Ok.Heres the story.I have a super awesome b/f.He is great.But, I wasnt always able 2 see that.I started going out w/ him soon after I broke up w/ my ex.After I moved, we broke up & I met my current b/f.I thought that dating other people would get my mind off the breakup.It did, but I realized that I was hurting a really amazing guy.After I told him, I said I would try 2 get over my ex and b his 1 & only.Well, I went back 2 my old town a few days ago 2 visit all of my friends.Somehow my ex found out that I was there & wants 2 see me.He was at work when I got there & has a g/f.He said he misses me, but I dont know if I should go & visit or stay here.I no that either way 1 guy is going 2 get hurt, but I would much rather have my ex hurt than my b/f I just need a solution 2 make everyone happy.
I tell my b/f everything so I cant lie 2 him & my ex knows me 2 well so if I lie, I cant get out of it.So there is no way I can go and not tell my b/f or not go and lie about it.Any ideas?
2006-06-17 11:37:56 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No reason to lie if you don't want to hurt ur b/f just don't go and tell ur ex to call his g/f.
2006-06-17 11:42:10 · answer #1 · answered by kittykat 2 · 12⤊ 2⤋
HEY, JUST BECAUSE YOU MOVED DIDNT MEAN U HAD TO BREAK UP WITH YOUR BOYFRIEND BACK HOME. YOU DONT HAVE TO LIE OR MAKE EXCUSES TO EITHER ONE OF THEM.TRULY IF IT WAS MEANT TO BE WITH EITHER ONE OF THE MEN IT WOULD HAPPEN. NOW THAT YOUR EX HAS A GF THAT IS SO NOT COOL TO SEE HIM ALONE. WHEN YOU DO SEE HIM OLD FEELINGS MIGHT COME BACK AND U DONT KNOW WHAT WILL HAPPEN THEN THATS UR CURRENT BF AND HIS CURRENT GF HURT IN THE PROCESS BC U 2 WEREN'T OVER EACH OTHER. IF U DO DECIDE TO GO SEE UR EX MAYBE THE TALK SHOULD BE ABOUT HOW UR CURENT BF MAKES YOU FEEL INSTEAD OF U TWO REMINISCING ABOUT WHAT U 2 HAD. IF UR CURRENT BOYFRIEND IS SO AMAZING THEN DONT HURT HIM BC OF YOU AND YOUR EX BF SELFISH REASONS. I MEAN IF U CANT SEE UR CURRENT BF AS ANYTHING MORE THAN THAT OR SEE ANY KIND OF FUTURE..IM SURE HE WOULD MUCH APPRECIATE THAT THAN LEAVING HIM FOR YOUR EX BF. I MEAN AT LEAST U CAN GAIN A FRIENDSHIP OUT OF LOYAL RESPECT. I THINK U AND UR EX BF BOTH SHOULD PUT EACH OTHER IN THE CURRENT SIGNIFACANT OTHERS SHOES AND SEE HOW THEY WOULD FEEL. IM SURE U WOULSNT WANT UR AMAZING CURRENT BF TRYING TO SEE HIS EX GF AFTER HIM SAYING HE WOULD TRY AND GET OVER HER. DONT TRY JUDT DO IT.
2006-06-17 18:52:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The right thing to do is to not see the ex. You are only going to hurt everyone involved. Yourself, the ex b/f, his new g/f, and your new b/f. You are only asking for trouble if you see him. It is also him being dishonest with you and the new g/f if he is willing to see you. Your gut instincts are probably telling you not to see him, and that really is the best advice you can get.
2006-06-17 18:44:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think you should tell your ex the truth. Tell him that you have a boyfriend and you dont want to hurt him.. Your ex has a gf right then he shouldnt do that to his gf either. If yall both were okay with it yall could go out as friends.
2006-06-17 18:44:04 · answer #4 · answered by Jessi R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
which evar 1 luvs u enuff will tell u and if he has a GF then there is no use in making this a lie, tragedy, and mor pain OK just stay where u r and watevar floats ur boat K
2006-06-17 18:43:16 · answer #5 · answered by i_luv_ca2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've already decided to see your ex and you've come on here looking for approval. So, go do what you're going to do: see your ex, and then lie to your "awesome" boyfriend.
Guys, take note.
2006-06-17 18:41:23 · answer #6 · answered by jackmack65 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump him now. he is seeing someone else. and dont USE him to get over ur ex. then u dont actuall ylike him for who he is. u just like him cus he takes ur mind off of ur ex. ur weird. stop using ppl. get a life. get some hobbies or a job. itll help. then when ur not on the rebound. then start dating again and find that special someone that u will love and cherish and live and love and love forever and evaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa and evere and eva!!??!~!~!!!!~~~~!!~~~~~~~~~/. lol jk but still. listen to wat i said before or else ur just guna get hurt again like with ur ex then ull have more than 5 ex's. ok? ok. ok? ok....
2006-06-17 18:42:01 · answer #7 · answered by SJK 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not see him!
2006-06-17 18:41:20 · answer #8 · answered by broncosfan1730 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell the ex bf, it's to painful for you and everyone involved to see him any more.
2006-06-17 18:46:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A word of advice - never go backwards in life, always go forward, this applies to relationships as well.
2006-06-17 18:41:05 · answer #10 · answered by LadyRebecca 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋