how do i explain to my family that i don't want to talk about it anymore????
2006-06-17 09:41:27 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
this problem is occuring after i have told them i don't want to talk about it they are always asking me if im alright hows my stomach do i miss the babies do i wish i was still pregnant until i just want to scream
2006-06-17 09:46:50 · update #1
I am so very sorry for your loss. I know how painful it is to lose a baby. People mean well, and I know you know that. Ask them not to talk about this, and if you need to talk about it, you will bring it up. They should understand, and I hope you understand too, that your family has also lost twin babies. Some people heal by talking about it, and others take different routes. I can also tell you, that your Mother is hurting double, for your babies loss, and for her babies pain. When you were little and something hurt you it was easy for her to take care of you. But now she has no control or any way to stop this pain, so she is trying to help you cope the only way she knows how. You have a long road ahead of you, but you will persevere. I know for now, it doesn't feel like it. It was 24 years ago that I lost a baby son. To this day, October can not come and go, without thinking about him. The pain has lessen thru the years, but my heart still feels the void where he was to fill in. Hang on tight, give it time, and ask God to help you to deal with your precious loss.
2006-06-17 09:54:32 · answer #1 · answered by smplyme132 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sorry on your loss...... on your first question, conjoined twins ensue while the fertilized egg is going to chop as much as make 2 babies, and that they dont chop up thoroughly and proceed to boost attatched to a minimum of one yet another. There are some conjoined twins that do make it and are born, yet being conjoined could have a multitude of well being subjects in contact, if the twins shared a heart, there replace right into a sturdy threat the middle wasnt sturdy adequate to pump blood to the two babies inflicting one to no longer be possible which might reason the different to die too. it may no longer have been sharing a heart replace into the concern the two, there could have been subjects with their genetic makeup that made it so they did no longer proceed to grow, their organs will possibly no longer have been arising wisely considering the fact that they have been conjoined and it made them no longer be possible babies. there are a number of subjects with a single being pregnant that could reason miscarriage, and conjoined twins there are extra issues on precise of it.... there replace into no longer something you have got executed to circumvent this. it truly is continually difficult dropping infants no matter how previous they are. have you ever concept-approximately perchance having like a small memorial provider or some thing to assist your grieving technique? it could help some. it is going to take it slow to flow with the aid of grieving on your lost twins, yet sometimes those issues basically ensue. and at the same time because it truly is a tragedy, you would be waiting to get with the aid of this difficult time and doubtless attempt for extra teenagers interior the destiny. besides the babies have been maximum in all probability no longer examined on, they have been too small to also have a probable thank you to attraction to bloos from them, babies at 12 weeks are in user-friendly terms a pair inches long and could weigh in user-friendly terms approximately an oz....besides you probable didnt experience between the 'kick' if that they had no heartbeat and alter right into a miscarriage there is no way they way they could be shifting.
2016-10-31 01:31:52 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh Honey, I am so sorry. Bless you. Say, "I know you mean well, but I don't want to talk about it anymore for awhile". If they keep pressing or analizing, you can always change to a new subject or nicely excuse yourself. You know it has to be you that stops it. Be strong.
2006-06-17 09:49:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl I'm sorry to hear that. This is what you do, tell them that it is over, you are dealing with it in your own way and you just don't want to talk anymore about it, they should understand.
2006-06-17 09:45:09 · answer #4 · answered by Davenport 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you can afford it go away maybe visit a friend who lives out of the town yr in. from there write a letter . you feel much more comfortable and beable to relax with yr thoughts
2006-06-17 09:45:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my ex fiance lost two. so i know from a guys side of it how you feel. be honest with them and explain to them that you will deal with it in your own way and would rather not talk about it. they will respect your decision.
2006-06-17 09:46:20 · answer #6 · answered by kidmccloud 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry about your loss.
Why don't you take a vacation alone where no one knows you?
Feel better and then maybe you can get back to routine life.
2006-06-17 09:52:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell them you lost your babies and its very emotional and you dont want to talk about it right now
sorry for your loss
2006-06-17 09:45:21 · answer #8 · answered by Nightchild 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
m so sorry. You should just tell them straight up that your hurting more by them mentioning the tradegy to u
2006-06-17 09:50:19 · answer #9 · answered by isashell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell them how you feel and i'm sure they will give you the space you deserve..Sorry for your loss:(
2006-06-17 09:44:47 · answer #10 · answered by preciousmoments1962 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋