I love her but lately she's gained weight and I'm not as attracted to her. It may be shallow, but I'm not attracted to overweight people, so sue me.
She's started to ask questions...
any suggestions?
2006-06-17 21:42:19 · 17 answers · asked by GobleyGook 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
be honest
just tell her you'll have patience as long as she makes an effort
after all, physical attraction is a key part of a relationship
2006-06-17 21:52:03 · answer #1 · answered by viking_transplant 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt say anything.
1. Its rude (esp. to girls if they are told they are either getting bigger or are big)
2. You could just start doing things that are good for both of you and say that you are trying to better your life and live longer.
Women are very sensitive to things like that. Do you know if there is anything wrong in her life? family problems? is she Depressed? is there a certain time in the month when she eats more than normal?
There could be many different reasons for her gaining weight. and if you were to say something to her about that she would most likely chew you out, break up with you, talk to her friends about it and they would blame your for her low self thought, blame you for more weight that she gains, bad relationships, etc. So you saying something could cause a lot more problems sooner or later and if you tell her while her Aunt Flow is around/around the corner she will eat more and...well things can get really nasty.
Just start eating, cooking different for the both of you and things will change and most likely she will do the same and catch on once you start dieting her self.
2006-06-17 21:57:47 · answer #2 · answered by . 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to lose her completely, tell her point blank that she needs to go on a diet.
Instead of being so blunt and unkind to your gf, why don't you suggest that the both of you go on a diet. Yes - I know - you don't need to lose any weight - but she does. Let her know that you want to be healthy so the both of you can spend a lot of time together.
Try to find out if she is unhappy - maybe she is gaining weight because she is unhappy about something and is eating to compensate.
See if she will join one of these weight watcher kind of groups because she could easily cheat when you two are not together.
If you suggest to her that you will leave her if she doesn't lose weight, then she might just start eating more.
Good Luck!
2006-06-17 21:48:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say exactly what you think... its up to you wether or not you want to give it a loving tone or just a plain awful truthful tone.
I'd give it to her straight.
"Honey.... you are getting pretty fat. Maybe you should go on a diet, or start working out.....actually do both of those things... 'cause I'm starting to lose the attraction for you".
If she really loves you.... she'll only get pissed for a little while... but I swear to God... that little bit of pain you gave her, will put her asss in the gym, and she'll get hot again.
If she doesn't love you enough.... she'll probably hit you, and never talk to you again.
Unless you really kiss some asss afterward.
Now if you put it nice and easy... and hint at the idea.........the broad will try for a while, but give up quickly... not realizing that you are about to dump her for a better younger hotter version.
2006-06-17 21:51:20 · answer #4 · answered by Yankee Trash 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ouch, this one is a burner. A woman doesn't like to be told she needs to go on a diet thats a dead ringer. Best way to handle this situation is this, take her on a walk, like a romantic walk, try going to places that doesn't handle a lot of greasy foods, if she asks do I look fat? Easiest let down is this is say: hun, you know I love you no matter what you look like, but if you feel that you need to diet, we'll do it together." Or you can plainly put it this way, a little dear, are you stressed about something is there something we need to talk about? I don't want your health to go downhill b/c of your weight or your self esteem. Let her know that you will be right beside her helping her lose it.
2006-06-17 21:54:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
to get a woman to loose weight and get in shape. you man, have to go on a diet with her and invite her to workout with you, enjoyable too btw. don't tell her shes fat overweight or out of shape. simply get her into shape by being her activity buddy as well as her bf. rm women are the most self conscious about their bodies, so always make her feel great about her 1st and her body always
2006-06-17 21:50:27 · answer #6 · answered by Mr Spock 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah that is shallow
there is no way you can do it tellin her will ruin her self confidence and she will only dump you anyway
its like her sayin you need to get ur hands on a penis enlarger cos no offence im not attracted to guys with small *****
2006-06-17 21:47:20 · answer #7 · answered by bitter sweet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell Her Shes A Fat Pig...Or Dont Take Her Out As Much
2006-06-17 21:45:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your a jerk!!be lucky she even puts up with you.Im sure your no''10'.Maybe there is something about you she hates too.You ever think about that?So look in the mirror before you judge another.
2006-06-17 21:54:27 · answer #9 · answered by wildblonde_23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're stupid..
lets face it, you were in love with her body, and not her. unless she's gained 50lbs, she can't possibly be fat.
However, if you inisist on being shallow, which you are, just be honest with her. She needs to find someone who loves her for her, and not her body.
2006-06-17 21:47:23 · answer #10 · answered by sansjazz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋