i dont look religious but i did tell him on out first date im religious he was surprised but didnt say anything
he believe in god but doesnt have anything to do with religion
after a month that everything was perfect he decided to end it cause i wont date him during shabat n he cant talk to me n thats hard 4 him so he dont wanna get 2 attached
???
m i d only1 that thinks this is n excuse?
did i miss something here?
2006-06-17 10:33:56 · 26 answers · asked by irena 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
yes im a jew
but the guy is also a jew
2006-06-17 10:52:16 · update #1
My guess is that he didn't really understand what 'being religious' meant in your case. People differ widely on what that phrase means in practice, so he may well have simply misunderstood. When he found out that your religion prevented him from having the type of relationship he wants, he began to distance from you. Makes sense to me.
2006-06-17 10:40:10 · answer #1 · answered by mathematician 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Guys are pigs who like to have your attention 24/7. Its just that simple. You are religious thats a great thing if it works for you. If he cant understand that then its not worth it anyway. You dont have the same values. He was lazy and didnt want to try and find a way to make it work and that is no way your fault.
2006-06-17 17:39:30 · answer #2 · answered by SexyLilChick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes! I will dump a bible thumping chick in a heartbeat. I dated a religious chick for 10 years. I never will agin. It doesn't work no matter how long you avoid the subject eventually you have to deal with it. And religious people don't generally leave well enough alone.
2006-06-17 17:38:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relationships are about finding the person that you feel good with and have like interests and common friends etc.etc. If there is an aspect of ones life that is very important it is your religious views.If two people don't agree then there will always be conflict.I know from experience. So its better to find people of like ideas and belief.
2006-06-17 17:44:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, he might have wanted someone who does not make religion a "big issue" in their lives. You answered your own question: "he believes in 'god' but doesnt have anything to do with religion". That's your answer for his breaking it off. You want religion to be a big issue in your life. He doesn't.
Attachment to someone who holds a different path in life can be devastating for some to "detach" from. Just let him go, forgive him in your time and move on. :-)
To answer the first question.....if my man is going to have issues with my atheism, then yes, I would break it off. It is solely on the premise of "making it a bothersome issue" within the relationship. I have NO problems dating christian men, provided they don't care about my atheism. It will be THEY who make it a bigger deal than it really is concerning the relationship, not I. Love is more important to me than religion.
2006-06-17 17:46:35 · answer #5 · answered by Nikki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best relationships have a better chance of lasting if they are based in Faith believed by both the man and the woman.
Genesis 2:24 (Read all of Genesis 2)
Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.
2006-06-17 17:38:39 · answer #6 · answered by webdoggy2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely
2006-06-17 17:39:49 · answer #7 · answered by cpinatsi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i mean, if you devout your life to serving Jesus, and then the person you are with doesnt even care about Him, then you try to bring them into the reality of who Jesus is, and if that doesn't work then the person could be getting in the way of your relationship with God. Now in your case, i would say that he's not worth the trouble if he doesn't respect your beliefs.
2006-06-17 17:40:35 · answer #8 · answered by Hafeman 5000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think ur BF he got new GF so that is y he making excuses lolz... so jus leave him alone u will get nice one if u r good enough ok.. dont look for boy they will come to you cuz m boy too.. ok then have a gret day lo...actually i dont no nothing about this site i as jus going through and looking all question and only ur Question is the one which caught by ma eye,, so m here with ma opinon.. babye
2006-06-17 17:39:58 · answer #9 · answered by tenzin kunga 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, different people have different lifestyles, needs and wants. If you can't make your lifestyles work with each other and you can't work your way around the supposed problems, then it's just best to not get into a relationship with someone where you always seriously bump heads.
2006-06-17 17:40:32 · answer #10 · answered by tracym_pro 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋