I was out with my friend in a public place, and we noticed that this ugly, gross, over-makeup-itized girl and her equally disgusting friends (they go to my school, but I don't know them personally,)were making fun of this other person. The other person wasn't saying anything back, but was trying to ignore them. They were being sickeningly mean with how they were acting.
I don't know, I always get angry when I see someone getting made fun of. So... I began talking to my friend very loudly about how pathetic the gross, ugly girl was. She noticed, and she said "Do you got' a problem' wit' me?" in her ghetto tone, and I said "No, I just think you're a complete low-life."
She stopped... and I don't know, I wasn't sure if it was my place to tell her to stop. Was I out of line?
Isn't it the right thing to do to stick up for someone being made fun of?
Thanks for your input!
2006-06-17 08:03:21 · 25 answers · asked by doubled254 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
you werent out of line. it's ok to stick up for people if they cant do it for themeselves or need help doing it.
people like the skank you described prey on weaker people to make themselves feel bigger, and make themselves feel in control.
my guess is that she has a pretty crappy life, and doesnt have much control over the things that happen to her (family life, socioeconomic status etc) so she picks on people weaker than herself to give herself one aspect of her life she has a say over.
that doesnt make it any less wrong. i hate people like that
2006-06-17 08:10:27 · answer #1 · answered by Donkeytron 1 · 10⤊ 6⤋
Perhaps if people had more courage to step in when bullies abound many a tragedy in this country wouldn't have occurred. Not all will agree with the method you used, since you also used derogatory comments, perhaps you could have said something to your friend about how some people have the manners of a gutter snipe and should learn basic English before giving comments on others...but one way or the other you showed that action can help others.
2006-06-17 08:22:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good of you to respect others feelings..but in this day & age may want to rethink your approach. I have come across similar situations several times & politely spoke to the person being offended to let them know all people were not that rude.Those making the comments were just trying to get attention. Have a good life, it seems you are a well balanced person.
2006-06-17 08:38:22 · answer #3 · answered by Poetress36 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't tell her to stop you only acted the same as her with your friend to back you, Proving nothing. I admire the fact that you don't like seeing a person being bullied ,my thought is to simply ask the bully .. whats going on?why are you saying that ? what has that person ever done to you to deserve such treatment? Is this how your mother taught you to act?
2006-06-17 09:40:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Damn straight. Put the girl in her place. $hit you should've told her she ought to check herself out in the mirror before she makes herself a public eyesore just by stepping out of her house. Even better if you had told the other girl who got made fun of, to start sticking up for herself after a certain point.
2006-06-17 08:08:58 · answer #5 · answered by Tygirljojo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe your intentions were good but the way you went about accomplishing those intentions was lacking. While it's great to take up for someone who's being put down and picked on, picking on and putting down someone else isn't the way to get your point across. Next time try walking up to the one who's doing the belittling and say your piece directly to them rather than ABOUT them to the whole room. *smile*
2006-06-17 10:51:05 · answer #6 · answered by adagia27 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have good intentions, but you acted on them in the wrong way. You say you hate it when people are made fun of - good! - but trying to get back at someone by making fun of them wasn't the right way to go. "Fighting fire with fire" almost never works.
Next time, instead of making fun of someone as revenge for making fun of someone else, it would probably be wiser to deal with it effectively and bluntly. Just say "Shut it." or whatever.
But it was a good thing for you to stand up for someone who wasn't doing it themselves. kudos.
2006-06-17 09:52:26 · answer #7 · answered by theaterflicka 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, i do agreed with you,but maybe you could of used a different way of doing it....Like using different words than low-life...Because you put yourself down to this girls level....Do you see what i mean??I hope so...IT was totally COOl that you help the person that was being pick on...But next time,pick a different way of handle the problem...
Clowmy
2006-06-17 08:19:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing (lucky you didn't get creamed) but it has been my experience that a bully will back down if you stand up. That's why you only ever see them pickin on the underdog. What a way to live.
2006-06-17 08:17:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Some people need put in their place. it's not like you were "Captain Save a Ho" or anything. Maybe she will realize to look in the mirror and think before something comes out of her mouth.
2006-06-17 09:06:48 · answer #10 · answered by datchic412 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Next time be more polite, no need to stoop to their low life level. I think it's admirable that you wanted to help the girl they were picking on. Like I said next time be polite, that makes it even more fun.
2006-06-17 10:14:09 · answer #11 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋