make my girl friend the happies girl in the world?
2006-06-17 07:43:52 · 31 answers · asked by style 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Actions speak louder than mere words. By this I mean you can tell her 14,000 times a day that you love her, but if you don't show her through your actions, she will know it isn't true and consequently, won't be happy. By actions I don't mean that you should go out today and buy her expensive gifts! While we all love little gifts here and there because they are nice (as much as we like and should do the same for our partners or b.f's), what matters truly (and this comes from a 50 year old woman with a lifetime of experience trying to figure this out) is simple:
1. We want to be able to talk to our partners and have them really listen to us and understand what we feel. Many guys think they are listening, but we don't feel heard when all we get as a response is a "yeah, yeah, uh huh" and a head nod. We want to know that our partner is engaged in the conversation. We always know when men aren't paying attention, and this makes us angry (which is why when guys ask us what's wrong, we say "nothing". Since we feel unheard, we decide then not to speak or share what's on our mind and that is not productive). Hear her.
2. Respect her for her opinions and for her uniqueness as an individual. You were attracted to her for a reason, so it is important that you honor this, just as you would expect the same in return (and yes, she should give it). In other words, don't try to change her; let her be who she is.
3. Be respectful of her. Do not lie, play head games, or try to hide secrets from her. This is the ultimate in betrayal, and if people want a relationship to succeed, they must always be truthful. Of course, they need to be kind in their approach when telling the truth, but honesty is always the best policy.
3. Support her. By this I mean give her emotional support and be there for her. Let me give an example. I have a very highly pressured job throughout the course of a given year, but it is especially intense for me when May and June comes. I am hugely busy, have to go in to work early and stay very late (sometimes working 12 hour days). I am exhausted and preoccupied most of the time because I am under pressure. What does my husband do? He gets up with me at 4 a.m. if I have to be at work by 6, and drives me in. This is such a gift for me because it gives me a break from driving and lets us spend some time together. Or, if I am at work and he is not working that day, he will clean the house, go food shopping, do chores and make dinner. This means more to me than a diamond, honestly.
5. We all want to feel special, and this includes men and women. It's not unique to females. Even if you have been involved for a long time, there is nothing quite like having our b.f. or husband treat us as if they were taking us on a date! We all get used to each other, and we get bored and tired of the routine, soooo, surprise her! Make dinner reservations at a favorite place, and tell her that she needs to be dressed up and ready by _ time, which is when you are going to pick her up, or if you live together, so you can meet her in the living room. Give her flowers or a corsage you have bought for her, but DO NOT TELL HER WHERE YOU ARE GOING. Keep the surprise and the mystery going....and then, poof, once you get there, wine and dine her. Not only will she be shocked, but she will also love you for it. Thus, keep courting her! And p.s. she needs to do the same for you!
6. Women, and I don't care how old they are or how gorgeous, always have some issue with their self esteem. No matter how beautiful we may actually be, we are always comparing ourselves to other women, models, our neighbor, the cute lady in the office. We see what we perceive to be our flaws and think that because we see them, you do too! You know this is the case when we ask 1000 times a minute if we look fat, or if our butts are too big, or if that dress fits right. Chances are, when you look at her you don't see her flaws and think she is gorgeous and thus, you reassure her by telling her so.
Unfortunately, we don't listen and because we don't listen we don't believe in that truth. One of the BEST things my husband EVER did for me when I went through one of those periods, was to look at me right in the eye and say, 'I really don't appreciate you talking so badly about yourself. What you are saying is that I don't have any taste in women and that I made a bad choice in marrying you! I think you are beautiful, so stop putting yourself down!" Guess what? I shut up and haven't said it since. He reassured me in a way I heard, rather than just saying, "yes you are pretty, no you aren't fat, blah blah.."
You sound like a good guy, so I wish you the best of luck and happiness!
2006-06-17 08:22:17 · answer #1 · answered by Sweet Pea 3 · 7⤊ 1⤋
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2016-05-19 23:00:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok i'm not the best at this kind of thing but think about the most special thing to her right now would be just laying in your armsand you never letting go I'm sure thats something to make her the happiest girl alive your the only thing in the world that she wants right now she needs that someone to be her friend and to hold her through hard times and when she talks just listen to her and act like her thoughts are the only things you wish to hear
2006-06-17 07:47:35 · answer #3 · answered by lilangelbabe133 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
assuming she's not materialisticj, do little things for her. for the most part, women prefer to be called beautiful than hott or sexy. obviously if you want to make her the happiest girl in the world, she means a lot to you. let her know that! tell her that you love her, that she means to world to you. whisper the little sweet nothings in her ear. do something romantic so she realizes she is the world to you.
2006-06-17 07:47:21 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
-im the guy who will text you every single morning and tell you good morning and every single night to tell you sweet dreams
-im the guy who will text you and tell you "i love you and you make me smile" just because
-im the guy who will blindfold you and take you to the beach, let you run your toes through the sand and then make you guess where we are
-im the guy who will show up at your games (or competitions or meets) without you knowing just to surprise you
-im the guy who will hold you when you crying and wipe away your tears
-im the guy who still thinks you're beautiful with no makeup in sweats and a big t-shirt
-im the guy who won't pressure you to do things you dont want to
-im the guy who will show up at your house with soup and a movie when you aren't feeling well
-im the guy who kisses you on the forehead
-im the guy who doesnt kiss and tell
-im the guy who actually listens to you when you talk
-im the guy who's excited all day because im looking foweward to our date that night
-im the guy who is content to just be able to hold you and wants nothing more
-im the guy who can't help but smile when you walk into the room
-im the guy whos perfectly content with staying in and watching movies and cuddling
-im the guy who won't lie to you about where hes going or where he's been or who he's been with
-im the guy who gets butterflies when he hears your name
-im the guy who picks you over his friends
-im the guy who's not afraid to tell his friends he loves you
-im the guy who isn't always trying to act tough around you
-im the guy who doesn't care about your imperfections and loves you more for them
-im the guy who will hold you while we watch the sunset
-IM THE GUY WHO REALLY WANTS TO MAKE YOU THE HAPPIEST GIRL IN THE WORLD
^ BE that guy...
2006-06-17 07:50:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure she fills happy at all times..Maybe take her out to eat and give her candy and flowers.
2006-06-18 03:51:17 · answer #6 · answered by howard12 h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly? The next time she tries to tell you shes unhappy with somethign, listen and really try to work through it. I think ur swell for asking! Keep your ears and your heart and your mind open to change. Never stop appreciating her, and she'll never stop loving you.
p.s. think about the things yur mum complains about ur dad doing. do you do any of those things?
2006-06-17 07:49:24 · answer #7 · answered by ChaChaChingThing 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it is your duty to make her happy. How can you do that really? Sure you can make her satisfied for the moment, but only she can make herself happy.
2006-06-17 07:47:49 · answer #8 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Win the lottery
2006-06-17 07:46:39 · answer #9 · answered by preciousmoments1962 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
never make her mad, treat her like a queen and always see that shes happy with u
2006-06-17 07:46:34 · answer #10 · answered by geisha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋