I'm 29 & she's 23. We have never had sex..Thing is I wanna avoid 2 things. 1st that I have my honeymoon without deflowering her, 2nd that I go on honeymoon when she's in pain cos of losing virginity. Also tell me..does it give pain to Boy also when he does for the first time & what should I do to have a successful wedding night?? First time should I use a condom or not?? Tell me all details..
2006-06-17 09:55:57 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Hey hey, easy on this guy, his spelling doesn't look like a 14 yr old kid, but it looks like English is a 2nd language to him. In some countries (I'm in USA), a 29 yr old male virgin isn't a rare thing at all. In some societies, it's quite common.
There is no pain for the male. If a female is healthy, there is pain when breaking virginity, but it doesn't last long, only during the penetration, and the pain usually goes away soon after that. I mean in minutes, usually not hours, and definitely not for days. Don't worry, she will enjoy her honeymoon without having to walk around in pain. If she does, she needs a doctor, because prolonged pain from intercourse indicates she may have some kind of illness in her female parts.
Deflowering on the wedding night is a normal, natural, beautiful thing. It's a holy thing, why the concern for it? If you both really don't want to do that on the 1st night, you don't have to. But a healthy, happy marriage includes a beautiful sex life. She will not be any less honorable once she breaks her virginity with you, because you will be her
As for birth control, if you two want to have children, then don't use it. If you want to wait, then look into the various forms of birth control. If you both don't want to use a condom, then she can see a doctor to get birth control pills. If she doesn't smoke, then it's okay for her to start taking them before the wedding. I'm not saying for you to have sex before the wedding, but for her to start taking them before the wedding.
I hope this helps.
2006-06-17 11:39:08 · answer #1 · answered by Dolores G. Llamas 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Personally, It didnt hurt at all when i lost mine. I think that the only reason people say it hurts is because the guy just goes right in. What you get to do is get some lubricant and dont just shove it all in at once. Seriously, that'd hurt no matter how many times shes had sex. Go in a little at a time and then slowly go in a little further each time. Its a perfectly natural process and if you do it right, her body will respond and lubricate itself and open her up a little more. Thats really all u have to do. Plus foreplay to get her in the mood- if shes not in the mood, it wont be as good. Be playful~ Have Fun & dont stress-
2006-06-17 16:00:44 · answer #2 · answered by Passionately Vulnerable 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a hard time believing you're actually 29, because you're spelling is that of a child. But to answer your question, you don't have to have sex on your honeymoon. Second, there is no pain for the male. If you're married, using a condom is up to you. If you want to get pregnant, don't use one. If she doesn't, use one or at least some form of birth control.
2006-06-17 10:04:26 · answer #3 · answered by MegW12 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You sound like some sick 14year old puppies looking to read other peoples sexual experience, you are old enough to join some adult channels and read or watch about the subject.
if you are 29 and you type like a kiddie, it makes one wonder if you are mature enough to do what you do.
2006-06-17 10:00:21 · answer #4 · answered by Cupcake 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If I tell you these secrets, I'm going to have to send out ninjas
2006-06-17 09:59:35 · answer #5 · answered by Shinigami 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to do it on your wedding night. Talk to her about what she wants. No, it won't hurt you.
2006-06-17 09:59:33 · answer #6 · answered by greeneyedprincess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋