if someone gets caught viewing swimsuit collection of gorgeous beauties by his sister what should he do ? I m d one and feeling ashamed of going in front of her.
2006-06-17 07:17:53 · 20 answers · asked by lovepeni 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
you're only human it's natural. don't feel ashamed
2006-06-17 07:20:47 · answer #1 · answered by tinadolphin6 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I need to ask a question of you before answering. Did you go and watch her in her swimsuit/ like getting dressed or undressed?? or were you just looking in a catalog and your sister interrupted what you were doing?
That being asked, it's natural for you to be looking. Gosh you're only human. If your sister is younger she might not understand what exactly you were doing and you might need to discuss it with her. If she's older than you, she probably knows what you were doing and you shouldn't feel ashamed because she's probably done something similar in the past.
Just try and be more discrete around her and try and forget about it. Worse thing that could happen is she tells mom or dad. The guilt you feel, well you'll just have to over come it in your own time and in your own way.
Hope this helps.
FisherKing
2006-06-17 07:25:36 · answer #2 · answered by FisherKing 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about your sister. Instead, consider you have to answer to yourself and God. Now, were you ashamed of yourself before she caught you? If so, you might want to ask why. And this might boil down asking yourself why you were looking at these girls.
If it was to lust after them - view them as sex objects instead of creatures made in God's image(1) - then there is a problem(2) and you need to put the pictures aside and think of better ways to think about beautiful girls, practice thinking in the new ways. Once you have done that, you may not be so interested in the pictures anymore.
If it wasn't with any kind of lust in mind, then either you have a problem with a weak conscience (maybe because everyone else thinks that it must be something dirty, and that creates unclean associations in your mind), or your sister might (if she was offended).(3)
In the first case, you definitely should not look at the pictures in front of your sister, for the sake of her conscience. In the second, you may also wish to consider not looking until you have come to a point where you can do it without any unclean associations coming into your mind.(4)
And another thing: if you ever find yourself "having to look" at this kind of pictures (or for that matter, "having to do" anything at all), take that as a red flag. You don't want to become addicted - that's a much more serious problem than just some pictures.
As it is written: 'Everything is permissible for me' - but not everything is beneficial. "Everything is permissible for me" - but I will not be mastered by anything.(5) I am not saying here that looking is sinful - that question is between you and God - but I do think you need to ask yourself what benefit comes from looking at these pictures.
God wants to redeem you from all bondage; He wants your body to be a temple suitable for His habitation (and He wants you to view those girls in the pictures the same way). Therefore honor God with your body (including your eyes :> )(6)
May He bless you with wisdom and understanding in this matter
2006-06-17 07:58:19 · answer #3 · answered by songkaila 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so you were spankin the monkey and lookin at hot chicks BFD go tell ur sis she needs to learn how to knock or she gonna see something that she doesn't want to see. It's natural and there is no need to be ashamed. You might want to get a lock on that there door! I doubt your sister will wnat to even talk about it! She is probably just as embarrassed as you if not worse. Best thing to do is act like it never even bothered you. Oh and if you have the type of sister that would tease you about it, just tell her she can't get over the size of it and that's why she keeps bringing it up!! be creative.
2006-06-17 08:43:30 · answer #4 · answered by badoll 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand the problem. You're a boy. You like looking at beauties in a swim suit. That's normal. Why should you be ashamed or worry about what your sister is going to say?
2006-06-17 07:21:33 · answer #5 · answered by Blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Judging from the picture, I'd assume you are a male. Many men look at women no matter what they are wearing. You shouldn't be ashamed for doing so as well. At least it wasn't ****. I think you should talk to your sister about how you are feeling. Chances are she doesn't think any less of you.
2006-06-17 07:23:10 · answer #6 · answered by vince_pballer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Frank
2006-06-17 07:22:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
who cares? first of all, it's no different than looking at girls in bathing suits at the beach or a swimming pool. it's no different than seeing girls in Victoria's Secret commercials and magazines. it's only natural, you're a guy and it's a part of life. and you shouldn't feel ashamed. so if your sister says anything to you, just tell her this stuff or you could just say it's none of her business.
2006-06-17 07:26:32 · answer #8 · answered by kill_jenn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Brothers and sisters can be so mean to each other, even about perfectly normal stuff. You're a guy, and girls in swimsuits are fun to look at. Don't worry about what she says, remember, it's her job as your sister to give you sh**.
2006-06-17 07:23:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
big whoop
nothing to be ashamed of. They're sold for a reason and you're not the only one looking.
2006-06-17 07:22:02 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋