I am 18 he is 15. We got together when I was 17. He had the biggest crush on me but I wouldnt give him the time of day. I went out with him as a favor for a mutual friend who really thought he was a nice guy. I started to like him. Now im 18 and the whole legal issue starts to come up. What should I do? I really care about him. I dont want to dump him or break the law.
2006-06-17 07:45:36 · 11 answers · asked by Conceited B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hi, sorry to hear about this situation. Personally, I think you are going to have problems with this relationship. I am not saying that this is not going to work out, but I am going to give you a few things to think about.
Right now, I think he is too young for you in a lot of ways. It would be different if he were 20 and you were 23. He would probably be at your level maturity wise, but right now, the fact is that he is not.
Your life is probably going to be very different in a year or so. You are probably going to go to college or at least start school for some kind of trade. This is where the problems arise.. You are at a new stage of life where you begin to get older and are on your way to a mature adult life. There will be things that you will be experiencing that is going to be different from your highschool life. In time, your boyfriend is probably going to feel left out. Its like two ships passing through the night. Your going to be on totally different levels.
I personally think maybe you should really wait this out. He is really still young, and I think he has some growing up to do before he involves himself in someone that is older. I think three years is a lot when you are 18. When you are 19 do you really want to be dating a 16yr old.
I know people are going to say age doesn't matter. In most cases it doesn't. But I think at this stage in your lives it might matter. I could be wrong, but I think you should consider dating guys your age or a little older.
If you do consider that you still want to date him, proceed with caution. Maybe you and him should discuss things with your parents to see how they feel about the situation. If they don't see problems with it, go for it but just keep certain things in the back of your mind. The whole legality thing is not going to matter unless his or your parents have a problem with it.
Good Luck!
2006-06-17 07:59:36 · answer #1 · answered by katisadiva 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What "whole legal issue thing"? Unless you're having sex with him, what issue is there? And if you are having sex with him... what the heck are you doing having sex with a 15 year boy?? Are either of you ready for a baby? I don't care how "safe" you are.
If you're not having sex.... then what are you worrying about? If/when you go off to college, he's going to become a distant memory anyway. Your worlds are going to be completely different. He'll suddenly seem VERY young to you. Best of luck to you.
2006-06-17 07:49:31 · answer #2 · answered by beekiss 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just dont do much sex with him untill he turns 20....or give him a lot of proteens...(you are the luck girl with such things ...you should not let him go if you were happy and he also was happy with you) and dont worry if he still loves you ..he wont let you go that much easy? dont be so hard on him if he try to get you back ...just melt if he come to apologize or somthing and last thing...you gave me 1000vott current when i saw you pic....what i am trying to say is...you are hot and cute you can get a lot of boys if you were not happy with him! forgive my grammar!
2016-05-19 23:00:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age is just a state of being. Love knows no age.
2006-06-17 07:48:06 · answer #4 · answered by Skip 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
who cares just tell him that hes a shrimp and im older adn move on or get a life
2006-06-17 07:59:22 · answer #5 · answered by awesomekid 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just don't sleep with him because if you do thats how you can go to jail not just by you and him talkin
2006-06-17 07:48:00 · answer #6 · answered by priceless 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
who cares
2006-06-17 07:49:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't have sex with him till he is of age, better yet, till you get married to him!
2006-06-17 07:49:51 · answer #8 · answered by skyguy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait for a few more years and go on!
2006-06-17 07:48:40 · answer #9 · answered by seeker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love him then you should be with him. F*** the stupid law
2006-06-17 07:47:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋