my mom is making me play basketball and i really really really dont want to. she says that it will help me with my "self esteem" and stuff like that. And i tell her that i dont want to, but she keeps on making me and telling me that if i dont she'll send me away or something. Am I right or is she?
2006-06-17 20:09:47 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
My goodness, she is really serious about you playing basketball isn't she?
she is telling you, that if you don't play ball she will send you away. This is supposed to boost your self esteem. Is this the self esteem she is tearing down while explaining you are to do this to please her. whether you are interested or not. And if you don't please her she is going to send you away!
I can't do anything to help you get what you want from this situation because she is your mother and you are under her authority.
What I can do is tell you that your self-esteem should not depend on what anyone else does or says to or about you. You are who you are and that is okay with most everyone in the world, except a few who want something from you.
But for the record and to answer the point of your question, to my way of thinking and in my opinion your mother is terribly wrong in this situation. This is not something that is a have to do in life and there are so many of them to come for you I am surprised that she is forcing you to do something you absolutely do not have to do.
2006-06-17 20:55:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
your mom loves u very much, and i definetly understand where u r comming from! as i have noticed with my mother, most people have children to live thru them. they want thier children to have better lives than their own, no matter how great it might have been for them. a true parent always wants more and better things for thier kids! nothing is too good for us! but they don't know that sometimes this intrudes on our own hopes, dreams and ultimate decisions. so ur mother seems concerned about u and she has noticed how u feel about urself. she should not threaten to send u away, that is not right. it is ur decision obviously, and if i were in ur situation, which i was when i was a freshmen about 6 years ago, i would continue to tell her i don't want to do play on the basketball team, but i am intersted in other after school activities such as drama, choir, the swim team, boxing, the debate team or track...or whatever it is u really find interesting at school. u are ur own person and u need to make ur own decisions. ur mother will eventually remember that! gl2u!
2006-06-18 03:23:57 · answer #2 · answered by ~Lauralyn~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom is right, being involved in something can help with your self esteem but only if you enjoy what you are doing. Maybe suggest something else you would like to do when you tell her not basketball. That way she doesn't believe you are giving up on yourself.
2006-06-18 03:17:49 · answer #3 · answered by Donna C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you go and try out for the team play stupid act as if you don't know **** about the game. but i have played basketball my entire life and it is great it is a great way to take your anger out and i think that you would probably feel higher than others. so just give it a try or find something else that your interested in and have a talk with your mom but if that doesn't work than jus play stupid...
2006-06-18 03:30:46 · answer #4 · answered by YOU DON'T KNO ME!! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is asking you to play football because she loves you a lot. When she says ''self esteem'' means your self confidence.
People who are tall feel confident while dealing in day to day life.
By playing football your height will increase. Listen to Mom and play football.
2006-06-18 03:16:03 · answer #5 · answered by Bolan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom wants what is best for you. Basketball is a fun, fast-paced sport. It's great exercise and you'll get to meet new people. Loosen up, have some fun, and listen to your mother ;)
2006-06-18 03:14:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're right. You shouldn't have to do anything that you don't want to. You may not be interested in sports, and her forcing you to do it could result in you being bad at it cos you're not good at it, and your failures would only damage your self esteem.
2006-06-18 03:14:17 · answer #7 · answered by smurfette_au2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its very bad for your self esteem that your mum is threatening to send you away if you don't obey...
and I think you are right, if you hate it that much it wont help you feel better about yourself.
2006-06-18 03:19:54 · answer #8 · answered by Kathy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find another hobby that is in the same general time as Basketball. Maybe she chose that sport because it worked with her time schedule.
2006-06-18 03:24:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a simple rule in life:
Love whatever you do OR Do whatever you Love.
She is your mother and if you can have some trust in her, try it out.it will help you in staying fit, making friends, and develop a fighting and competitive spirit in you...no harm in trying.
2006-06-18 03:15:02 · answer #10 · answered by ashu1_sharma 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋