I am single and in my 40's. I have had a very rough time with dating at this age than I have at any other time of my life. So I was looking for other people who have also experienced difficulties in dating in their 40's. was looking for anyone to share their experiences, good or bad with me. Maybe give some helpful advice.
2006-06-17 10:53:44 · 16 answers · asked by janedo63 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i know what you mean and as a man it's even a little harder becuase as you know all us men are no good cheaters [ well not really ] but its tough nomatter you are but don't settle for less cus you've already learned how to see pass the bs
2006-06-17 11:05:06 · answer #1 · answered by wilco254 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Gee, I wish I could give you some positive advice.
I wish I could give myself some positive advice.
Ah, skip all the "matchmaking" efforts, commercial and otherwise. Skip the bars, and drinking focused functions. All those people are looking for a "target" all too often for a one nighter, or a scam.
Participate in activities that really interest you. Dancing classes are an excellent choice, political and social service projects can be good. Friends of mine who are pro sports fans say that getting involved there is an excellent way to meet men interested in pro sports. I can't vouch for it, I avoid pro-sports. If you like cowboys, volunteer with the rodeo committees. You get the idea. Be out doing something worthwhile and of interest to you. If you are a religious person, get involved with church activities and groups, but even there the singles groups can be treacherous. ( snakes are lurking in all sorts of cover) If you like theater, perhaps community theater projects would be a good choice. Best Wishes.
2006-06-17 18:05:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mom is currently 42 and she's been single since she got divorced in 1995 from my dad all of her relationships have been scum. She divorced my dad because he was cheating on her, then all the guys she met in singles bars or whatever would flirt with her but never call her back. Then she sort of got serious dating in 2001 I think. She dated our neighbor that lived like 2 doors down from us and he was a jerk. He was really mean to me and my mom. One night my mom went over to his house to say hey and he was supposed ly sleeping on the couch and when she came in he beat the wall and said "What the f*** are you doing here". And my mom doesn't smoke and doesn't like smokers and he hid that from her. But the worst relationship was in 2002-2004. My mom had been dating this guy that she thought was nice and he proposed and she said yeah. So they got married and we moved in with him like 4 towns away and I had to leave my school and start a whole new life. And it was a "happy" marriage for about 2 months. Then he became aggressive and mean and hateful. He went for 3 months without saying a word to me when I did nothing wrong and he treated my mom like crap, he was a smarta.s.s, he borrowed money from my mom and never paid her back. Plus he didn't borrow like 100 dollars, he borrowed like 15,000 dollars and never gavce it back. Lets get this straight too: my mom is not rich enough to be giving 15 thousand dollars out. Still hasn't paid back and never will. he wouldn't sign the divorce papers for the longest time so when we moved back to our town we had to rent an apartment because we didn't wanna buy a house because then his name would be on the house. I just can't believe how men are and act and have no conscience. I'm starting to think all men are dogs.
PS- don't go to bars or singles bars or dating services to find a guy.
2006-06-17 18:08:02 · answer #3 · answered by DisneyLover 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go out with your girlfriends, and have a blast. Guys notice happy women, and with a little luck you will acquire a few digits, then take it from there. Just remember to smile, and keep your head up. Nothing is quite as a attractive as a confident woman. Leave your troubles in the closet. Best Regards!
2006-06-17 18:06:30 · answer #4 · answered by Battlerattle06 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was 19 , I worked with a 40 year old woman and I finally got her to go out with me. We hit it off and stayed together until I had to go into the Army. I came home but she had a new guy. He was20. I loved her and think about her every day. I wish you luck and maybe a young guy can make you happy. Lots of Luck to you.
2006-06-17 17:58:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Join a club that way you won't feel as though you are alone, or take a friend with you, there are still plenty of single people out there in their 40's good luck and keep smiling.
2006-06-17 17:57:13 · answer #6 · answered by getting warmer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow 40 is the right peak age for a woman to enjoy, contact me in private we can share a lot, by the way I am 43
2006-06-17 17:56:51 · answer #7 · answered by induswolf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be yourself - take things slow - listen to your heart - remember past experiences and never settle for just anyone. a lot of singles in their early 30tys and 40tys hang out in coffee houses and poetry readings. great place to meet singles.
2006-06-17 17:57:20 · answer #8 · answered by Savage 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Join a neighbourhood mediation group, they are mostly looking for wives.
And watch out for balding '40' somethings w. wolf in their names.
2006-06-17 17:58:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont mean to sound negative but...the dating world sucks BIG TIME! I would avoid bars and stick with friends setting you up..or websites. And dont date coworkers either.
2006-06-17 17:55:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋