my mom doesnt know i've been dating this guy for 3 months and 2 weeks!!! the race of him is african american.........i have NO problem of dating ANY BOY of a different race but my mom seems to have a problem with that!!!! i love him and he's brought up from a well-mannered family and EVERYTHING i think im just gonna let her figure it out and then try to explain that he's not like the other guys i've been with!!!!!! am i doin the right thing????
2006-06-17 19:13:54 · 9 answers · asked by a gurl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well my mom has caught me many time b4 and i think she'll understand as long as i prove it to her and she'll just say i dont think ur dad's gonna be happy with that but i just gotta let her know to PLEASE TRUST ME ON THIS ONE b/c he's wonderful and he's treated me like no other! but he's kinda gettin pissed cuz i wont tell her but thats not a big problem for us as long as we love eachother!
2006-06-17 19:27:31 · update #1
Its really nice to know that you have NO problem dating any boy of a different race. Shows how broad-minded and open hearted you are. Anyone would appreciate this mindset..frankly we hardly find such people these days. What matters most is "i love him" statement. Love is the one feeling on which a relationship will last. Ultimately, YOU have to live the life, ain't it? Not your mother, nor anyone for that matter. If you feel you are going to be happy staying with him, then damn all who object. Love is a precious feeling, if you are comfortable with the guy..go ahead. Be serious with what you think and do. Personally I wish from the bottom of my heart that you grow old with the guy. Have a good life.
2006-06-17 19:25:35 · answer #1 · answered by Chief of sinners 4 · 0⤊ 7⤋
Unfortunately while you are living under her roof and you are under 18 you don't have much say on who you date. I am sorry your mother feels that way, and I am glad you don't, but if she ever finds out you are hiding your relationship it might make matters worse for you. I would rather risk telling her. In would suggest you talk to another family member who is close to you and doesn't feel the same way as your mother about members of another race. The family member probably would know better how your mother might react rather than a stranger such as myself. Do you have a close aunt or grown up that you could talk to? If you do, have them help you talk to your mother.
2006-06-18 02:18:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
how old r u? if u're young... i think u're doing the right thing. after all, why make a fuss outta something u dont even know would last forever right? be happy with him and dont worry about mum. and she shouldnt worry either, it sounds too soon to worry. but u have to play your part. dont turn into some psycho daughther who feels that her mum wont understand and etc... be a better person to show your mum how being with this boy is helping you grow. a mum can't REALLY dislike a guy when they know he's a good influence, and only you can show your mum that.
2006-06-18 02:21:43 · answer #3 · answered by lil'sammy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl, you do what you feel is right. I mean you cant change everybody, but if you feel that if your mom found out that she might hurt you, whether its physically or not, then I think you need to kinda ease into it. Just talk around her like "I like black guys" Jokingly of course and let her know that just cause she has something against it doesnt mean that you do. Then PROVE to her that he is the boy you say he is
2006-06-18 02:18:03 · answer #4 · answered by texastreasure 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you better tell her!
She will be more angry if she found out through someone else, rather than from you directly.
Your mature discussion with her will show her how much you are turning into a mature individual who has put thought into the decision
2006-06-18 02:32:37 · answer #5 · answered by mary_not_cathy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm glad your not prejudice and hope and pray she is not also. It could be a hard life ahead of you but if you got what it takes go for it. God created us equally.
2006-06-18 02:22:25 · answer #6 · answered by ted b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you dont seem to be close to your mom not to be able to let her know. Is she ok with you dating. if so then let her know. she might surprise you.
2006-06-18 02:17:46 · answer #7 · answered by hot gurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, exactly right.
let it come out just when the conversation gets around there.
2006-06-18 02:16:20 · answer #8 · answered by leadbelly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen to your mother
2006-06-18 02:28:24 · answer #9 · answered by leprecaun18 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋