I have been friends with this guy for like 6 or 7 years and I think I am falling in love with him! the only thing is he lives a couple of states away and we have never met! we started talking over the internet but he is such a awesome person he know just what to say when I am having a bad day and always knows how to make me smile is it wrong that I feel this way about some one I have never met PLEASE help me!!!!!
2006-06-17 12:30:39 · 18 answers · asked by cute_libra45 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
His name is Josh and he lives in Colorado and I live in Oklahoma so it isnt really easy meeting up we both have full time jobs and I have a 2 yr old daughter!!
2006-06-17 13:02:21 · update #1
It's never wrong to fall in love. That means that your life is enriched and that you are happy enough to want to share it with someone else.
The problem is that you aren't sure if this guy will actually live up to your expectations. Maybe he's already married. Maybe he's not making that salary he claimed to make. Maybe he has some kind of physical deformity. Maybe he's a serial killer. Blah Blah...
My husband (A Libra!)keeps saying that sometimes just dreaming is better than having to deal with the unforgiving reality. But I beg to differ. You've been friends for a long time. You know what this guy looks like, right? Consider a reconnaisance mission and go on over there where he is and ask for a casual lunch get-together. Air fare is pretty cheap if you plan ahead. But then again, lovers are supposed to be spontaneious, so go ahead, book that flight and fall in love. All you need is a little encouragement. You have a natural born right to be happy so now go pursue it!
2006-06-17 12:42:49 · answer #1 · answered by Siddy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Reguardless of what many think, people on the net are real people with real emotions and real lifes. The internet is a great place and a great place to meet people we may never get to meet otherwise. No one on the net should disagree otherwise your calling yourself just as fake.
many people fall in love for far less then you say. True the internet has a lot of bad people but so does in our personal lifes. Sounds like you found something wonderful and I think you should meet in real time. I suggest that you meet in a public place a few times until you build trust and I am not saying this because you met him on line I would suggest the same in person. Good luck and I hope you found the happiness so much deserved.
2006-06-17 19:38:24 · answer #2 · answered by Savage 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cute Libra,
I'm sure he's the nicest guy in the world but I'd suggest getting hold of your feelings for him. Until you spend some time with someone face to face, you cannot possibly know if you can even fall in love with them.
A few security things to think about, especially since you have children:
1) Do NOT under any circumstances go to his city to meet him. This carries many unnecessary risks. If you want to meet him, ask him to come to your city. Don't reveal your address if you haven't already. Meet him in a busy public place. It goes without saying that you should NOT invite him to your home until you have spent a little time with him.
2) Tell someone, an adult, where and when you are meeting him and agree on a deadline time by which you will call them. If you don't call, they are to call you and, if they can't raise you, call the police. This is called a silent alarm. Don't tell him about your arrangement.
3) Get his ID: get his name, address, phone numbers, drivers license number and state, social security number, and his place of employment. Give all this to your silent alarm partner. Also find out where he will be staying and include that in your alarm.
I know this sounds like you're being suspicious but you're just being prudently cautious.
Good luck,
Net Rider
2006-06-17 19:44:17 · answer #3 · answered by Net Rider 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two states away seems like a long distance, but really isn't. Arrange a weekend trip where you meet halfway, or he can make the trip to you. I drive 3500 miles a week as a truck driver, and its probably only a one day trip at most for each of you, maybe less depending on where you live. If he's into you, he will do whatever it takes to be near you. If he doesn't make the effort or finds reasons why he can't meet you, maybe he doesn't like you the same way or has other family obligations.
2006-06-17 19:38:30 · answer #4 · answered by Shawn H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not wrong to feel that way, but as a Mom, you need to be cautious. Do not let your child become a victim with this relationship. If you meet him, do not take your child, and meet him in a very public place. It is very easy to take advantage of someone on the internet. I could tell you that I was a millionare, but that doesn't mean that it is true. Remember that some people have found wonderful relationships here, and others have been hurt very badly. Just use caution please.
2006-06-17 19:37:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL I WOULDNT THINK IT IS WRONG. THATS JUST LIKE HAVING A PEN PAL THAT U NEVER MET BUT ONLY GOT PICTURES OF. BUT BEING A COUPLE OF STATES AWAY IS THE THING AND U NEVER MET HIM BUT ITS NEVER WRONG TO LOVE. JUST MAKE SENSE OUT OF IT ALL, I MEAN THATS THE FANTASY WORLD. BUT U CAN MAKE THAT COME TO REALITY BY ASKING HIM DOES HE FEEL THE SAME WAY BUT BEFORE YOU DO THAT I THINK U SHOULD AT LEAST MEET HIM FIRST ITS SOLEY UP TO U 2. I MEAN U RISKING IT HIGH BECAUSE HE MIGHT BE YOUR SOUL MATE IF U BELIEVE IN THAT OR HE JUST MIGHT BE A CRAZY PERSON LIVING IN THE FANTASY WORLD. THATS ONLY IF U 2 ARE WILLING TO MEET EACH OTHER BUT U KNOW WHAT THEY SAY ABOUT MEETING PEOPLE ONLINE. U JUST HAVE TO U ALL PRECAUTIONS. I THINK U SHOULD ASK TO MEET HIM FIRST BEFORE U ASK HIM HOW DOES HE FEEL ABOUT U 2.
2006-06-17 19:42:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it is not wrong to care about someone you have never met, however you do have to take precautions. Love is a powerful feeling and it is a good feeling to posses. you must first really know this person because many people will earn your trust than and once you meet them they are totally opposite from what you know of them. I would, if I were you, take it slow with this individual to and ask what this person really wants in a relationship.
2006-06-17 19:40:34 · answer #7 · answered by patrick b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK take it from some one who has been there you definitely need to meet this person face to face and meet them with some one who knows you real well and will tell you for your own good what they think.
the reason i say take some one with you is two fold one; if this person is a deranged psycho it always help to have backup. two love tends to be at least very nearsighted, meaning that often times we only see the best things when we get all excited over the possibility of wondrous events. so take someone who will help you keep a level head.
2006-06-17 19:40:49 · answer #8 · answered by tygerphlyer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I don't think it's wrong, if you've been talking for so long then you're bound to know each other so well. Why not meet up then you can decide what to do? You may feel differently or even stronger in person!
2006-06-17 19:33:40 · answer #9 · answered by danyol 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
before you jump to conclusions, maybe you should plan a meeting with him somwhere (possibly a place closer to where you live) . . if he's the same person he is on the net, then go fall madly inlove with him. but if he sounds completely dragged and obviously not that awsome person he was on the net, maybe you should suspect that one of his friends were chatting with you for a trip . .
meeting face to face is essential when your falling inlove for a internet friend.
2006-06-17 19:40:10 · answer #10 · answered by mia_n 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋