fellows muslims out there...?

Question

how do you believe in your religion when you u see so many hatred being spread in the name of our religion ... whether we like it or not there are verses in our holy book that confuses me ..
to fellow muslim sisters what is your thoughts when you see verses that allow men to hit a women according to his judgement..(such verses scares me)
please try to explain...
to fellow non-muslims please don't give hateful remarks about our religion... i am not asking that..
to muslims to i am not asking you to discourage the beliefs that other non-muslims practice..

Answer 1

I don't see as much hatred for Islam as I see people having problems with religion itself. It is obvious that greater number of people logged on have Christian background even if they may be Athiests by profession and thus ignorant and insensitive towards Islam.

Why should you feel bad about what a religious text can't explain clearly. Follow your conscience and be good to people around... If religion is true it will become clear with time and if there is a problem in their you will get to know with time.... If there is God he wont be so horrible to punish u for this... U seem to be a good hearted person! Take care!

Answer 2

Every verse you read has a context. If read out of context they mean different things. Again a verse read without its continuity in relation to the preceding or succeeding words will sound different than its intended meaning.
The media is taking full advantage of the ignorance of people regarding these matters and is quoting the Quran out of context to malign Islam.
Half-knowledge is also dangerous. I suggest you clarify your doubts verse by verse from some learned person. It will be benefit you and may be guide others through you.
As for hitting the wife... adequate replies have been given by others on the forum.

Answer 3

If you take the meaning for "beat" then think of the non Muslims women being beaten, are their husbands obeing the Qur'aan?
Women all over the world is still being beaten. Again if you take the meaning to be "beat" then understand that the Qur'aan did not say beat, but try the two options first, then if there is no other way then you have your option left.

And by the way, make a move take your dictionary, see the meaning of the verb DARABA, you will find hundreds of meaning, then compare what would you say to a person complaining about being beaten.
Would you say worst thing or good thing to relief her?

The dictionary says to beat, strike, hit, shoot, fire, shell, bombard, play, make music, type, sting, seperate, part, impose, to turn away from, leave, forsake, abandon, avoid, or shun. and lots more
Now read the verse again
4:34 And if you fear disloyalty and ill conduct on their part, advise them, refuse to share their beds, and turn away from them.
4:34 And if you fear disloyalty and ill conduct on their part, advise them, refuse to share their beds, and leave them or abandon them.
If you complain about being beaten I think the result would be not to be beaten, So why althou having hundreds of meaning you choose only the beating one.

Answer 4

Nchanting P is right where women are concerned. When you read a verse, try to understand the context and read its historical background. Some verses seem irrelevant today, but try to understand the broad rather than the literal meaning. Read a good translation like that by Abdullah Yusuf Ali.

Answer 5

Hitting a woman in islam is only required if she is having an extra marital affair. Also this is the last option for a man to hit his wife. At first he just tells her what she is doing is wrong, even after this she doesnt listen, he has been told not to sleep with her. Then if she continues to go on the same way, then the hitting part comes in. But that does not mean hit her till she is all black and blue.. God dislikes most is, Divorce.

Answer 6

Fact number One: Qura'an is the Word of Allah...do you believe in that???‎
Fact number Two: Allah is The only Creator of the entire Universe. do you believe in ‎‎that???‎
Fact number Three: Allah knows humans deep inside, their weaknesses and ‎‎strengths....do you believe in that???‎
Fact number Four: Allah is the Most Just and the Most Fair for His Slaves,...do you ‎‎believe in that??? moreover, do you believe that we are His slaves???‎

First: If you believe in all the above, then you are a Muslim and a true believer. So I ‎‎am prepared to take the orders of Allah blindly without questioning.‎
Second: Allah has given this permission for true Muslims, men and women. For men ‎‎they are not supposed to use it unless it is in the defence of the breaking of the family ‎‎and it should not be hurting to the woman, and no face slapping....so in fact you could ‎‎see that it is not a beating as you call it. If the man uses this authority, His punishment ‎‎will be from Allah, do you accept the judgment of Allah and His punishment..??? on ‎‎the other hand, would you like to go to the police and ask them to punish your ‎‎husband for such act...??? Who will be more fare to you ...????????‎
For a Muslim woman and a true believer, things do not have to come to this point, I ‎‎mean of the beating you call.‎
Islam has made it easy for the woman to take her husband to a Muslim Judge if he ‎‎abuses his authority.‎
So in short such rules are for true good Muslims who will deal with each other in the ‎‎way Allah has ordered them and as per the Teaching of Muhammad (PBUH).‎
Muhammad (PBUH) said, "...the best of you is the best with his wife, and I AM the ‎best among you..." have you ever read anywhere that our Prophet Muhammad has ‎ever " beaten" any of his wives. ??? even His enemies could not claim so or fabricate ‎such thing about HIM (PBUH)‎
Now, If you read about the present Christianity and Judaism, and what is written in ‎‎their books, you will find that the woman is just a piece of property or furniture, why ‎‎no one asks about that...???‎
Please let me know if you need references on the other religions.‎

Salam

Answer 7

it also says that a man close to allah(swt) will never hit his wife...the quran has an answer for eveything we go through in life...men in general no matter what religion love power and like many will focus on one little thing instead of the big picture

if you compare all the violence that happens on earth muslims are only resposible for a a little part of it...media is more fucuse on muslims or arabs than anyone else...in all groups of people there are some that do what they feel is right...majority of muslims are more focused on everyday life providing for their family, raising kids, going to school, buying groceries, etc.

ther is alot more to wats going on than what we see on the news

islam is here for all mankind and despite what everyone says it's a peaceful way of life that is reat for women

check out the link and do your own research instead of listening to other

Answer 8

i think you need to see that some verses may say this, but you probably looking at just that verse and not those that follow.
i think the media has got to you you have to admit.
why question the realigion? everything is there to our benefit and helps us when you look at it.
perhaps you need to shut off for just a little while from the world around and really look into islam, approach a learned person and really understand the realigion. and ignore the media. they just there to chase everyone away, including those that are already muslim.

Answer 9

I haven't practiced Islam in number of years but have a book by Hammudah 'Abd al 'Ati titled Islam in Focus. He explains in chapter 4 , i'll just quote pgs 114-115, he says
"Prophet have commanded kindness to women, it is the husband's duty to consort with his wife in an equitable and kind manner. One specific consequence of this Divine command is his responsiblity for the full maintenance of his wife, a duty which he must discharge cheerfully, without reproach, injury or condescension...A husband is commanded by the law of God to treat his wife with equity, to respect her feelings, and to show her kindness and consideration. She is not to be shown any aversion by the husband or subjected to suspense and uncertainity. A corollary of this rule is that no man is allowed to keep his wife with the intention of inflicting harm on her or hindering her freedom. If he has no love or sympathy for her, she has the right to demand freedom fromt he marital bond, and no one may stand in her way to a new life."
that is what the author of this book said, it is a good book and i would recommend it because he breaks a lot of things down to wear it is understandable. He does go on and says and explains a lot more. It was given to me so i don't know where to get it but amazon or another website might have it It is amana publications, their website www.amana-publications.com