Few months ago I got asked out for a drink by a co-worker.I said yes and everything went well that i got asked again.I went out again on a second date and it was nice too.We hardly talk on the phone we just IM each other.I ask him to call me but he never does.I also asked him why he doesn't call me. He never gave me a reason. I like this guy but don't know if he has feelings for me too. I got asked out thursday afternoon for a friday nite dinner. I said yes. When Friday came he told me at noon he was feeling sick.And had to pass on the date. Should I believe him that he was really sick and not making up an excuse to get out of the date. What should I do? Need Help!!!!!!!!
2006-06-17 11:51:42 · 12 answers · asked by Makemeahappygirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He has no girlfriend and he seems like the shy type. So when he told me he was sick i asked if he wanted to pass on the dinner . He said let me see how i feel and i'll let u know. Well he told me he wouldn't be much fun and ask if i was ok with it. Well truthfully i wasn't because i really was looking forward to this dinner with him and yet i covered my feelings and said to him i was cool and hoped he feel better. I don't know what to think.
2006-06-17 12:33:06 · update #1
I understand how u feel, u go on a few nice dates and he's being really nice and u start to like him and he may know it, then u get the cold shoulder, a fake excuse on a date he cancels.
Well, he may have been sick( u said u work with him, did he look sick)
Anyway, just don't mention it, just go about ur day when ur at work and make like u don't really care. If he brings it up just make like it really means nothing to ya
Say, good ur feeling better, then if he ask what did u do over the weekN, say I had the best time with friends and family, say to him, may u canceling was a good idea because I would have missed out on having a great time wth my friends.
Just don't let him know that it bothered u that he cancelled. If he ask again say I'll let u know later because I may have plans, then forget a bout telling him, but keeo being friendly( I mean u do have to work together) if he ask if u still want to go out say,, in a joking way well if I say yes ur not gonna get sick again are you?
2006-06-17 12:04:29 · answer #1 · answered by itspink22@sbcglobal.net 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I think this all depends on what has happened on the previous dates. Is he really looking for a serious relationship? Did he get what he wanted on the first dates and is that what he wants now? (a bo*tie call) He may have honestly been feeling bad ....but if he doesnt offer the make up dinner again soon than I suggest just pass on this one and keep searching....there are more
2006-06-17 18:57:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's so much easier to be up front behind a computer than on the phone or in person. most likely he does like you but is just shy. let him know that you are interested in him and ask him out the next time and see what happens. if nothing happens then move on
2006-06-17 19:03:14 · answer #3 · answered by luvu2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave that alone.
He has another chic and can't talk on the phone with him.
Next time he IMs you don't answer.
Next time he ask you out say your busy.
If he changes his tune after a week of this ( and calls you on a regular basis ) then it's all good.
If he just walks away from the situation then let it be.
2006-06-17 18:57:18 · answer #4 · answered by Erica T 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its the truth, until its not the truth. Let it go, until you have a known fact that you need to be concerned about. Then investigate, and accuse. This is a new relationship, so don't wait around on him either. No one needs this kind of stress in the very beginning. Stay busy and don't sit idle.
2006-06-17 19:01:34 · answer #5 · answered by smplyme132 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that he likes you, but he isn't really much of a phone person know what I mean. He can type things to you on IM, but on the phone he has to say them and that makes him scared.
2006-06-17 18:56:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are a few reasons he could have bailed, maybe he was sick, maybe he had no money, and yes maybe he wasn't interrested anymore. There is really no way to tell if there is interrest on the computer, did you call him? try it and if he ignores that you will know your answer...best of luck
2006-06-17 18:56:26 · answer #7 · answered by bubbles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like someone i know let him know how u feel about the situation and ask if he has a girl and if not what is he looking for in a woman.
2006-06-17 19:10:05 · answer #8 · answered by sexy chocolate 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he really was sick. you shouldnt get so suspitious about it. if he wasnt maybe he was just nervous and he doesnt like you... ive figured out its harder for men to tell what they feel over the phone and YET IN PERSON that its much easier to just IM it... just see how things go and maybe tell him how you feel
2006-06-17 18:56:38 · answer #9 · answered by sam_star700 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think he likes you--- why don't you initiate the date this time-- and if he cancels on you again, tell him your "fears" and then it'll all be out in the open-- it's hard but being honest and staightforward is the best way to go
2006-06-17 18:55:31 · answer #10 · answered by if you could would you? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋