what would happened if a christian is dating a unbeliever knowing she shouldn't?

Question

and lets say that christian is your daughter. what to do? if she has feelings for the guide and lets say he is a good student.who stays out of trouble.and then she says well god can change him if i pray about it. do you think god can hear her prayers?

Answer 1

Mixing of the faiths? Fire and brimstone! *rolls eyes*

Of course she should be allowed to date the non-Christian boy. Love transcends doctrine, and it does not come in limited supply: one's love for God should not prevent one from loving another human being.

The boy sounds like he is of good virtue anyway ("Christian" virtue, if you prefer), even if he is not of Christian faith, so I personally do not see any reason to forbid the two from dating each other.

Answer 2

I think that God can hear her prayers. I don't think, however, that she should be set so much upon marrying a particular person and depending on God to change him into a Christian. First, she should pray to God about whether or not the person IS the right person. She may fall in "love" with him, but not consider if this is ther person God wants for her. And, of course, if she marries a person God doesn't want her to marry, her life will be a wreck soon after. That's what happens after stepping out of God's will.
Also, what I believe would happen is that, if it is not God's will, she will ignore this and try to change him herself, saying that God is trying to change him. She might attempt to push Christianity in his face, and this would only annoy him and create tension if they are married. Of course, this would not work. Only God can change a human. Furthermore, if he refuses to convert, the offspring will be confused if they decide to have any. The Bible says not to be unequally yoked. If she tries to change him herself, it will only make emotions run high and he might not convert even during the marriage. That marriage, of course, would go against Biblical teachings.
I understand that he's a good student and stays out of trouble. The question is whether or not he is the RIGHT person. Being with a good person who God doesn't want you to be with is almost as bad as being with a bad person. Because of this, I would advise the daughter to pray fervently, and perhaps even fast for a day or more, before she attempts to make another move.

Answer 3

OH, don't worry about it. She will eventually break up with him anyway, and you'll wind up making a big deal out of nothing, annoying your daughter and alienating someone who could be a genuinely nice person in the process. Do you think Jesus would want you to shun someone because they didn't think EXACTLY like you and your church? I don't think so.
also, I think it is healthy for you to give your daughter a bit of space, does she not have the right to have some of her own life experience?
You can't keep your children sheltered forever, especially not an adult!. Let her be a part of the world she lives.
Take comfort in knowing that people usually ascribe to the same belief system as their parents. Unless he is a Scientologist and is dead set on converting her to some other religion, I wouldn't worry. I believe it is easier to convert a "believer" to a different religion than it is to no religion at all.

(applauds kero bearus, great countdown! very clever)

Answer 4

The boy that I am dating was orginally not a Christian. Im 14 and I prayed about it and eventually he got saved. But I did make a promise to God that I would not marry an unbeliever. If this unbeliever turns 18 and hes not saved.. there's a less likely chance he will. But you never know.

But yes, God can hear her prayers and change him. She just has to be patient.

Answer 5

from your question u seem to be a christian mother that wants her child to remain a christian, so I'm going to give a christian pt of view.
she should understand what she's getting into.don't push her to do what you want or she'll resent you .just talk to her &use egof couples that r married but in the same situation to explain your pt.the most u can do is talk or just wait for it to play out.
then again a good boy is hard to come about &if u say he's nice then he should understand that your belief is important.
i once heard about this girl who was a christian and got married to an unbeliever who latter became a pastor, so keep the faith.

Answer 6

Absolutely he can hear her prayers. After all, aren't we all on this earth to teach others about Jesus? Are you truly a Christian? If so, I think you already know the answer to this question. Besides, you shouldn't be asking US (people u don't know) this question anyway. You need to pray about it yourself and let God tell you what is right for you and your family. Actually, if your daughter is a Christian strong in her faith, who is to say she hasn't prayed about the situation herself. Maybe she is at peace with God and where she is currently in her life. Maybe the only reason she feels she isn't supposed to date him is because she knows what you might think about it.

Hey, all just my opinion...lol...you asked...lol

Answer 7

Oh darling, my Mother has the same feeling. I'm dating a nonbeliever, and im a Christian. In the beggining, he wasnt a christian, he was a good kid, and stays out of trouble. I thought I could change him. I couldn't. Later on, it got worse. He emotionally abused me, turned bad, now is blinded by Satan. Please do not allow your Daughter to go through this. I went through it, so im trying to have people not to. It's painful, i became depressed, and Insecure because of it.

I still have some wounds that need to be healed by God, but God will do it for me. Just allow her to get away for a while, but still pray for him! I'm praying for my Love.

Remember, we shall not be Yoked with Nonbelievers!!!

I learned it the hard way!

God Bless Sweetie.

Answer 8

they whould both be unhappy after awhile. or they whould get married and one whould become the others religion. You are a fundamentalist christian and that makes me uneasy. I sometimes wonder if christians wont strap a bomb for Jesus someday........
you should be more tolerant towards another persons beliefs. its no wonder christians are one of the most hated religion out there. because they preach love and peace yet have none of either.

All national institutions of churches, whether Jewish, Christian, or Turkish, appear to me no other than human inventions, set up to terrify and enslave mankind, and monopolize power and profit.
Thomas Paine

10 - You vigorously deny the existence of thousands of other gods claimed by other religions, but feel outraged when someone denies the existence of your god.

9 - You feel insulted and "dehumanized" when scientists say that people evolved from lower life forms, but you have no problem with the Biblical claim that we were created from dirt.

8 - You laugh at polytheists, but you have no problem believing in three gods- the trinity.

7 - Your face turns purple when you hear of the "atrocities" attributed to Allah, but you don't even flinch when hearing about how God/Jehovah slaughtered all the babies of Egypt in "Exodus" and ordered the elimination of entire ethnic groups in "Joshua" --including women, children, and trees!

6 - You laugh at Hindu beliefs that deify humans, and Greek claims about gods sleeping with women, but you have no problem believing that some spirit impregnated Mary, who then gave birth to a man-god who got killed, came back to life and then ascended into the sky.

5 - You are willing to spend your life looking for little loopholes in the scientifically established age of Earth (4.55 billion years), but you find nothing wrong with believing dates recorded by Bronze Age tribesmen sitting in their tents and guessing that Earth is a couple of generations old.

4 - You believe that the entire population of this planet with the exception of those who share your beliefs --though excluding those in all rival sects - will spend Eternity in an infinite Hell of Suffering. And yet consider your religion the most "tolerant" and "loving."

3 - While modern science, history, geology, biology, and physics have failed to convince you otherwise, some idiot rolling around on the floor speaking in "tongues" may be all the evidence you need to "prove" Christianity.

2 - You define 0.01% as a "high success rate" when it comes to answered prayers. You consider that to be evidence that prayer works. And you think that the remaining 99.99% FAILURE was simply the will of God.

1 - You actually know a lot less than many atheists and agnostics do about the Bible, Christianity, and church history - but still call yourself a Christian.

Answer 9

Was she a christian before she started dating him? If so what about him has she been attracted to to make her want to get into a relationship with him? If not maybe she can be a positive example to him and he'll see the joy she has in her life from being a christian and desire that for the both of them.

Answer 10

Why does she have to change him? Do you think he's dwelling all night thinking, "ugh, how can I take my half-retarded girlfriend who believes in this fully-retarded God and make her an atheist like me?" Of course not! Then why do you basically have to think the same things towards him? Let him believe what he wishes to believe, if God gave us free-will (a gift coveted even by the Angels, which is really saying something) then why don't you allow everybody to use this as they wish?