my boyfriend and I have been in a relationship for three years. the relationship at the beginning was damn good, but as the relationship grows it begins to fall out of shape. He became distance, not answering his phone and always say he to business. A month ago he told me that the sex wasn't good enough, but I did everything possible to make him enjoy thre sex.I know he's cheating on me, but it is just too hard to leave him, what should I do?
2006-06-17 09:11:03 · 6 answers · asked by milkshake 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, you can go on being this creep's f u c k t o y, or you can grow up, see the light and hit the road. You deserve better!
The kind of male who behaves this way is selfish to the max, and immature as can be. But he's really not the problem: the problem is whatever makes you put up with him! You're looking for security and comfort that simply isn't there, but you're too afraid to go out looking for those treasures with someone new.
Look, it always hurts when a partner turns out to be such a creep. I should know; I've run into a number of women who behaved the same way. You WILL get over it but that won't even begin until you leave this cretin. There was a song by the group "Alabama" a number of years ago that helped me get through a particularly traumatic divorce: the number was "Can't Keep a Good Man Down." It applies equally well to your situation: Y'cant Keep a Good Woman Down!
Dump his scumsucking behind, pick yourself up and get on with life. Take some classes if you're not in school so you can broaden your horizons. Volunteer at a soup kitchen or your local veteran's hospital - you'll meet others there of your own age and interests. Learn to dance, if you don't know how: swing dancing is very popular, and it's a darn good way to keep your girlish figure. And honey, us good guys LOVE a nice svelte girl! Don't hop in the sack right away with a new squeeze but give it time to develop. If the newbie wants sack time right away, he's much more likely to pull the same crap on ya that you're dealing with right now!
Be patient: not all of us are that sort of slimesucker! Y'just gotta give us a little time to recognize what a treasure you are!
2006-06-17 09:45:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
One of the biggest down falls in relationships today and why they do not last is because life and relationships are rushed. You sit down and say grandma and grandpa stayed together for ever they got along why cant me and he/she get along. Back in the day things were a bit different people did not jump so quickly in and out of a relationship. everything was slower so they really get to know each other. Oh men and women havent changed so much but their standards have. normally a lot of relationships start out great and very passionate then they begin to slack - the reason is much like eating pizza if you eat it everyday three meals a day 7 days a week soon Pizza becomes tasteless and boring soon you eat less and less and start looking for something else and this is what most people do. not just men mind you there are plenty of women who do the same. back in the day things were done in moderation and only very passionate times were every now and then. If you give your very best all the time what else can you give to make things fun and exciting well some try adding a third party to spice it up some do role playing but these things can get out of control. it is not so much he has grown tired of you but more like bored with the situation finding someone else is like finding burgers and fries instead of pizza still sex but a different flavor. Now how to keep a relationship strong and alive and long lasting well it is all about setting standards and giving in moderation. If you give a guy oral every night how special is it. give it to him on his birthday, christmas etc... something to look forward to. Now don't get me wrong i am not saying you give him oral every night because i do not know I am just giving examples. what I am saying is people get in ruts because life becomes routine I am guessing like most you both know the love making by heart you know what hand to put where to give him what he wants he knows as well.
You want him more attentive now well show him you have a different meal lined up. if you refine dress slutty. if your slutty dress innocent. in other words role playing change positions get out of the rut show him your exciting and can do other things your daring you take chances break the norm give him a hand job driving down the road take a bubble bath under candle light together. then the next time you do something different this will make him excited to come home and see what may be next. encourage him to think of stuff too. well however you handle this I wish you the best of luck.
2006-06-17 09:37:29 · answer #2 · answered by Savage 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relationships that last awhile really needs work to keep it going strong.
People now-a-days tend to become bored real fast and start looking elsewhere to get that feeling of being with someone new.
Sometimes it's a phase they are going through but loves you and wants to work things out,
(are you willing to take him back if you find out he cheated on you????)
and then again....
Sometimes they just want to move on....
You need to talk to him and tell him your feelings!!! Find out what's going on with him to know where you stand in the relationship!!!
You guys must have a good communication going on.
If not, then you have to ask yourself how far you going to go to reach to him , and then if that doesn't work for you, you have to let go.
2006-06-17 09:26:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
adult men frequently cheat because of lack of sex or the sex sucks. adult men are particularly straight forward. we desire distinctive reliable sex... 2-3 cases a week or better. If a lady is undesirable in mattress or in reality needs sex once a week or a lot less, then that merely isn't sufficient. adult men are straight forward so we merely ascertain our situation. We frequently ask for better sex, yet when we do not get it, we detect someone who would have better sex. situation solved. both have sufficient sex or get cheated on. it really is all there is to it.
2016-10-14 06:20:33 · answer #4 · answered by rybicki 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reason men cheat is because they are stupid enough to think "the grass is greener on the other side" then they screw up, piss us off, and then us women leave....or at least the smart ones do!
2006-06-17 09:22:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because most men are PIGS!!!
2006-06-17 09:30:53 · answer #6 · answered by unicornfarie1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋