Not sure what to do anymore.?

Question

I am a 28 year old man , living with his parents for over 10 years and only moved out twice , for not a long period. .I lived in a small michigan town for all my life.

For years I been trying to get out of this town and something always happens . This last time I had money to move out of my parents house and was looking for a way to get out , but with only 1500 dollars , anyways my car broke down and had to use the money , with help from my dad to get a another one. And yet again my chance was gone to get out was gone !

I been so depressed . I have no life , I live with my parents and they do help me and give me money and have bought me cars in the past and help pay for things when i had not had the moeny to pay for it . But they are contrlling and I have no life . I had jobs , but seems like money goes quicker then i can keep it ! I try to save , but so hard ! sometimes I am not sure if i can be independent.
I have no clue what to do anymore !

i stat a new job soon paying 7 dollars a hour only ! tryed to go to schol 4 times for diffrent things and never worked out! Been with my parents so long , not sure if i can be indendent anymore. Plus i try to save money and never seem to be able to save it .
feel like a not a real man , i live with mommy and daddy and am 28 . should have a great job , great apartment and a great realationship and i don't

i am 28 and don't have time to take small steps . I not where i should be !

Answer 1

Get a decent job like a trade and rebuild you life it will take time but you are only 28 by 32 you will be back on track and have a trade. Thats where its as now not sales or service or some dumb office job but a trade.

Answer 2

I lived with my father until he died and then I found that I had to work--a little different scenario.
But what you need to do is first of all realize that this situation is not really wrong. People usually think that they are viewed as worthless if they live with their parents after 18 or 20. I did it and I only felt weird a couple of times when someone new was getting to know me.- and gave me a lookd and said really...why..--=. I felt belittled. Well at least you are not in a dead end marriage or have child support to pay or a major health problem. So that is good.
You are 28 years old and male....Ok. That is just very little to know. ...
If your parents are nice to you and you help them around the house and do your part of the work and contribute to the bills in some way, then that is ok for now. You have not had much luck at jobs working out for you in the past. So, you need the think about the reasons why those did not last.
I believe that since you are in a somewhat financially stable environment and not making much money, that you should Definitely Go To COLLEGE! For real! You are still young and people go to college at any age anyway.
That is really your best bet. You would qualify for financial aid ---Free money--for college since you are an adult--they go by Your income taxes from the previous year. So, more than likely you would be eligible to have your tuition payed for completely. You have to keep a certain grade point to continue receiving the money each semester, so you must consider college like a job and you must do your best work. You could commute to college from home or even live off campus if you could afford it, if you do not want to live the campus lifestyle. This really is your best option if you want to be independent and get a job you like and deserve. Plus you will make more money with a degree. You even take college courses online as well as in the evenings, so you have a lot of options. You could take the general courses first and then decide on your major--you don't have to know from the start what you want to do. Most govenment jobs offer retirement after 27 years. So that may be a good choice--ex. social services, teaching, human service jobs.... and others. Plus you get off on holidays.:) Anyway, I hope you have at least one good, helpful and supportive friend to talk with. Make a plan and check out your options. That way you won't feel so down about your situation. You have control, so you need to realize this. Good luck!!

Answer 3

I was forced to live out on my own for the first time when my first husband divorced me and took my kids and my parents disowned me because I was suddenly a divorced woman and they felt that tainted the family name.

I made it by the grace of God, let me tell you.

I had about 1500 dollars to start also and had a car. The car broke down, my apartment burned and I ended up virtually begging my parents for help and they finally gave in.

I lived on my own up until I met and married my current husband and it was rough. For almost 8 years I was on my own and had to rely on strangers for help a lot of times. You may have to work two jobs as I did several times. You have to build relationships wherever you can and make some trusted friends. It's rough but you'll get through it. If you really want to stay out of your parent's home then set your mind to do what you gotta do. Don't ever come back no matter what. If you have to move to the city so you don't have to rely on a car so much then do that to save yourself some money. That's what I was forced to do eventually because I had no car at all for most of the time. I couldn't afford it anymore so I ended up taking the bus everywhere.

Research the cost of living in certain areas that you're interested in. Make a budget, start a savings and go for it.

I think you can do it, you just need to try again.

Answer 4

First, You are never too old to grow up.
Second, I would bet you are depressed, have you thought about counseling, With a man. Someone who can help you with your self esteem?
Third, no one can live on $7 and hour. Do the math. You will probably have to share a house with others. No big deal. At least you will have a chance at a life.
Fourth, try the union. You can call up the carpenters union, or plumbers, welders, electrical. They will train you in an apprentice program, and pay you wayyyy better. I know carpenters earning above $20 /hr after taxes. You could be a missionary, peace corp worker, or join the army, ( you don't have to be on the front line). You can get a desk job, and they will train you, and pay for it. There are lots of options, and you can get out. But....have you ever seen anyone get on with their lives by sitting in the muck, (their parents house), and whining, quitting, or just thinking about how bad they are doing? Get up....get to a phone... a temp service.......counselor, and move on with it. You can do it ; ) If you really want to .... do you?

Answer 5

The first thing to do is know yourself! What are you capable of, what are your successes rather than failures? What are your wishes within the realm of being realistic. You made it to 28, don't you think you can make it further once you leave?
The simple answer that so few follow is to simply do it! Life takes care of you if you put some effort into it.
Don't take negative advice from people who are in the same rut.
Plan and execute, you will be surprized at how things will work out in the long run.

Answer 6

Hi, I had a similar problem. I decided (with help from others) to join the Naval Air Force. I was in for 6 years and went to 17 different countries. I met great folks and live near one of my lifelong friends I met there still today. The Navy taught me how to live on my own and have pride in myself. I still iron better than my wife! Good Luck. God Bless America! Stew

Answer 7

us steel is hiring, in gary Indiana casino boats hiring
pay in the mill is good starts at like 26 an hour i think!
boats about 14..i think! Not sure what else to tell ya!
I lived with my parents off and on until i was about 24, now i am married and have a family and live far from my family....lol....best thing i ever done! they live in Indiana and me and my fam live in missouri soon to move to texas..woo hoo...life is sooo much better financially too!
trust me i am a big time daddys girl. If I can move far I am sure u can do the same...best of luck to ya!

Answer 8

You need to move... Pick up yr $hit and go. Your parents are inabeling you and you need to do this for everyone concerned. Get a roommate if need be then once you get your feet on the ground move to a close by town. If this just isnt realistic agree to pay your parents rent in order for you to come & go as you please. It's time to cut the apron strings!

Answer 9

You need a Goal. It sounds to me you are doing a lot of things all at once and not accomplishing any.

make an outline. your ultimate goal and how you can get there and what you need to get there. then start at the bottom of your list until you reach the top. Making sure you focus on one item at a time. You must not burn out.

Good Luck!

Answer 10

Stop making excuses, have a budget,get parents to help if you can, maybe they are controlling because they see you can't be responsible. They are parents first,i'm sure they would love for you to be self-sufficient,lets face it, it would save them lots of money. I'm not trying to put you down, just being honest!