My family/friends say that part of the reason I can't get a date is because I'm too selective, but I don't ask for outrageous things. I want a nice, caring, funny, conversationalist that doesn't mind that I'm a bit competitive and aggressive. I know I deserve a great mate so why should I settle for something less than that? Besides I'm selective about the friends I have and they have all turned out to be life long friends that are always there for me...so doesn't logic follow that I would pick a great SO too? If I meet someone and can tell after an hour that the relationship has no long term potential why "waste" mine and their time on continuing the relationship?
2006-06-17 19:27:47 · 7 answers · asked by captain crash 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are absolutely right. What might be throwing your friends and family is that there are not that many people out there that can "read people" as quickly as you can. Stick with your instincts, like you said--- they have worked for you so far.
2006-06-17 19:37:22 · answer #1 · answered by jane b 1 · 14⤊ 4⤋
I think you have a good way of thinking. Your family and friends are probably just worried about you, however. After all, if you interact with more people, you might learn from them what you want and don't want, and therefore become even better at selecting your mate. In addition, what you want might not necessarily be the kind of person that's best for you. Your friends and family know you very well, so I suspect they are trying to act in your best interest. I hope you can find someone that both you and your loved ones agree on.
2006-06-17 19:33:08 · answer #2 · answered by drshorty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think its great that you know what you want in a man but you learn alot of things through experience and if u dont have those couple of relationships that dont work how can u know how to handle something in the relationship that will last a lifetime. dont settle for anything less but test out your options cuz they guy your looking for and that u see only flaws at first could end up being the one for you
2006-06-17 19:32:30 · answer #3 · answered by the quiet one 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your family/friends are probably still living in the "every woman NEEDS a man" era. Your point of view makes a lot more sense than that does. :)
(And if I may offer a bit of advice, get to know some geeky guys. They're less likely to screw you around, and they actually try to *gasp* understand you. :P)
2006-06-17 19:33:50 · answer #4 · answered by onyxflame 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes why waste your time with someone you know you don't want (and probably hurt them).
otherwise you'll be stuck with the wrong one when the right one becomes available.
2006-06-17 19:31:27 · answer #5 · answered by duuh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you are not expecting your SO to be 'perfect', there is nothing wrong with ensuring you have the best.
2006-06-17 20:00:15 · answer #6 · answered by vivmaiko 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you.
2006-06-17 19:33:30 · answer #7 · answered by neener68 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋