iv decided to runaway am i making a good decision?

Question

i am 16 and my family hates my guts

Answer 1

Why do they hate you. And you're only 16 where are you going to go. Bad things happend to teens your age on the streets. If you still decide to runaway, at least be smart enough to go to a runaway shelter, they can help you. Good luck

Answer 2

It can be hard at that age. I am 21 and when I was that age I wanted to. Before I got the chance to, my parents put me in boarding school my last 2 years of high school after I got kicked out of public school and private school. The boarding school was a kind of place you could only escape from when you turn 18 and legally "sign out" because you are an adult. As far as you... I hope you have a job and have a saving and checking account and some friends who are older and can get an apartment. If not (probably your case) this is what you should do... Talk things over with your family. Be open, calm, and be an adult about it. Ask why they treat you the way they do, and accept their answers when them blame you for your actions. Being an adult means you need to accept responsibility for your actions. After all that if it doesn't work (I don't know your situation at home) and you don't want to wait and save money. Find a person (probably an adult) that your parents would NOT be pissed about you staying with. If you run away to a friend's place whose parents let them do anything then it will make things worse. If you don't know an adult then try seeing if there are any shelters around. You will have food and shelter and you will get a taste of reality while your parents have time to think about their own behavior. The most important thing is to think like an adult. Don't do this just for revenge. Be calm and think of all aspects of everyone who is involved.

Answer 3

You have to give more details. On what are you basing the "my family hates my guts" statement? This is rare, by the way. It's rare even for a family to not care. Many families are lousey at caring but most do care. Where are you planning to go? Will you continue school?

If there are problems at home, you can legally become an emancipated minor at the age of 16. In other words: If your family tries to get you back you can go through the court system to gain your freedom from them. Do your research before taking this step.

I was an emmancipated minor. I now have my own children and I would say that if there is any way to work things out, do it! Get the school social worker involved if you have to or even D.C.F. I hate to recommend them but if there is abuse occurring and you want to stay they will definately shake things up and your family will probably be ordered into counseling.

Running can become a habit and it's not a good one to carry through life. There is definately a time to run but there are also so many times when you have to have the courage to stand your ground. Additionally, success is a building process. Contrary to what most kids believe, it does not happen magically. Your best chance to launch yourself into the adult word successfully is to have the financial support of your parents while you're finishing shcool and going to college or starting a new job. Without this support and the current condition of the economy, if you leave home now you might be playing "catch up" for the rest of your life...

Answer 4

No darling, that would be a very foolish thing to do. I don't care how bad you think it is at home, unless you are being sexually or physically abused, or going without food and utilities, it is never bad enough to runway. Where do you plan to live-on the streets? Do you have it in you to be a prostitute? To hitchike and put your life and your body in jeopardy? It takes more money than you can make without being a prostitute and getting AIDS to live. An apt., utilities, food, buy a car, car ins, health ins., gas, clothes. You won't make enough money for these let alone money to have any fun with. Besides, most fast food restaurants won't hire you with a diploma or a GED. Don't be foolish. This is your future you are thinking about throwing away. All your opportunities to improve your life when you graduate school and leave will be gone. Don't do it. Don't argue-I know it's hard. Help around the house-yes you should and you know it. Help clean and wash-without being asked. Do your homework. Pass. Don't stay out all night or for days. Make life easy on yourself. Don't make it worse. You will only hurt yourself and make everyone in the family miserable. It is hard being a parent. We really do try our best to do what is best for you. Most of us love and want our children. But as a teenager, you can't see the big picture. We have already been your age and have either done what you want to do or have seen others do it and make mistakes. We know the consequences.
You think you do but you don't. Trust me, it is hard as h--- out here. You don't want to be out here until you really have to.

Answer 5

Certainly not.

I suggest you go to your school counselor and talk about the issues at hand. Then, tell your parents the concerns you have about your life and get them to understand you need some help dealing with what is happening to you.

Running away only sets you up for failure. The world is much harsher than your parents could ever be. There have been thousands of young people killed though out history, all would have lived had they not put themselves at the mercy of strangers.

Last ditch effort, if you won't heed this advise, look into getting emancipated. You will see just how hard you will have to work at being your own support in life. For some it can be good and for others, not so good but at least this way, you will be legal.

Answer 6

I once wanted to run away too when i was about 13. I had enough of being blamed for everything and my sis getting praises.I too thought my family hated my guts cus I got scolding all the time. But when I packed my bag, got some food from the fridge and was cycling away, I stopped and turned around back home. Why? Cus I didnt want to be out alone. I had no where to go and wasnt even sure my frens would allow me to stay without their parents calling my parents informing them where I am...So listen, your not making a goo decision. Talk to your family. Im sure your parents loves you and doesnt want to lose you and endangering yourself if u were to run away. Family is family. Each family has their set of problems but running way wont help. Talk it through.

Answer 7

Only you can say if it is a good decision. If you can support yourself, pay your own rent, have a stable job, can feed yourself and still have time to party and chill, add to that the fact that you are happy, then you made a good decision. But if you can't do at leat one of the stuff above then you better pack up and go back home. You may have had a misundertsnading but always remember that parent would do the best things for their children. They wouldn't harm them. If ever they are offending you ort hurting you, tell them so. Tell them that you have felt this and that and try to work things out. Parents are always their whether they hate you or not.

Hope to be of help! Good luck and God Bless!

Answer 8

don't run away you got two more years with your family. stay real busy so that you won't have to be at home to listen to them. it's the summer go out and find a job so that when you do turn 18 you can just leave and live on your own. i am pretty sure that your family does not hate your guts they may be mad at you but they could never hate you, your something that they made!! when you run away where are you gonna go, who is gonna feed you think about things like that before making that kind of decision!! they love you, please make the right choice..

Answer 9

I'm 21 and my family hates my guts. But i can't afford to move out of my parents place. Just ignore them, save some money til you can move out, and then leave. I ran away to my bf's house when i was 16, and my parents called the cops on me (which achieved nothing). Your parents will get worse if you "runaway". Just quietly save your money, and find a friend or two who also want to move out, and do it together. It may take you 6 months, but atleast you'll have somewhere to go, and money to back yourself up. Goodluck.

Answer 10

Absolutely not! It's a cruel world out there, and I know you probably think you're too smart for anything to happen to you, but no matter how smart you are, you're not that smart. Ilive in Las Vegas where bodies turn up all the time in dumpsters, hotel rooms, and of course the desert. Don't do it.

No matter how bad you think things are, there are sensible adults that you can talk to for advice. There are youth counseling groups that you can seek out in your own community. There are pastors, priests, or rabbis that you can speak to. If you can't speak to your own parents or caregivers, try speaking to the parents of your friends. There's always another choice, honey love! Go for it. It will change your life for the better.