I am 21,I got pregnant but I cant keep it. Should I get an abortion or put it up for adaption when it is born?

Answer 1

Adoption after all its not the fetus/babies fault your pregnant, its yours so why punish it with a death sentence of abortion???

If your in Australia I would love the gift of your child! Not everyone is fortunate to be able to have a child. ;) If your interested you can email me on [e-mail]

Good Luck

Answer 2

I got pregnant at 19 and the father left me and told me to have an abortion. I financially and mentally was in no way ready to keep a child, but in the next 9 months you do a lot of growing up. It's not as hard as I thought it would be. I'm a single mom, a fulltime college student, I work part time, and I still have a social life. You can do it. I had an abortion scheduled, but when I got there I just couldn't do it and I am soo glad I stepped up.

Just think about keeping it. There is plenty of support for young mothers through hospitals and communities.

But if you are going to go with either abortion or adoption, go with adoption. But I'm telling you, once you have an ultrasound and hear the heart beat for the first time, you'll fall in love.

Answer 3

I am in the medical profession and have counseled other women in your position. My best advice to you would be to consult with a counselor about this matter. A counselor can give you a firmer picture of your options and what each will entail. If you are interested in having an abortion, I'm sure you will want to know some sane and accurate medical advice without judgment. If you decide that adoption is the right course for you, I'm sure you'll want the same--accurate, non-judgmental information from a reliable source.

I don't know where you live, but you can call a number of different places to talk to people who want to help you, and who don't want to judge you. This is YOUR decision, and please don't let anyone tell you what to do with your life. You're the only person who can decide what's right for you. Please keep in mind that judgment has no place in medicine, and if you feel your counselor at your local doctor's office or anywhere else is not providing this, then don't hesitate to speak up.

Here's the number for America's Pregnancy Hotline: [phone]. They also have a website which I will link below.

Depending on what state you live in, there are a ton of resources available to you. There are many more places that will give you help if you need it. Please feel free to update your post with your state, or to ask another question. I wish you the best of luck.

Answer 4

Depends on your situation in why you think you can't keep it and belief and morals and feelings....

Abortion is not something I would personally do..I'm sure that as time went on I would always wonder on the sex of the child and the personality and all the inquisitive things like who they look like. It is the not knowing that would get to me..

Adoption is a chance for all the people wanting a child but not been able to conceive to have their oppourtunity. Perhaps your situation is bad at the moment but in the 9 months of incubation it may be different and you may be able to keep the child or maybe you could form a bond with it while carrying and decide to keep it..

Give this child their right to life..they say things happen for a reason..give him/her a chance you never know..they may have been conceived to come up with the cure for cancer...or to achieve world peace...with an abortion you will never know..adoption it may bring the happiness to another person and a change in the world somewhere!!

Answer 5

My mom was in the same predicament when she was pregnant with my sister. She gave her up for adoption when she was born. In those days they didn't have open adoptions, so it was much harder. Now the birth mother can stay in touch with the child forever!
I am glad that my sister got to experience life with a loving family and that my mom later got to see her when she was a teenager and very happy.
I don't condemn anyone who has had an abortion. I only know that 4 of my close friends who have had them, were never the same after. A piece of them was gone along with the baby that would never be born. It still makes me so sad.

Answer 6

Look at it this way... you messed up. Your punishment is 9 months of carrying a child, which means no alcohol or smoking. It's like you're being grounded for REALLY dropping the ball. Giving the kid up for adoption will be hard... but it is probably physically and psychologically better for you. Plus, I've never met an adopted kid that said "man, I really wish my mom hit the big red button."

On the bright side, you can have sex for the next 9 months without the fear of getting pregnant. And in a few months you can make some serious cash in pregger porn, if you're into that kinda thing.

Answer 7

Do which decision you can personally live with... This is the type of decision that you need to make on your own (assuming a professional will help you discuss either decision)

I know in Australia you can't have an abortion without consulting a psychologist etc. I imagine adoption will be the same.

Answer 8

I think you should definitely put if up for adoption if you cant keep it. There are too many couples in the world that cant have children. I myself have been trying for about 3 years to get preg and still no success. I would love to get preg but it just doesnt seem possible. Please take this into consideration before you do something that you will probably regret the rest of your life and especially in the future when you are ready for children how will you feel looking at them knowing that you killed one of your own. At least make some other couple happy. I think it would make you feel better about yourself in the long run.

Answer 9

that is absolutely something that no other person on this earth can answer for you, except yourself. nobody else will have that maternal bond with your baby except for you. even another woman who has had children of her own and might even be very close or caring to the two of you, still will not share the depth of connection that you and only you can have with children that you bear from your own body.

don't listen to any one else's selfish or completely out of line opinion, advice, or choice. you know what you feel, the choices you can or can't live with and what is best for your life and the life of an offspring from your sole creation and physicality, whether it might or might not be yet.

there are no guarantees in a decision like this from any aspect, no matter what path you choose to take. any choice you make can go the way it's expected to or not go the way it's been planned, it's a 50-50 chance of fate. you have to do what's best for you, not just at present, but your entire life overall and a baby's life overall. to be or not to be.........and then..... when to be or when not to be. there's benefits and disadvantages to any decision you are going to have to make. do what you know you can live with and what a possible child can live withor even perhaps should not live, considering all present and future circumstances.

Answer 10

Abortion B4 Its To Late...Ya Child Grow Up N Will Hate Ya Guts

Answer 11

You're 21....you CAN do anything you want to. If you don't want the child, then give it up for adoption. Pregnancy is a incredible experience if you allow it to be. It's not that baby's fault you didn't use protection or that it failed. That's the risk you take having sex. Don't take an innocent life because it's not fitting into your plans right now. Someone else would be delirious with joy to take on your mishap, trust me. Don't kill it!