Okay. My boyfriend wants a threesome, but I DON'T! Honestly, sex actually means something to me, but he keeps pushing it on me. (it's actually starting to p*ss me off) Is it bad that I don't want to?
2006-06-17 12:35:59 · 31 answers · asked by Flirty Uncommitted 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No it's not bad for you not wanting to. One question to him is: "I will have another woman in the bed with us, as long as I can have another man in the bed with us first". Usually, they will stop and ponder for a moment. I am a female, I have done that, two times. I first want to know, how old are you two. If he is in the range of 18-25, He probably won't be as sensitive to you not wanting to. What it comes down to is respect, if you want to do it, then fine, if you don't then, no. In my experiences, it does ruin some aspects of that relationship, the trust, the "what if" questions are on your mind. If he cannot understand why you don't want to, then he is not worthy of having you. Also, that is the most common male fantasy. I think he may want bragging rights. Good luck, and don't be forced into it. and if you decide to go through with it, try to relax and have fun, but, depending on how long you two have been together, it can be detrimental to your relationship.
2006-06-17 12:37:31 · answer #1 · answered by ammut** 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don´t do it if you don´t feel comfortable with the idea.
As in anything else in sex, you need to be sure you want to do it and feel comfortable with it so you can enjoy it.
If not, it´s just a waste of time.
Nobody has the right to push you .If he is too pushy on this, and he already knows you don´t want to , maybe you would like to consider getting another man.
A threesome only works for a couple if the two members of the couple agree on that. If not, why would you do it? (I mean , whyy would you "try" something new if you can´t even agree on trying it or not?)
2006-06-21 14:31:28 · answer #2 · answered by Kalvaina 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NOT AT ALL! sex should be between two people a woman and a man, who love each other very much. I'd say your boyfriend doesn't love you very much, go out there and find the right one you want to have sex, but please do not go with the threesome :)
2006-06-17 19:42:04 · answer #3 · answered by Emily B 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok first if you're boyfreind wants a threesome and you said no and he keeps pushing then you need to take a second and third look at this relationship, remember this----if you do something you don't want to do you will lose you're self respect.
2006-06-17 19:41:39 · answer #4 · answered by babsie518 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no you have every right to feel the way you do. just tell him this is pi$$ing you off, you'd rather it not be brought up unless you bring it up. Sometime you might want to experience a 3some but tell him he's ruining what you might want to do sometime.
Oh yeah and ask him if you get to pick the 3rd?
2006-06-17 19:42:57 · answer #5 · answered by Paige 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him "Sure, let's have a threesome" and bring home a guy from work, HA! That would really freak him out.
2006-06-17 19:39:00 · answer #6 · answered by Wild Child 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No it's not bad you don't want to!!!! I think you have to stand up and tell him how you feel about it. Just tell him you DON'T want to do that! If he's a good boyfriend, he'll understand. Tell him that sex isn't something to be wasted like that, it means something, and your not about to waste it on something stupid like that. Hope I could've helped! Tell me how it goes?
Later <3
2006-06-17 19:38:22 · answer #7 · answered by Yep, This is me. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i was in the same situation..he pushed it so much and i loved him so much that i put up with it. i cried for months everyday, and he still kept telling me that i should listen to him and that i want it [NOT!] .. he had this desperate obsession with it it seemed. finally our relatoinship collapsed more and more. he even found someone we could do it with.. she and i ended up being friends and he ended up leaving me. it still hurts very much, but it clearly was the wrong relationship for both of us. i'm very sorry you're going through it. be strong, and do what feels right for you..coz if you do it he might still break up with you, and then where would you be left and what would you be feeling for the rest of your life?
2006-06-17 19:43:09 · answer #8 · answered by happy! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Put a stop to it.
You can start by choosing male names to be the third and that should take care of him. A good man would not want to share you with another, and if he does cut him loose
2006-06-17 19:39:41 · answer #9 · answered by KC 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No.You want to preserve the sancttity of your relationship and keep your self respect. Just let him know how you feel and if he doesn't listen, move on.
2006-06-17 19:38:53 · answer #10 · answered by bulldog 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋