I can't fall in love "on purpose", with my male friend or with someone I just find nice and good-looking. I have to fall in love and of course, it has to be mutual. But somehow, I feel like I may remain single for the rest of my life and I hate it. How do I accept this possibility and feel good about it? It hurts me to think that may happen.
2006-06-17 10:43:57 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know how you feel, I'm 36 and still single and I sometimes wonder about it as well. But once you're ok with yourself and ready for a mature relationship, and once you have made yourself available through friends or online dating or whatever else, then there's only so much you can do beyond that.
Life is half chance, it seems, or at least beyond our control much of the time. The best way to accept the possibility of being alone is to be sure you are happy with yourself and what you are doing in life, to ensure that your life has substance and meaning regardless of finding that true love that may or may not ever arrive. I wish you the best. I'm in the boat with you! :)
2006-06-17 10:48:34 · answer #1 · answered by JStrat 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well to be honest love just happens it is what you both feel. Its like you guys have a connection that you both feel and know there is alot more there. You wont remain single for the rest of you life but look at as maybe you just havent met him yet. I first fell in love when i was 15 and now i finally fell in love again ten years later to find my guy. i love with all my heart so dont give up too soon just relax and sit back he'll appear when you least expect it. Good luck too you
2006-06-17 10:49:18 · answer #2 · answered by rosewthorns99 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely not. My Aunt was in one serious relationship her entire adult life. She was engaged to be married in her early 20s before he passed away. She is turning 60 this year and has never regretted not having someone in her life. She is a tad bit selfish, and there is nothing wrong with that. She likes expensive jewelry and traveling and keeping a tidy house. She has done so many more things in her life than she ever would have been able to if she was married with kids. All that being said.. When I was younger I had given up on love and accepted I was going to be alone the rest of my life. Funny thing though, when you finally stop looking, love shows up on your doorstep. Now that I am with the man I plan on marrying, I can't imagine not being with him and having children in the future.
2016-03-27 19:12:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone can fall in love. Maybe you aren't finding the right people because you aren't hanging around enough with people you would be compatible with. Find a girlfriend and go somewhere OUT of your element that you normally wouldn't go to. You may feel like you're putting yourself out there but I think there's still a lot you aren't offering of yourself. It's a possibility for everyone that they may not find love. Immerse yourself in your other loves and who knows that may take away some of the sting of not having that person. But give it a chance, be spontaneous and don't be so picky at first. Take a chance on a chance and who knows you may end up finding the love of your life!
2006-06-17 10:49:51 · answer #4 · answered by easternchic2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay.........
I used to feel that way also. But maybe if you wait for a guy to ask you out, it might not happenn. So you should try asking some guys out. Or you could get a myspace. you are guaranteed to find someone up there. But I doubt that you'll be single forever. It will happen....you'll fall in love!!!
Dealing with being single......
Try hanging out with your female friends more often. Or try group dating with your girl friends.
2006-06-17 10:58:24 · answer #5 · answered by +*♥Janai Stayz Ballin♥*+ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find u before anybody even if its boring 4 a while
Patience and a little time. Think of it this way there are 4 billion people on this planet there is always someone 4 everyone
2006-06-17 10:54:30 · answer #6 · answered by jp5150 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will fall in love when ypu least expect it. Love cannot be forced it has to happen naturally. Many times it happens to be a person we never looked at in that way in the past. Keep your head up.
2006-06-17 10:49:12 · answer #7 · answered by Ben O 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're 24 and you just got rejected by your teacher, relax you've got years to find a guy. Try seeing the beauty in young sensitive dweeb types they are always appreciative.
2006-06-17 10:49:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel that way too...sometimes, but I don't think you will be "single" for the rest of your life. You have friends and family right? spend your time with them and you'll never feel single.
2006-06-17 10:47:57 · answer #9 · answered by nomakeup 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your not ready love it can't be forced it will come when you least expect it try not to be so hard on yourself when the right one comes along you'll know cause you'll feel it in your heart when it is that time you will not be alone it just not your time for love do the usual things you do try to enjoy life and not worry about being alone cause you won't be it's just love comes when you least expect it
2006-06-17 10:52:22 · answer #10 · answered by Rivelle W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋