I am a life coach who deals specifically with individuals who are having issues moving forward. I am always open to new ideas about how people get themselves out of the ruts they create for themselves. We all find ourselves in these cycles of non-productive behavior from time to time. Sometimes it is easy to break the cycle and sometimes we need a little help. Sometimes it is something major like a "mid-life crisis" where we find ourselves at a point where we are searching for meaning. Anyway, I would love to get some new perspectives on this subject. Thanks!
2006-06-17 07:06:35 · 11 answers · asked by Pat Benage 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
sshazzam,
You sent me an email, but I am unable to respond because Yahoo says you have not verified your email address. If you're interested in my help, email me directly at cpb at being-inspired.com
2006-06-20 10:41:00 · update #1
Over the years, I have learned 40 power principles that I believe govern every aspect of human living, and guarantee success for anyone who learns to live in harmony with these principles. Obviously, I don't have the space to discuss all 40 of them here, but I will share with you two sets of these principles--14 in number, categorized as "The Thinking & Perspective Principles", and the "Continual Action Principles."
Using these principles, I have changed from a life of crime and prison to being a productive contributor to society. I have overcome challenges of dropping out of school and amassing a series of self-destructive and community-endangering habits.
Consider the thinking and perspective principles:
1.I learned to change my thinking and when I did, I also . . .
2. Learned to change my beliefs, and when I did, I also . . .
3. Learned to change my expectations, and when I did, I also . . .
4. Learned to change my attitude, and when I did, I also . . .
5. Learned to change my behavior, and when I did, I also . . .
6. Learned to change my performances, and when I did, I also . . .
7. Learned to change my life.
Now the continual action principles
1. I learned to get started, and to . . .
2. Become and remain teachable, and to . . .
3. Become and remain coach-able, and to . . .
4. Master systems and process thinking, and to . . .
5. Work smart, and to . . .
6. Work hard, and to . . .
7. Never quit.
For a complete look at these principles, please email me at:
milton@miltoncjordansr.com and I will send you an invitation to join one of my Yahoo Groups where these principles are revealed in full.
2006-06-30 19:50:10 · answer #1 · answered by mcjordansr 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I honestly believe that breaking the routine is the best way to get out of a rut. It doesn't have to be a major change. Something as simple as taking a different route to work, taking a class in something you like, or starting a new hobby, can help break behavioral patterns. Spontaneity is liberating; don't let life dictate your every move, and don't be afraid to try new things.
2006-07-01 02:13:03 · answer #2 · answered by Cricket 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The easiest way is to break routine, but start with the smallest of things. I.e., If you always put your left foot into your pants first, try putting your pants on with the right foot first. Your mind is what keeps you in the rut and creates the fear to change. When you change something "safe", your mind becomes preoccupied with observing the difference so that helps with setting aside the over-thinking.
When I want to change and have a history of always doing the same thing, I also think to myself, "Disregard the history. That was who I WAS. NOW, in this moment, I can choose to be whoever I want and act however I want."
Sometimes, I also get into a worry cycle when faced with a roadblock and I try to solve the problem in my head, but keep reviewing it over and over. When I catch myself doing this, I distract myself and put it out of my mind and trust that I have the knowledge and abilities to deal with the situation.
P.S. I am the Queen of Change and am able to manifest extraordinary changes in my life. These basics really work for me. :)
2006-06-23 06:10:30 · answer #3 · answered by hollylitespeed 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the thing that helps me is to actually take time to sit down and think about my life. I don't really keep a routine and that is actually one of my bad habits. Because then I complain my life is so chaotic. When i force myself to look at my problems and think about them I tend to find ways to help myself. Like simply putting up a mail holder by the door that holds keys saves me time, because now when i come in I put the keys by the door. I don't have to rush around getting mad because I don't know where my keys are. The worst bad habit I have never been able to break is procrastination. I think i just like rush I get by having to do so much at once to get something done even though I know I would enjoy life more if I didn't rush some things.
2006-06-29 14:56:42 · answer #4 · answered by her_ziggyness 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Breaking out of the comfort zone! Doing things in a way you've never done them, or doing things you've never done. Start with something non-threatening (take a salsa class, try a new food, go out to dinner alone, volunteer at a one-day event.) Move up to bigger risks: ride the bus to work, instead of drive, take a class in your worst subject, ask the boss for a raise! Learn that change is supposed to cause a little discomfort in our lives. Growth is challenging, but worth it.
2006-06-17 07:14:33 · answer #5 · answered by brenopa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-14 06:15:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been just like you describe....cant move forward, non-productive behaviour, in a rut...etc.
In the Military I was a machine. I had a very strict routine..and someone that helped push me to keep me going. I felt great and organzied and motivated.
can seem to get all that back now it makes me crazy and makes my wife nuts too.
2006-06-17 13:00:48 · answer #7 · answered by sshazzam 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have beat alot of habbits by looking at it like this...does this have me?Or do I have this?I am one to want to be in control.I am stronger than any substance.And sometimes when that does not work,I put the devil in it....This drug is the devil's tool.AM I a slave to the Devil?Hell no...
2006-06-17 08:03:55 · answer #8 · answered by empresscalls 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know the answer but thanks for posting this question! Reason? this is exactly where I am in my life trying to break old destructive routines, the answers you've rec'vd have really opened my eyes
2006-07-01 02:31:07 · answer #9 · answered by GrandmaW 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe they should go to a professional therapist instead of phoney-baloney "life coaching." What are your credentials anyway?
2006-06-30 19:10:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋