I wanna run away from my house....?

Question

Im alwis having a terrible problems with my family members...
Now im jus being at home doin nothing in my life.
But my sista goin to school doin her pre-university course.Shes happy,shes njoying her studying.
I doesnt like to be waste like this...doin ntg...I want challange in my life...
I feel like...if i continue be with my family and looking the moon complaint that tey doesnt wanna allow me..than surely days will run witout nothing happend...and i will be under the same situation...
So i think its betta i go away from my family members in order to succed in my life.
But im confuse and less brave in this matter bcos tey are too much typical indian family...
What i should do?....
Im sooo confuse....Now

I'm going to be 20 years old this year.Actually I got a opportunity to do my pre-university but not even 1 month gone and my family had stopped my studies because they had find a guy for me.To get married...I agree when my mother cried to me..but after 6 months all canceled.Someting went wrong.So my chance to go to university is less.Lots of friends here(members) said tha home is the safest place for me...
I hate my dad...everyone said if u go outside lots bad things could happend but what if I tell u all...Im not feeling safe being at my own house? Outside more safe compare to my house...My dad is the num one bastard.Who couldnt understand who is his wife and who is his daughter....I hope u could understand what Im trying to tell you.If someone else did wrong to us, we used to go and tell my dad...but in my situation...who should I go and tell this shamefull things? Most worst matter is..my own mother didnt trust me in what I said.Everyone selfish.....

Answer 1

first of all, your typed accent makes reading this verrrrrrrry difficult. you should stop so people will actually read what u say.


secondly,go to summer school or something. surely yoour parents will let you.

Answer 2

Ha, I am from an Indian family too. Its awesome isn't it?
There's a lot they don't understand because they are from India and I was born+raised in US.
I have wanted (and still want) to run away from my house all the time.

Here's what you gotta remember.

1. No matter how bad they are, they think what they are doing is "good parenting" because that's what their parents did. They have good intentions.

2. They are your life-source for college etc. If you want to suceed in life you need higher education so you can find out what things interest you etc.

3. They will be out of your hair soon! Just wait for the day when you are 18 and go to some campus far far away. It will make independence so much sweeter.

Running away will not help. Just deal with them in any way you can and wait for the day when you can get out.

Also, stay away from the house as much as possible. Get involved in school activities (your parents will let you then) or just do stuff so you have as little contact with them as possible. They love you, but sometimes there love is too much
If you ever wanna talk about Indian family antics hit me up at [e-mail]

Answer 3

You should talk to your family...Tell them how you really feel...Ask them if you can get out of the house for a couple or few hours each day. That would be really refreshing. Maybe you could talk to your parents' about getting a used car for yourself if you're old enough. I don't advise running away. I'm 15 so I know what it feels to be restricted and have nothing to do. You could always go to the library to learn more about stuff or surf the internet. You could get a library card to go on the internet and check out books. You say you want to succeed in your life. If you do, which I have faith in you that you will succeed, wouldn't you want to share time w/ ur family, like relatives and family get together. You don't want to be lonely, do you? You can make projects for yourself and learn by doing projects. Everything doesn't have to be schoolwork, you can make it fun. You say you're less brave, you have less courage to run away from home now that you're contemplating it. That may be a sign that there are better things to come in your life, that you don't have to take a risk running away. Everything happens for a reason.

Answer 4

You need to stay home, you won't survive without your family. Make up your mind to be a help to everyone. It sounds to me like you're bored, you say you want a challenge in your life so I challenge you to help your parents with chores around the house for an hour every day and spend an hour every day reading and studying. I don't know how old you are but see if you can go to the library at least once a week. Ask your parents if they can take you to a museum or someplace educational once a month. Learn how to spell and the definition of 5 new words every day this summer.

Answer 5

Do you have any family to go to?
I know what you mean and I am so sorry for you but I am not sure if you will be safe out of your home... it is a shame what your dad is doing, why do not you call a cap..although it might not be a good idea in your family and culture...
you need to think of something better... are you close to your sister... can you talk with her... can she ask help from some one at her school???
I wish I could help but what can I do here over Internet... just trust that things will go the best way and talk with your mother let her know you want to go and you are tired....may be you can ask for women shelter.... although your father might never forgive you...
try to find a good way to get out do not just run away ... you need a place to live and a job to live on...
but if you are really not safe at your home no matter what your father will think call police and ask for help, let them know what is your situation and they might be able to help...

take care of yourself and good luck
I will pray for you and keep us posted....
you can contact me if you wish


Hi shiveh,
I got your message and I think if you are sure that your will be safe at your friend go a head but make sure it will not cause you more trouble

take care
PS: I can not email you it says "Your email did not go through because the recipient\'s email address has not been confirmed "

Answer 6

I want to ecourage you that you are not alone. Alot of people have gone through what you are going through. It happens everyday. Please be encouraged and not so weirded out by this. But there is hope. There is a God who loves you and knows what you are going through. He has lived here on earth and has experieced rejection and humiliation. He knows what we go through and can relate with us. He loves you so much that he gave his son Jesus on the cross for you. He wants to help you if you just simply ask him. He loves you just the way you are right where you are. He wants to help you and be involved in every aspect of your life.
I've listened to this radio show and have heard a lot of kids get help through this ministry. You can call and they can give you some better answers than I could. Give it a try, it may be the best decision you have ever made. Don't run away, it will only make matters worse. I garantee it.

Answer 7

Living away from home with no money or education is very hard. Many young people find themselves homeless or forced into prostitution. Try not to jump from the frying pan into the fire.

It sounds like you are having a rough time right now, but rest assured, that it won't be any easier if you run away. It may help to find an online support group for people in your situation who understand the cultural implications of being young in an Indian family and learn how others learned to cope with it.

Please take care of yourself.

Answer 8

Don't run away! you have so many thing to do in life starting by knowing what you want. Going thru the things you are is very normal, we all go thru those stages (I am 34) aqnd in the end it turns out well.

Find a job you enjoy or at least something where you have fun (what do you really like). Go to summer school, hang out with smart people. Have fun somehow (get yourself more friends or start a business - -lemonade stand? :)

Cheer up kid, there is so much more in life than being just depressed - play with your brain and stay away from drugs. Word to your mother.

Answer 9

ONE why don't you sit down and try to explain all these mix feelings your having with someone closer to you in your family. TWO if you feel like your doing nothing go, go and volunteer in your community,find a hobby,or just plain get together with people and hang out. Just remember you will be in a University soon and, you will have those same opportunities.Don't run away from your problems you will never get anything solved in life. Your problems will always be there if you don't get the solution.

Answer 10

U should not run away get a job and move out and tell ur parents and family how u feal and another thing no matter what dont take ur life it just takes time depression is a b!tch but look to the better things in life and u will pull through eblieve me i felt that way and still do but just keep telling urself its going to get betterand watch it will

Answer 11

I know exactly what you should be doing with your life!!! You need to get back into school and learn the English language! Spelling, grammar, punctuation, composition, syntax, etc. These are excellent skills to have that will take you a long way in life. Seriously, go back to school. Learn some skills. If you don't do it now, you will be sitting there 10 or 20 years from now saying "what should I do with my life?"