My 2 year old son plays with our neighbor's twin girls who are 7. I really enjoy him playing with him because they take a lot of time to teach him stuff. But recently my son came to me and told me that one of the little girls is trying to get him to take his pants off and show her his penis. I know my son is not lying, but other than this I have never had a problem with the girls. How should I go about telling my friend that her daughter is doing this? I know when she questions her daughter about it, her daughter is going to deny it and I'm scared that even after her and her mother discuss it, she will try again and tell my son not to tell me. Do I not let him play with her anymore? I don't want to ruin the friendship between the mother and me, but I will not tolerate stuff like this happening to my child.
2006-06-17 15:21:35 · 18 answers · asked by Nicole W 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Perhaps you could speak to the child yourself. It's pretty normal for kids to be curious and want to look. But if you make it clear that children must keep their "bathing suit parts" covered while playing, it'll probably stop. Just keep a slightly closer eye on them for a while.
You say "I will not tolerate stuff like this happening to my child."
"Stuff like this" happens to almost every child. Only the way the grownups around them react turns it from innocent curiosity to something awful. So keep your tone gentle.
2006-06-17 15:31:30 · answer #1 · answered by LazlaHollyfeld 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People - relax. This is a normal part of all development.
For the mother of the 2 year old - don't let you son play unsupervised. If you are around you can help to control the situation.
Casually mention it to the mom of the twins. As you speak with her remember in 5 years your son will be a 7 year old and in the same position.
2006-06-17 16:23:38 · answer #2 · answered by Daniel P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good Grief, you women make too much out of a little thing. Quit acting all paranoid about it. It's nothing to be upset about. The girls are curious and that's all. Casually mention it and be done with it. If your neighbor is a reasonable person then there won't be any harm. Don't try to turn it into an investigation just tell her what your son said and let her take it from there.
2006-06-17 15:28:12 · answer #3 · answered by my_alias_id 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's probably a harmless thing kids do sometimes, but still you may just lightly bring it up to the mom. Maybe ask her if she heard anyone talking about taking their pants off when they were playing lately... or if her girls were asking questions about boy's privates lately... and don't bring it up in a big deal kind of way, just tell her what happened.
or.... maybe their age difference is too much and it's best to just not have them play together, it's whatever YOU as a mother feels more comfortable with ultimately.
2006-06-17 15:36:17 · answer #4 · answered by luckymamaof2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would sit down and talk with the parent about the situation and if she doesnt believe it u should keep your child away from the twins because the 2 seven year old probley got this negative comment under the influence of their parents
or just but a recorder in your sons pocket (lol)
2006-06-17 15:28:30 · answer #5 · answered by ♫♪Ms.J♥Virgo♣♠ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell the little girl to stay away from your son. It doesn't matter if the girl's mother doesn't want to be your friend anymore this is all about your little boy, and I am sure you have more friends. And you should been done told your child about this stuff. (P.S. not trying to be mean)
2006-06-17 16:13:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are properly concerned. Visit your library and get books or tapes on how to talk to your youngster about his privates. Suggest to your neighbor she may want to do the same. Sounds like curiosity - best addressed with age appropriate books and videos. Always teach your child that there are no secrets between you and he. If anybody ever tells him not to tell he has to come tell you right away - if you teach that at a young age no one can ever influence him to keep secrets from you - however it will bust any gifts and surprises you may receive in the future
2006-06-17 15:35:05 · answer #7 · answered by worldstiti 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A 7yr old telling a 2yr old to take off his pants is not child's play.Stop beating around the bush and tell your friend there is a problem.It doesn't matter who denies what.Make it clear it's not acceptable.Keep a closer eye on things or don't let them play together at all.
2006-06-17 16:42:13 · answer #8 · answered by yvonne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whoa that is intense. well i have a daughter and i understand what you are feeling you what to protect your kids from things like this. if it was me i would talk to her really calmly and tell her what happen. explain to her you are not blaming her children because around that age it is normal to be curious.especially with what kids are exposed to these days. But she needs to know what her kids are doing so she can help them explore their curiosity and answer their questions. if it was your son who was doing that you would want to know. and if after all of that she gets offended or doesn't do anything because her kids denies it then its up to you. you could let them play together under your supervision.
2006-06-17 15:44:37 · answer #9 · answered by tami 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not let your child play with them anymore.
I would bring it up directly with the mother. If things don't work out, then that is the way things go but you just can't take chances.
2006-06-17 15:27:04 · answer #10 · answered by Miro 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋