I babysit for a family, I know for a fact they make decent money ,but they are so cheap that thier 6 yr old daughter has Very few clothes and the ones she has are too small for her and she has to have help even buttoning her pants ,becuase they are so tight.... is there anything I could do?
2006-06-17 16:32:39 · 27 answers · asked by kate_mayci 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
It's summer....
Maybe they aren't going to buy clothes until school start.
Kids grow over night. .......
2006-06-17 17:00:36 · answer #1 · answered by ▒Яenée▒ 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
as the parent of a 6 yr old daughter, I would just mention to the parents that so and so is having a hard time buttoning her pants because they are tight on her belly. If you are babysitting for busy parents, they really may not realize that this is happening. My daughter when right from a size 5 to a size 7, even though I had brought size 6 clothes. Because I am working all the time, I never thought to check the detail of her pants after she had tried them on in the store. I thought that if she was having problems, she would come and tell me. My babysitter told me about my daughter's pants not fitting. My daughter is not to complain about anything, so had it not been for my sitter, my daughter might still be wearing tight pants.
2006-06-20 20:29:01 · answer #2 · answered by Someonesmommy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People are right, it is neglect to not provide adequate clothing for a child. The suggestion to politely and kindly point out that the girl's clothes are too small is really good. Also to offer to take her shopping, if they will give you money, tell them you will give them the change and the reciepts.
Of course buying her some inexpensive but nice outfits would be very sweet and is a perfectly acceptable option, don't feel obligated to do so. It is FINE to do, it but is not your resposibility, especially if you cannot afford it. Babysitting does not pay much, and you probably need to save for college or whatever!
I was in a similar situation once. I had friend who had a slightly larger child than the one in question, and I simply put her nice hand me downs in the little girl's drawers. Parents never even noticed. The situation was different, though, because they were quite poor and had to work all the time.
2006-06-18 19:22:21 · answer #3 · answered by shrubs_like_pretzles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say they are neglecting their daughter, which is a form of abuse. As to what you should do - that's a tough one. What I would say is not often what the truth is. Maybe they went out and bought her a bunch of new clothes today and you just don't know it.
Keep your eye on the situation and see if the poor kid ever gets some new clothes. You could also test the waters with the parents if you have some old clothes that would fit her - or get them at a thrift store and give them to the parents with the excuse that you (your little sister, your little cousin, etc.) don't need them anymore and they will fit her, blah blah blah. Or if you're real nice and generous - just go buy a couple cheap outfits at Target and tell the parents you saw them and just had to buy them for her. See how they react to that.
A kid should have clothes that fit comfortably. Do what you think is right.
Added Edit: Ohhh, Amanda up there had a good idea too.
2006-06-17 16:40:21 · answer #4 · answered by ♥Melissa♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask the little girl if she wants to go shopping for new clothes, she'll most likely say yes... Then, if you can, get her to tell her parents that she wants you to take her shopping for new clothes, hopefully they'll give you the money to take her shopping... In my opinion that is a form of neglect...
Other than that is she well taken care of? Do her parents work a lot? Does she go to daycare after school? Do her parents seem very busy? It is possible that her parents keep saying "next saturday we'll buy her new clothes" and then saturday comes and theres no time... They might in fact be very glad if you can take her... If its close to her birthday, buy her a lil pink outfit or something, it doesn't have to be too expensive, and say you saw it and thought she'd look sooo cute in it and had to buy her it!
I dunno really, its a tough situation... Luckily not one I've ever been in... If I were a mom and a babysitter told me my daughters clothes were too tight, I'd be sooo embarassed but also very glad that the person I trust with my child cares enough to notice...
2006-06-18 09:48:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about this? You can actually talk with your employer. Be polite and tell the child's mom that you have "noticed" that the child's clothes are becoming small. The parents might not be aware of the situation or might not even realize that there is a situation. You can even go out of your way to help; shop around thrift stores with the child, it is inexpensive and you get the satisfaction of knowing you did something nice for no other reason than you could.
2006-06-18 04:07:23 · answer #6 · answered by Grace 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well maybe go to an opp shop and buy some second hand clothing for her,or if you know anyone that has children a little bigger that might have second hand clothing that they don't want.Wash them and give them to the mother and say that you had these given to you and would she like them. Sometimes there are people who are very tight with there money and its hard to understand, but the little girl shouldn't have to suffer from tight clothing.Well at least they get her a baby sitter I guess that's one thing in there favor, some don't....
2006-06-17 16:42:11 · answer #7 · answered by lyndell v 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To not properly clothe your child is abuse in the form of neglect. With so many agencies out there to help with the expense, it is not hard to outfit your kids. They may not all be Tommy or Polo, but kids don't or shouldn't know or matter about the names on the clothes. I know many towns have Christian outreach programs that help specifially with expenses such as clothes. Try to get her some clothes from one of those or a thrift store. Maybe, your mom will let you buy her a cute outfit or two from Walmart or Target and when her parents see how happy the child is with her new clothes, maybe they will buy her some more. Also, opt for elastic waisted pants, they get more growing room out of them.
2006-06-18 11:44:25 · answer #8 · answered by AMY L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree, with most everyone, it is a form of abuse, If mom and dad make good money, there should be clothes to fit, I would go to them and say casually that she's growing like a weed and her clothes are too tight. Ask with their permission for extra money to take her shopping, tell them it will be a girls day out. If they are offended by this or upset by it, it really needs to be reported, it doesn't have to be by you. Just someone who notices. You could also drop a few hints by picking up a few things and SHOWING mom and dad how their little girl looks in new clothes that fit. I know it's a tough one, but she has to be thought of first. Good luck!!
2006-06-18 03:27:31 · answer #9 · answered by Staci G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's abusing there chiold,I would buy some new clothes for the girl,and say,it is a present and they just want give this to you,cause you're sooo great to babysit,and then see,if anything more extream has happened,if so,I would talk to the police,or something like that,but not because of pants!!
2006-06-17 17:04:06 · answer #10 · answered by cute_blonde-12 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kids are very expensive. I am a nurse and I make good money, but it is difficult to dress 2 kids and pay bills. I watch the newspaper and go to yard sales in affluent neighborhoods. You could mention to the parents their daughters pants are getting tight. They may be so busy working, that they don't realize this. If you don't care to spend a couple of dollars, buy her some pants that have elastic waistbands and will stretch as she grows.
2006-06-17 18:37:31 · answer #11 · answered by ohst87 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋