i'm not totally sold on the 'marriage' thing. personally, i don't see the point if your happy in your relationship. if you feel married in your heart, isn't that enough? i know people will say it is a commitment in the eyes of god, but, isn't god all seeing? wouldn't he see the commitment between the 2 people without the ceremony?
my philosophy is.......'if it's not broke, don't fix it'
anyone else agree?
2006-06-17 13:35:51 · 31 answers · asked by Jan 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Nope I don't agree. People that don't like marriage are afraid of commitment. They are afraid of making a vow to stick to something FOREVER. People that think that way are usually inconsistant about other things in there lives as well and they are bad at following through or finishing things unless it's short-term.
I just happen to be one of those people but I can admit it. Hopefully one day I will be dependable enough to get married.
2006-06-17 13:40:04 · answer #1 · answered by liljomo1234 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I was married for 16 years--have been divorced for 3. Although my experience was bad, I am not knocking marriage. With the right person, it is a beautiful road to be on. I think it is an individual thing. Some people want to "do the next step," which they feel is matrimony. Other people feel they have reached that high point, and don't need that ceremony. All individual--nothing wrong with either choice.
2006-06-17 13:44:15 · answer #2 · answered by bellegurl17 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you up until a point. I think that if you are going to have kids than you need to get married. If the relationship does not work out and you have kids together and you are not married the laws are harder for you to get the support that you need for you children. Living together is great and if both of you don’t need the piece of paper to make your commitment than I see no reason to marry but if you bring kids into the world you might want the support that marriage certificate will give you.
2006-06-17 13:43:26 · answer #3 · answered by 12252 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The ceramony assures that if anything happens in the relationship,
You have a legal leg to stand on
Because when you are together for a long while ,
You aquire things.
And You Will Want Your Fair Share
Alot of states reconize common law marriages,
exspecelly if you have ever filled IncomeTax's togther
You have to get a divorce anywayzz ..It's The Law
( Well .. In Texas Anywayzz )
Not being married just gives you a false sence of a quick and easy escape route. (( If Ever Need Be ))
Which in alot of situations is not the case.
But Hey .. If your comfertable just living together and not getting married.
Then Kutos To You.
2006-06-17 13:54:36 · answer #4 · answered by FaLLiN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you will ruin your kids with that philosophy. Don't have kids or you will teach them that not having commitment is ok. That will teach them to be permiscous.
Do what you want but If you aren't willing to commit to each other I think there's a much stronger reason behind it.
For one thing insurance is cheaper if you marry.
I think there are a lot of perks to marriage. I also think that marriage shows true dedication. Maybe you are afraid that this won't work out. I don't know. Just don't have kids.
This has nothing to do with God, it has everything to do with sacrifice. If marriage is just a piece of paper, do it and get it over with. Make your parents proud. Make things legit.
Good Luck.
2006-06-17 13:40:37 · answer #5 · answered by Corn_Flake 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
marriage is a commitment and maybe one day you will want this, but today is not that day and you should never do it if you do not fancy it. If this relationship your in makes you happy and your mate feels the same way then enjoy and be happy.
I believe in God but I do not believe in the Bible as I know man corrupts everything he puts his hands on. I feel everyone knows their heart and you will only be judge from your heart not a piece of paper.
2006-06-17 13:40:52 · answer #6 · answered by Savage 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally see marriage as not neccesarily anything that should be done for god. I see it as the willingness to make a binding commitment to someone, whereas many times the 'commitment' that people think they have could evaporate. It's more symbolic of the commitment, showing it to the world. At least for me, anyways.
I hope that makes some sense..
2006-06-17 13:38:33 · answer #7 · answered by madrhetoric333 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not for pushing marriage from a religious background - take the Christ/Deity out.
But I think its nice to have a tangible representation for how you feel. When you and your lover are long gone, and people search records, they will see that you loved this person so much you wanted to have it on record. You don't even have to go through an elaborate ceremony or have anyone else even know. Just get a judge and get it done one weekend. It changes nothing in your heart.
And that's a nice thought to me. But
that's just me.
2006-06-17 13:40:36 · answer #8 · answered by kitt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is way more than a commitment! If more people would go into their marriage without the idea that "if I get sick of him, I can divorce" the sanctity of marriage would mean what it used to mean. That once you marry, it is until death do you part, for richer or poorer, in sickness and in health. How many BF GF couples without the benefit of marriage can do that?
2006-06-17 13:41:07 · answer #9 · answered by Starla_C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if people live together without or before marriage they have the mentality that they can leave anytime. Marriage is a commitment between the couple as well as God, but foremost it sanctifies that commitment between the two to become one.
2006-06-17 13:40:01 · answer #10 · answered by Joe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋