If I pray..?

Question

I am a Born Again Christian, and I've been through a life of verbal/emotional abuse my whole life from my father, then to a long relationship boyfriend.

I fight the tears everynight, but pray to God, to send me the man of my dreams.

I do everything for God, I love him very much, and my life without him is worthless.

If I pray all the time for the right Christian Godly Man, will God send me one one day?

I've just been going through a time of depression/and etc.

It hurts my soul, and im beautiful, and i have no reason to be insecure.

THank you!

Answer 1

Well yes.

The thing is that God does indeed answer prayes but in his own way and his own time. Patience.

OH yeah - don't forget that he also helps those who help themselves.

Go out and look a little - it never hurts. Be social. Meet people in coffeeshops and bookstores or other social places.

I mean it's not like a guy is gonna knock on your door and say, "Hey, I was talking to god yesterday and he tols me that you wanted a Boyfriend so I just figured I'd stop by." Well I guess stranger things have happened but whatever.

O.K so someone once told me a story about a dude who prayed every day and asked god to show him what his future wife would look like. Apparently he had a dream and invisioned this girl with dark hair or something and met her shortly after.

Im not sure how common that is but it's worth a try.

Here's the deal. DON"T LOSE PATIENCE. You may have some journeying to do alone, you may not. You may need to learn some things on your own before God thinks you're ready for a Quality Relationship - which by the way are somewhat difficult for most people to find. Be patient and don't do what I did and blow up at God because you're angry you're not getting your way. You may feel like it but keep in mind whom the guy is who makes you feel that way - It's not God so theres only one other guy whom it could be.

Good luck.

I have had most of my prayers answered in one way or another but it takes more time than you might think for some of them to get answered. The big guy's got a path for all of us. You got to take all the steps on your path or you could become lost - plus you wouldn't be able to see all the wonderful sights.

Peace!

Answer 2

You must remember that God has a plan for you. You can't pray for a man, pray for God to show you the path he wants for you. There are many more things in life and much better ways to serve the Lord than to worry about needing a man. God will answer your prayers if you pray for guidance and strength, but you cannot ask for a specific thing like that...that may not be what he wants for you right now. Please don't allow the devil to convince you that because your prayers aren't being answered you should loose your faith. Be blessed

Answer 3

Sister, God ALWAYS answers your prayers !

Sometimes we don't recognize the answer, because God gives us what we need, instead of what we ask for. It's like a child who is hungry and asks for candy, but instead is served dinner.

I urge you to keep praying. As a counselor, I urge you to pray for healing, instead of another relationship. No other person can "fix you" -- soothe your soul, get you out of depression, and stop your tears at night. God is your comforter and healer. No one else is as dependable and trustworthy -- which your experiences should have taught you. Until you learn that lesson, you will keep having the same experiences.

Asking God for the man of your dreams isn't like asking for a present from Santa Claus. You will attract a man who is attracted to a woman like you. Right now, the woman you are seems to be attracting abusive relationships. When you change who you are, what you have to offer, and what you expect from a relationship, different men will be attracted to you.

Here's a quick exercise. Imagine your dream man. Imagine it's the weekend, and he's doing something that he really enjoys. Get inside of HIS head, and look at the woman he's spending time with. What kind of woman is she? What does he love / admire about her? Why would he choose her out of all other women? Are YOU the kind of woman that HE would want?

If you'd like to talk more, please email me. I can suggest some books to read while you're waiting for your prayers to be answered. May God bless you !

Answer 4

God said I will not hold no good thing from you. Your not ready yet because if you were you would be married already be patient and humble. The right man will come along and find you. You need to become whole what I mean is stay in God's word and become a strong independent woman. once you start doing that those things will begin to change. you don't need a man to bring happiness in your life and when you began to realize that, the right one will soon begin to spot you. Yes there will be a couple of imitations but you will know when he comes along.

Answer 5

It's very sad that you pray to God for a good man instead of understanding how you are attracting bad men and doing something about it yourself. Those who pray with a life threatening illness instead of going to the doctor die. The same non improvement will happen for you if you don't get onto doing something about it. You could see a therapist to better understand what it is from your past with your father that makes you seek the same in a boyfriend and learn to deactivate this as well as boosting your self esteem and getting out of your depression. Just praying and waiting for something to improve on its own will only make things worse for you.

Answer 6

you sound like you are a firm christian and i admire that, but you know who your soul belongs with. try not to worry so much about sharing it with someone else rite now. if and when God is ready for you to have someone he will send him. stop looking so hard. im sure you already do but try to concentrate harder on the other things god has in store for you. i am kind of working opposite of you i guess. all my life, since i was a little girl i have prayed for children, i always wanted 5 kids and a set of twins in there. thats really about all. my faith had always come and gone. now as i sit here a single mom of two girls with a set of twins on the way (still single by the way) i am realizing, even when i pushed god away n tried to take care of things my self he was there all along. god answered my prayers. i never spent ne time praying about the rite man. if i had i may not be a single mother today. most of my family is very unhappy w. me rite now for not choosing adoption but i feel i owe this to god n a way. for once i am putting it all in his hands. i dont know how i am going to get thru this but i know he will help me along. god knew what i would choose to do if he allowed me the decision, if i was not ment for this they would not be here in my belly, or they would not have made it this far.

Answer 7

You can pray, but I think you got to "do all the legwork". You can only pray for strength, perserverence, guidance---but you have to do all the effort in finding the right guy.

Try volunteering at places where there are a lot of christians about---like Salvation Army, Food kitchens for the poor, etc. There are online personals specially built for christians. :-) Also being at christian forums can help a bit too. ;-) Sometimes volunteering can make one feel good, and plus it helps you make MORE friends. :-) Go for it! :-)

If depression is very bad, please, pretty please....seek help. Psychatrists are located in the phone book. If you are a minor, ask your school counselor for help. Praying helps, too, but I don't think depression can be treated just by praying. I care about you, believe it or not, cuz I have depression problems too.

Answer 8

While I don't have the same faith as you, I do have a spiritual life and a belief in something greater than our individual lives.

I also feel that if your prayers are truly answered, they won't be answered with a man. They will be answered with a realization that you need to be at peace with yourself, and love yourself, and be happy with your condition and place in life to the point that you do not need a man to fix you. Then, and only then, will you truly be in a place where such a man can come to you and be received in a healthy, loving relationship.

And I am sure you are beautiful, and that your prayers will be answered. Just perhaps not in quite the way you are currently imagining.

Hang in there. :)

Answer 9

Well I'm Christian too and that almost made me cry. But it depends. If you need a man bad enough, than God will send you one. But some of Gods greatest are unanswered prayers. I can't really give you an actual answer but I hope that helped.

Answer 10

no. you have no reason to be insecure.
and though it takes time usually, God will send you someone special, (that's why it's faith) that doesn't mean you can't help look too though, lol.
I'm 23 and still waiting on the on He has for me too.
maybe they are going through trials as we have and will meet up with us soon.
God bless you and have a wonderful day.

PS don't let any of the idiots on here bring you down, they are bitter and have no lives other than tormenting others and making ridiculous posts to questions they should stay out of all together.