what do you do to deal with jealousy?

Answer 1

Jealousy is rooted in feelings of unworthiness for me. I feel jealous if I am insecure in a relationship, or in myself. I feel jealous if I believe that I need something outside myself to be OK, something that you may have. I feel jealous if you get a nice motorcycle and I feel that I need that in order to be OK. It is all rooted in how I feel about myself. Self esteem comes from doing esteem able acts. So if I am feeling low I do something to be of service to others or I find other ways to feed my spirit. I always feel better about myself when I am living a life with a little discipline, like working out on a regular basis or keeping my house clean. That is just what works for me, only you know what works for you.

Answer 2

Jealousy is a hard one. I try to deal with it by asking myself what it is I am fearful of?

Am I afraid that someone else is better than me? Not possible, as we are all part of God and therefore equal in spiritual stature to God. Am I afraid that I don't have enough things? Maybe, but I have so much more than the majority of the world's population could ever hope to have. Am I afraid of not being treated fairly? Possibly, but I can only be a doormat if I allow others to take advantage of me, so that is within my control.

Once I have eliminated my fears I realize that there is truly nothing to fear, and I can continue trying to live a love-based as opposed to a fear-based life.

Answer 3

Thankfully, most of the time, the jealousies that I felt in the past were "petty and small"----I am able to tell which is which and just say "it isn't worth it", and that I have better things to attend to than this petty jealousy. :-) I am better than that. :-)

If the jealousy is deeper than mere pettiness.....what works for me is introspection. I find out the reasons for my jealousy, then work on the source for the jealousy (fear, anger, resentment, hurt feelings, etc). That usually helps me.

Answer 4

i deal with jealousy the same way i deal with anger or hurt feelings. i pray that God would take it from me, but more so, i pray for the people i'm jelous of. i pray God would bless them and help them through any problems. i try to be as kind and loving as possible to them and try to see what they're going through...that they're only human too. this has always worked for me.

Answer 5

I keep reminding myself that I don't see the full picture , maybe I see a person and feel jealous of Him/her ,while this person is suffering from a problem that I don't know nothing about.

Answer 6

Sit down and think of how silly it is to be jealous and that everyone is special in the own way and there is o reason to be jealous.

Answer 7

Breath and take 10 sec. to cool off. It really works! I know.

Answer 8

Remind myself how wonderful a person I am. :)

Well... I'd do that if I had any esteem. x__x

- 16 yo Pagan

Answer 9

I think off all the crap I own.