You people dont understand. I have given her everything she wanted to the extent that she didnt need to ask her parents for anything. I love her soo much more that life it self but when i asked her for a break yesterday. she was shocked and said she would call me .. but she dint call yet. i'm sad
2006-06-17 20:37:59 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i hope she didn't use you, you sound like a really nice person
2006-06-17 20:40:26 · answer #1 · answered by Melissa D 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you have been possibly a bit of a "doormat" to this girl. Sorry--but there is such a thing, and it sounds like you may have been it. It sounds like you have lived every moment hanging on her next word. No matter how sincere you are, it does tend to make people bored, and take you for granted. In fact , there is legitimacy to their boredom--if you are SO tuned in to them, they no longer have a truly autonomous, self-directed person to interact with. They are never truly surprised, never disappointed.
Love is not about suffering if you away for more than a second, or sacrificing everything for another's whims.You will suffocate, or she will. I don't know if you are capable of it, but I'd say take a step back--go hiking for a few days without consulting her, say no to something, do something you've been NOT doing, because she's not into it. Don't call--or at least leave several days between calls. In short, get back to YOU a bit--the you that isn't ALL about her. I don't guarantee it'll win her back , but do guarantee it'll up your chances a LOT, and that if it doesn';t work out, you'll be better prepared to handle it. Good luck :)
2006-06-18 03:59:20 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am confused by your story. What sort of break were you asking for, what words did you use? What do you think shocked her. Is there a chance that its a communication/ misunderstanding problem.
Sounds like a very intense relationship with alot of money and emotions invested. Sometimes in this kind of relationship you have to be assertive (using compassionate communication) to have your own needs met.
2006-06-18 03:44:56 · answer #3 · answered by Eleanor S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one is special enough to love more than life itself except for yourself! Sounds like you are putting way too much into someone that is not willing to give you all of themselves.
2006-06-18 03:46:30 · answer #4 · answered by Kookala 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let it rest for a while if she wants she will call you.
Don't try to force the issue. If you feel sad call another Friend and talk to them to cheer you up.
2006-06-18 03:41:20 · answer #5 · answered by Teacher 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
re-look at the relationship and see why u wanted a break in the first place. she is upset, and probable confused. email and let her know how u really feel about the whole thing.
2006-06-18 03:45:04 · answer #6 · answered by nothere 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you two need a little space to realize what you two really have for each other. love is more than material goods. but if it is true love you already know this.
2006-06-18 03:41:10 · answer #7 · answered by theswarm666x 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IT IS REALLY UNFAIR WHEN YOU GIVE SOMEONE EVERYTHING YOU HAVE AND THEY STILL WANT MORE EVEN THO I CAN SIT HERE AND TELL YOU SOUNDS LIKE YOUR BETTER OFF WITH OUT HER YOU HAVE TO LISTEN TO YOUR HEART IT WILL BE THE ONE TO LET YOU KNOW WHAT TO DO
2006-06-18 03:43:41 · answer #8 · answered by crazyforcoke34 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you're showing her that you need her too much... stop acting that way... make her need you too..
2006-06-18 04:08:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋