Okay I have a little sister. She is 19. she has an older boyfriend. They are painfully in love. I mean you can tell that she love him, and that he love her in return. I mean its very very obvious when they are together it almost seem as if they do not notice anyone else is there. But anyway my question is do you think the age difference is too much? I mean for morals sake. He is 39 and as I said she is only 19. That’s twenty years difference!! Is that too much? Should I tell her how I feel? She says they are planning on getting married in the fall, should I tell her what I think, or let her go on with it, and hope they stay in love?
~signed a concerned older brother~
2006-06-17 07:04:57 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I guess your just being a brother who's concerned about his little girl. or sister but u did say that they both love each other, u can tell her how u feel but then thats may hurt her to know u have problems with the age diffrence.
If u do talk to her about this let her know that u can see that they love each other and that ur glad that she's with a guy who loves her u wish she'd date guys more her age. She's still gonna see him no matter, but as long as he treats her right then ur gonna just step back, but u wikl be there for her if this should fall through.
It's sweet that u feel this way, but if u really feel u need to say something, please be nice about it, not a bully
2006-06-17 07:18:10 · answer #1 · answered by itspink22@sbcglobal.net 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
As long as she is over 18 then age is but a number. My mother remarried when she was 28 and the man whom she married adopted my brother and I was 51 though when they were together you could never tell there was twenty-three years age difference because they were in love. He passed away 15 years ago but to ask my mother to this day and she will tell you they were soulmates despise the age difference it only matters if the heart and soul are entwined with one another.
)o( Goddess Bless )o(
2006-06-17 14:21:05 · answer #2 · answered by alone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is love. Leave them be. But just make sure she knows you are there for her. Be happy for her! Some of us go our entire lives never meeting someone like she has! Age is only a number.( I think it is truly marvelous that you care so much about her. Try to get to know her man better. Maybe you two will even hit it off! You could be missing out on a new friend as well as a great brother-in-law!)
2006-06-17 14:09:18 · answer #3 · answered by shire_maid 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think u should tell her your feelings by saying something like "does the age thing bother u?" but finish by saying that you just want the best for her and no matter what happens u will always be there & love her.
2006-06-17 14:09:53 · answer #4 · answered by kat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell her how you feel but don't be like all macho because that may make her think you just don't want her to be happy or whatever but take it easy but yes you should definitely say something before it is to late because if it does go sour you will feel bad because you did not say something when you felt it needed to be said before they got married you understand what I'm saying
2006-06-17 14:18:36 · answer #5 · answered by CeCi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
age doesnt matter if they are in love. i know a guy that was 53 and married a girl that was 21 and they love eachother very much. so let your sister be with this guy.
2006-06-17 14:13:50 · answer #6 · answered by volleyball*star 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say something. Tell her you are concerned without being judgemental. Probably now, before they get married. If you don't say anything and things get bad, you will wish you had, especially once they are married.
2006-06-17 14:11:10 · answer #7 · answered by Tiffany 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow well if they are in love i think thats great.. i also wonder if you parents are as concerned as you are? i think just talk to her and say look i have concerns but i support u
2006-06-17 14:10:06 · answer #8 · answered by the quiet one 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would let them go but that's alot of years apart. Now days thats nothing.
2006-06-17 14:09:19 · answer #9 · answered by cassie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HMMMMMM....... LUV S LUV...... But its big age difference.....
hopefully ur paretsr also concerned as u r...... jus... askif she feels dat acc. 2 her s d age diff. s 2 much......
2006-06-17 14:14:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋