What should i do if i like an older woman?
im going 2 be 20 and she is around 30. im a student worker and she is a counselor. we work in a college. should i avoid this feeling or let her know? this has been in my mind so can some1 help me? what to do?
2006-06-17 18:52:58 · 16 answers · asked by Nas G 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would send her a greeting card in the mail, not anything that would set off her alarm bells that you might be a nut, just one saying that you are glad to know her, nothing mushy or romantic. Just a general card saying you like her as a friend.
She will be able to read between the lines from this.
But you won't be putting yourself out there on a limb for her to freak out and tell you she doesn't feel that way or some other embarrassing thing.
Make sure you mail it to her, don't just hand it to her or leave it on her desk. Mailing makes it like you put thought into it.
If she likes you "like that" she will get the message and let you know. If she doesn't, no harm done. She will just say "thank you" and leave it at that.
2006-06-18 12:32:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Don't hint around, she might get the wrong idea and think you're harrassing and/or stalking her. Be straight forward and say you're okay with it if she feels like it would interfere with your work relationship, but you think that you both would have a good time if you went to dinner or a movie together. Because you've left her an "out" if she's not interested without fear of repercussions later, she can answer truthfully, yes or no.
It never hurts to ask, just be mature if the answer isn't what you wanted. Good luck.
2006-06-18 02:13:45 · answer #2 · answered by tebssis 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure her (for lack of a better phrase) biological clock isn't ticking. She might expect more out of a relationship at this point in her life than you are. You want to be at the same place mentally to be with someone.
2006-06-18 01:57:23 · answer #3 · answered by krd12 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My opinion is to subtly let her know. If you are subtle and then she starts to return it get a little more bold. If she doesn't then back off or it could make your work life very uncomfortable. Good luck!
2006-06-18 01:57:36 · answer #4 · answered by Nikki H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd let her know. The worse that can happen is that she could say "no". But on the other hand, and she might say "yes".
But if anything do happen, just keep it outside of work. If you don't, that could cause problems.
2006-06-18 01:58:03 · answer #5 · answered by nitara_lust 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for it!
10 yrs. isn't that much of a difference.
If she feels the same way, than you both could have something most people only dream of.
2006-06-18 02:02:40 · answer #6 · answered by WatRuLknAt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is the big deal, for ages, men have always had relationships with younger women, so why can`t women have relationships with younger men?
I have had them before, and I enjoyed every minute of it.
2006-06-18 01:58:13 · answer #7 · answered by dukefritz79 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is not against school regs, and she is not married, than ask her out. I'm 27, and if a 20 yr old asked me out I'd say hell yeah. If I wasn't married.
2006-06-18 01:57:48 · answer #8 · answered by silent*scream 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if she likes you and you like her you two can make it work. My husband is 9 years older than me.
2006-06-18 01:56:50 · answer #9 · answered by Jules 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being a counselor, she might be the one to ask!
2006-06-18 01:56:21 · answer #10 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋