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2006-06-17 13:23:08 · 25 answers · asked by bkay. 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It would be good to tell him if you feel he will forgive you, but always remember that the truth will hurt to either one of you.
2006-06-17 13:26:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! Honesty is not always the best policy. If this is a one time thing, its better just to keep your mouth closed. You'll only hurt him, and his reaction could be violent. Hopefully, you will have learned from the experience. If you regret cheating, then clearly you love him. If you enjoyed the sex and feel no regrets, maybe you should find a person/persons who you enjoy more.
If you had unsafe sex, and think that you might have picked up an STD, then telling him would be the right thing to do. You don't want him to get sick or give it to someone else. Also, if you think there is a good chance he will find out, then you should go on the offensive and tell him first. No use putting off the inevitable, especially if you can explain your reasons before he has time to come up with his own. Hope this helps.
2006-06-17 20:32:28 · answer #2 · answered by Shawn H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
damn, this is hard to answer.. I'm 50-50 here. Would it help (who'd it help.. he or you? that's an important point..) I am wondering? Would it hurt him.. and what would the benefit (if any) be? Simple, yet true. If it's an ongoing thing sometimes the other person can 'sense' something is wrong.. (you'd be surprised.) If it was a one-time deal.. you need to think WHY you did it.. (sometimes we don't even know.. weird, but true I feel.) You might have been in the wrong place at the wrong time (heh, maybe the right place, depending on how you feel on the guy ya cheated with.. lol) It just happens sometimes. I try and be on my guard I am not in a 'compromising situation' you know.. (happens to us all at times.. try not to 'beat yourself up' too bad, thinking of it, o.k.? o.k.!) If you think it won't happen again (ever) I think you ought to consider keeping your trap shut about it. (like someone said too, the STD's thing.. you might want to think about that.. that's another issue floating around here.) I think it's kinder not to tell someone sometimes.. (Why do it? If you are consumed with guilt, fine.. do it.. ) How would you feel if he did it to you.. try and think that out too. (It might help you decide which way to go.) I don't think there is a good time or good place to tell him, by the way. That news will be 'killer' info. (last thing he wants to hear.) It's a bad situation for you.. and you have my sympathy, hon.. later (melancholia)
2006-06-17 21:41:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you cheated and did not use protection, you need to abstain from sex with anyone until the results are back from the HIV test you need to take. Also, wait for 2 months before having sex with anyone else to make certain you aren't pregnant.
If you make certain you did not get an STD, you can see your boyfriend again, certainly, and it is NOT okay to tell him. It would only hurt him.
If you cannot be faithful to one boyfriend, just have protected sex with anyone you choose, no strings attached. However, remember that herpes and genital warts cannot be protected against with a condom.
If you are sorry you cheated on him, do not do it again and do not tell him, but please wait until you find out about the STDs and pregnancy. It would be really, really selfish of you to pass along a disease just because you can't control yourself. Good luck.
2006-06-17 20:35:03 · answer #4 · answered by SpongebobRoundpants 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally agree with mia_n honesty is the best policy. You should tell him upfront because that may make the matters easier to cope with. Rather than keeping it from him and leading him on. Honestly, I don't go for cheaters but it does happen. If you love the person you're with, I don't see why you would have to go and cheat on them or keep anything from them at all. This is my own personal opinion.
2006-06-17 20:28:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No! If you don't intend to make that mistake EVER again, and are truly repentant, just keep your mouth SHUT. Especially if he wouldn't find out any other way. The only reason to fess up would be if he IS gonna find out anyway. In which case, he should hear it from you. There is no point to telling him otherwise, it will only hurt him.
2006-06-17 20:28:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. dont tell him. If you want to stay with him dont tell him. Even if you plan to break up with him dont tell him. Telling him because you feel guilty is not a good reason. You will end up hurting him by telling him. Either break up with him or stay but dont ever cheat again.
2006-06-17 20:36:00 · answer #7 · answered by Educated 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to take a chance on the relationship ending.
Everyone makes mistakes.If there is no way he could find out
learn from your mistake and move on.No one gets hurt.
My gf cheated on me but didn't tell me until after we broke up and
a year later,It would have crushed me when we were together.
She got it off HER chest and I wasn't hurt
NO HARM NO FOUL >>. MY OPINION
2006-06-18 00:01:14 · answer #8 · answered by callman51 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you love him? If you do you should carry that horrible burden yourself. Why would you want him to carry your stupid mistakes for you? Carry your own burdens. But be honest with yourself, if you cheated and you think you're in love with him, you should take a good long look in the mirror and ask yourself what love means to you, and how you would want him to love you back.
2006-06-17 21:41:44 · answer #9 · answered by Clay K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you hope to accomplish? To hurt him? then yes. To clear your conscience, then no. How old are you? Is this a serious relationship? Think about why you cheated, and maybe it is time for you to move on.
2006-06-17 20:30:02 · answer #10 · answered by Jan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋