I want to ask this guy to go to a wedding with me. He is black and he's 16. im white and my family is kind of racist so what do i do becuase i really like him... and i think he might like me but im not sure..i dont want to rush anything.
2006-06-17 17:31:43 · 12 answers · asked by Beth H 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Your family is "kind of racist"... that's like being "a little pregnant", you either are or you aren't. I assume his is of another race?
If you really don't know him, don't invite him. Your family may really cause him to be uneasy and that would be terrible for him. Get to know him outside of this wedding.
2006-06-17 17:36:23 · answer #1 · answered by MadforMAC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are they racist in general, or racist against mixed relationships? I would talk to them, and tell them how you feel about him. Tell them that you don't see race as an issue for the people you like since times have changed. It might help if you introduced him to your parents, so they can see he's not such a bad guy. If they say no, then it's up to you wiether you'll bring him anyway. However, this may cause conflict. You might also want to tell your friend about your parents, so he can decide if he wants to deal with that. All in all, I think you should bring him. It might change them around.
2006-06-18 00:41:20 · answer #2 · answered by Marcus O 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A wedding seems like a bad place for it. He would be jumping into a lot of people he doesn't know very quickly with some girl he barely knows. Try and get an IM screenname if he has one to find out more about him.
2006-06-18 00:34:49 · answer #3 · answered by Mike 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Was he invited to the wedding or were you told you could bring a guest? Usually, the invitations are sent to friends & family of bride and groom. He won't know any one there (he could be very uncomfortable). I would ask him to do something else and get to know him better. Then introduce him to your family so they can get to know him too.
2006-06-18 00:50:05 · answer #4 · answered by early bird 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tel your family to grow up and be with who ever makes you feel good after all its your life and if the only thing they can find wrong with him is that he is black then they really have some issues but if your under 18 then you need to obay your parents wish's even though they are stupid but hey your almost 18 right
2006-06-18 00:37:06 · answer #5 · answered by rickherr10 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say ask him to go. Your family has to get over it, they have no right to be racist. If you want to spend time with him, you should.
2006-06-18 00:36:13 · answer #6 · answered by Maggie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
color should not be a promble and it is ok to bring a black 16 boy to a wedding
2006-06-18 00:44:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think it might be bad for this guy not knowing anyone and the family being the way they are. maybe if he knew the family it would be alright.
2006-06-18 00:37:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that it is fair that people are judged on the color of their skin, I think you should talk to your family and tell them how you feel. Also keep the bride in mind...it is her day.
2006-06-18 00:36:05 · answer #9 · answered by palmettogirl99 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask your family first and tell them how much he means to you if you can theninvite him if he thinks that you are rushing he will simply say no and goodluck
2006-06-18 00:36:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋