y are all parents not equal under the US flag shared parenting is the only way the best parent is both parents

Question

vision4children

in the absence of 3 factors and only these 3 substance abuse...neglect or abuse of the child and clinicly defined pathology all parents should be on equal ground

when these conditions exist then the courts should decide

when 2 people have kids they need to step up and do what ever it takes to raise that child

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if both parents are fit......equal is better

if one is deemed unfit they should still have time with their child but with certain controls in place

I fight for all parents

vision4children

Answer 1

Provided both are good at parenting, I agree 100%, especially when parents divorce and put differences aside. Unfortunately people lie for one reason or another That doesn't benefit the child. A grandchild is caught in the middle right now. One parent lies to the child. As the child matures, lies bring anger and hostility.

Answer 2

In some cases this is true. But you also need to consider cases where either the mother or the father are a destructive person within the family. Sadly it seems that because there are more men out there who have been abusive in one way or another, it is taken out on all men.

I come from a family with an abusive mother, but we ended up with her anyway because dad thought the best thing he could do was to continue to earn good money for our upkeep. In retrospect, I would have preferred to live with dad, but it also would have ruined his career if we were to do so.

So I do agree that in the majority of cases both parents being present is the ideal situation, but I also think the decision should be made on a case by case basis. This helps avoid child molestation, neglect, and assault when one parent, be it mother or father, really is not fit to be a parent.

Answer 3

Because the person with the most money can "buy" the lawyer & judge & win. I lost custody of my child 10 days ago to the man who abused me for 8 years & once held me & my kids at gunpoint w/a loaded 9mm for over 4 hours & because I can't afford an atty. They handed my son over w/out ever looking at all the restraining orders or my divorce decree. I also was told to sit down & be quiet by our "fair & upstanding" Carroll County TN judge Ron E. Harmon.

Answer 4

My husband had a lot of trouble trying to get shared custody of his daughter. Someone told him that he could not be a competant father since he wouldn't be with her all the time. Which is like saying military dads are not competent which is completely untrue. I think that shared parenting is the best way to go if it is a viable solution.
However, studies have shown that children with one parent can be as equally resilient and good in school as children with two parents.

Answer 5

Shared parenting is NOT always the best. All depends on the situation. I got divorced from my ex in 94 and we have 3 kids. Left the kids with him due to financial status and also could not take care of myself due to nervous breakdown from verbal abuse from ex. He is a good father but sometimes the other parent does not always communicate to the other parent as to what is going on in their child's life. Will definitely keep you in my prayers that it all works out

Answer 6

Don't think I fully understand the question, but I'll try anyway....Are you talking about custody of children when parents are divorced or separated????? If so, how can a child grow up in a stable home (unless you live in the same neighborhood and the child can attend the same school day after day) when bounced from home to home? I think that is why judges grant custody to mainly one parent.......

Answer 7

When one parent is on drugs and completely unstable, the best parent is other parent. I think I'm way better off with only one parent... I'm glad I only have my mom.

Oh and my dad isn't on drugs, just unstable and having a mid-life crisis and being a total jerk and hasn't talked to me much in 2 years, I was just making an example.

Answer 8

They are equal under the US flag. If you choose to sit back and do nothing...that's you're fault. The father has the same rights as the mother.

Answer 9

Shared is the best way to go!
It does not always turn out that one of the parents is suitable.

Answer 10

two parenents are the best but the court still sees a mommas love as the strongest if you want it differenent you have to show it x10
to be equal