of my house and had no place to stay.

well....i dont know if you are a man or a woman.....coz its gonna be tough if you are a woman.

try gettin a job as soon as possible.

or if you are a woman and are in a serious mess.....contact some womens organizations in your city. they'll surely take care of you for a while.

if you are a man.....you really shudnt be bothered so much.

**** happens. deal with it.

well, all the best. just have confidence in you and know that you are stronger than the situations and you'll get over it.

Answer 2

went thru something similar - the best thing i did was take every bit of help out there to put myself and my daughter on our feet - that was 2 years ago now and everyday i am grateful for where i am today and i continue to keep growing and pushing us into better things and situations.
you can do it too - take it a day at a time and think about where you want to be - you'll get there if you keep working at it. Keep making 'baby' steps. A great life isnt built in a day. It takes consistent daily working at it. And dont forget to enjoy your son and your life as you go. Keep smiling - a positive and grateful attitude goes a long way. please know you and your son are worth it, no matter what anyone thinks or whatever mistakes you may have made.
about the family - i still love them - i needed to grow up and become independent. it's a tough and wonderful journey. All the best with yours. you CAN do it.

Answer 3

Since you don't have a place to stay it sounds like you dont have any close friends who can put you up for a little bit while you get on your feet. Hopefully you have a job and some money. If not, do that first. Finding a place is hard. If you live near a college look for students looking for roommates. That wil be cost efficent for rent. I was 18 when I got out of boarding school and I signed out and needed a place to stay because my parents wouldn't take me back and I was still pissed off at them for putting me there in the first place. There is a university in a town near where I grew up and The reant is cheaper because of that and having roommates helps too. It might suck for a while, but it will give you a place to stay for now. Definatly get a job.
Have you thought of military? Can you find someone to take of your son for 6 weeks? Thats how long basic training (the easy version of boot camp) is for the air force. I am 21 ans in the air force. You'll get paid more since you have a kid and it's not that hard. really, it's not. You will have money, food and a home immediatly after basic training for you and your son. You'll have a job that you "can't" get fired from. (you don't get "fired" in the military)

Answer 4

I have not been in that situation and it makes me sad that your family can't accept you the way you are, but my dad's family is very judgemental and I know they would act the same way with me if I were in your shoes. Thank god my mother is (and my father was) the kindest, most loving and accepting person I know.

Have you any friends you can stay with for awhile until you get back on your feet? Are there any other family members you can contact - maybe someone who doesn't share the same feelings about you as your other family members? An aunt or uncle or maybe your grandparents? You could also look into women's shelters. What about your son's father's family? Are they in your life and on good terms with you?

You could always try talking with your family again.

I really am sorry. I wish I could help more.

Answer 5

first, i don't have kids but, i have seen many people go through this. a lot of factors come into play here. mainly, what you are doing with your life. i don't mean to pass judgment or get personal but, your child should be your main priority. you should make it clear to your family that you are doing everything that you can for the child. also, with how the child's life has gone can bear a lot of weight on the family. also, the mistakes show a lot of you if you have done the same things repeatedly. if you show them that you have learned and are trying to get whatever is wrong in your life straightened out again, they should respect that. however, most families want to see that you are doing your best. i hope the best for you and your son. stubbornness may come into play because you say you do what you want to do. if you are going out a lot and leaving your son with them, they may feel that you are not taking your parental responsibilities like an adult. again, i am not passing judgment. it just helps to remember that your son is number one and the choices you make and the actions you take will affect him for the rest of his life regardless of whether they are good or bad. best of luck and i hope you can get to your family and they will understand.

Answer 6

I have a room mate that was in a similar situation. She is 22 with 2 children! She had nowhere to go and was sleeping in her car with a 2 year old and pregnant. That's when she grew up.

I agree with the others. Find a job, keep it. Check out agencies willing to offer you assistance unti you can stand on your own two feet. If you are truly changed (or willing to change) then you can at least try without family help.

BTW...where do you live? I mean...which state?

Answer 7

i think of conversing to them could help even yet it must be awkward. basically attempt to tell them what took place and that no longer something replace into happening and it wasn't what it regarded and convey regret. different than that i think of you're good to be extra worried approximately your chum. He feels like a sturdy guy. So i could communicate over with him and be particular he's nice. do no longer concern too lots what the family contributors thinks. in the event that they are non secular catholics and offended they could supply what you're saying too lots concept. in the event that they they are confident they observed some thing extra there. do no longer concern it will blow over. And it wasn't your fault. that should ensue to all of us. maximum suitable of success :)

Answer 8

When i was 17 i had a disregard to the rules and ended up pregnant and my family threw me out. completely would not let me live with them so i ended up going to my boyfriends home to live with him, wich turned out he was abusive so i divorced him. it took my family years to see i wasnt a "unruly" kid agian before they accepted me back into the fold (which i still get called the black sheep).

it's all about trust. Proving to them that you are an adult and are trying to change. It's cruel how they are doing that to you and i fully understand, but surely they wont let thier immediate kin be homless??

But also, it'a according to the kind of mistakes that you have made. I know a family that wouldn't let thier drug addicted son come back regardless what he did (even going to church). Some families are like that though.

I really don't know what to tell you to do to make them believe. I had the hardest time doing that myself. It just took time.

Answer 9

For the someplace to stay part, take your parents' address book and call all their friends. The ones that have a one-upmanship relationship with your 'rents will be the first ones to take you in just to make them look bad. And your parents will take you back in themselves out of shame, if someone offers to take you in that are higher on the social totem pole.
Call these people even if you don't know who they are. They'll remember YOU. Call them all.
You'll get back on your feet, make your parents look bad, and be The Angel to a whole social network. (But be silly when no one's looking)

Answer 10

The first thing is get a job and keep it. the second thing is put a roof over your sons head. The third is going to be hard but its time to do the right thing and that is grow up. yea partying is fun but you have a son now. Its time to think about him.