please answer this?!?

Question

Will i become just like my mom and dad? They are both doctors that work at a hospital, and I know they love me, and they have supported me so much through out my life. However, as doctors there are always patients that come in sick to the hospital, and they need my parents to save their lives. So there were times when that took away their time from me. I will be at Yale University this fall as a freshmen going into medicine to become a Neurologist. I know i still have lots of time left before thinking about my family, but will be just like my parents where i need to go help my patients and spend less time with my kids?

Answer 1

Balancing career and family has always been a tough tight rope to walk. You know what you can handle. If need be, you can always put off having a family until your career is established. That way you can afford time off.

You're not alone, and it's not only doctors who have this problem. Any career takes work, as does a family. The trick is to maintain balance between both, and that takes time and practice.

Good luck at Yale. Have a great time and a great life.

Answer 2

I would say that depends entirely on you!!

As a working parent there are always times when your job will effect your family life.This could either be during the holidays or if your child is sick and you have to work. It is always difficult and makes you feel like the worst parent that ever lived, but you do and will make up for it in many ways.
As long as your children are given plenty of quality time when you can manage it, they won't be too effected. If you think about it, they do actually spend most of their time at school, and then they go off to work themselves so there really isn't that much time that they spend at home.
I know my children hate it when I have to work when they are off, but they do see the benefits when I take them out for a special meal. or I buy them that special gift I promised them. When I am at home, they do have my attention at all times and they are old enough to understand that I can't always be with them all of the time. This is even more difficult if you are a single parent.

Going into medicine does take a lot of time and dedication and I think it is a fantastic and very satisfying job to do, but it is also demanding and frustrating. Helping sick people is probably one of the reasons you went into it in the first place. There will be times when the needs of your patients will take priority, but that just comes with the territory.
By the sounds of it, you have understood how hard it must have been for your parents. They supported you and most of all they loved you. If you have realised this then they must have done a very good job in raising you and I am sure when you become a parent you will do just as good a job as they have done.

Answer 3

only you can choose your role in your job. If you choose to take a job as a very involved neurologist and you are always on call then yes you will be just like your parents...but if you choose to work the hours that you are scheduled for a hospital or even a more low key job like at a clinic then you can spend as much time as you want with your kids. Remember that in a small town you're always going to be needed more than in a big/medium sized city where there is more than one neurologist. You could always choose a different career path as well. You could do something just as important as neurology but less demanding. Remember...only YOU can choose how your life will go

Answer 4

There is a good chance that you will have a lot of your time taken up by your future patients. There are certain physicians who are more on demand than others - like obgyn's - who are always on call.
You could always open up a private practice and depending on what your specialty is you could have a pretty normal schedule. If you do appointment type surgeries (like plastic surgeons) then you do office visits, scheduled surgey, check on patients. But you have to realize that by being a doctor and treating patients you are always going be "on call" if your patients need you.
Talk to your parents about how you feel and about your concerns. Let them know that you want to be able to be a doctor but still be able to be a good parent/spouse in the future. Since they are doctors they can probably give you a good idea of what to specialize in if you don't want a hectic schedule.

Answer 5

I seriously hope that you're going to school to be a neurologist because it's something you love and are truly interested in and not just because both of your parents are doctors.

Answer 6

Why not become a pharmacist instead? Something where you only put in a certain amount of time a week and get paid big. Best of luck.

Answer 7

u can if ya wana but u should get a decent job and spend more time withya kids. it'll make up for all the times u'r parents had to leave u!!!
follow u'r heart
good luk
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Answer 8

if u love ur parents as they r . like to save ppl's lives then plz go ahead b a life saviour family person

Answer 9

That's the only Life you know...and, it seems like you're already following the same path.

It's up to You to decide how you want to spend the rest of your life.

Answer 10

well, you know what it's like to not have your parents around all the time. So try to spend more time with your family by decreasing your hours.........it can be done.