I would like to know why I cant find a decent MAN?

Question

I am 28,single,white,I am not overweight,I am a good hearted woman,no hang ups,no drama,and yet all I keep meeting are guys who treat me like a whore or trash!What gives guys 18-30?

Answer 1

Without knowing more details it would be hard to answer this question honestly, but with what you have provided, here is the best answer I can give you.

Your geographical location, places you hang out or where you meet people and how you carry yourself and dress usually will influence the kind of guys that approach you. Many times its the kind of guys you are attracted to will also affect how they treat you. For instance, some women are attracted to, lets say, the bad boy types. There is nothing wrong with that, but along with that comes the personalities of guys who treat women with disrespect but women think they can find one out of the bunch that will be different. My experience has been that for some reason, women, for reason I will never understand, stay with guys who treat them like crap and are just not staying with guys who will respect and love them. They say it gets boring for some reason even though they say they want romance, compassion, respect etc.

You should really think about what you really want in a relationship and go for guys who can really provide that type of love in your life. Yes, bad boys are fun and exciting, but in the long run you end up in a life where you will always get hurt. Search your heart and soul and envision the love you want, and eventually he will become a part of your life. These are lessons we go through in life and until we figure this out, we continue to be unhappy. Be true to yourself, be unconditional towards others and a man worthy of your company will show you what love is really about.

Answer 2

The reasons could be any or some or all of those listed below.
1. You are NOT meeting enough men.
2. You are conscious of your agenda while meeting men, which could prejudice them and cramp your style and even show you as selfish and materialistic, which you may not really be.
3. For once, or rather for sometime, you should chuck your goal and meet men just as individuals and fellow beings. A magic moment might produce the Magic Man.
4. You are perhaps openly referring to or alluding to your good points - 'not overweight', 'good-hearted' 'no hang-ups' and so on. This needlessly overexposes you, robbing your encounters of expectation and discovery, and also introduces the element of compatibility too early in the proceedings. It is best to let things develop naturally and gradually. Maybe he who appears to be a hopeless starter might win the race. Be patient and allow your good heart to receive and respond gently.
5. Maybe you are allowing your failure to succeed to overpower you into weak submission to failure, and hence are not really looking forward to future meetings with hope and optimism. Go like a breeze without carrying a scent.
6. You are not disconnecting at the right time. You have to rely on your judgement when you are making an important decision. The moment you realise that you are not being treated right, you must terminate the contact with as much as grace and poise as you can muster. Prolonging the agony will only lead to waste of time and, more important, embitter your experience and colour your belief and attitude.
I have shared my thoughts with genuine concern and expect them to be of some use, although I am outside the 18-30 age-group.
My best wishes and good luck to you.

Answer 3

It's our culture. Women are forced into a position of having to have sex young. As they do so, and men begin to get it sooner and sooner in relationships, men begin to see women less as individuals and more as objects to satisfy themselves. By the time a girl hits 25, society just assumes she is a whore or trash, no matter what she has done with herself in the past.

The problem goes both ways. I am 33, single, confident, in excellent shape, not bad looking, have always treated women with respect, learned a long time ago how to make a woman happy. I have never had a one-night stand, and refuse to treat a woman like that. With all that, I have never dated. The nice young ladies I have pursued have never seen me as a real guy. Women don't look at me until their biology is working against them or they want social acceptance through legitimate marriage. Guys might be treating you like crap now, but I would wager you ignored the guys who would not have treated you poorly when they would have dated you.

Answer 4

the unhappy actuality is that men, daily, have become extra laid back while it consists of looking an significant different. See, there are extra women persons searching for an significant different than men. that's no longer bearing in suggestions, gay men or lesbian women persons. in any case, while a woman finally come across a worth guy, we carry directly to him. My factor is that possibly you're affected by what i like to call the parking syndrome... the sturdy, worth men, like parkings are taken, the only that are left are the two handicapped or no longer precisely what you have been searching for. in this matter endurance is a distinctive function and interior the long-term, well worth it. strengthen your seek to unexplored areas, at the same time with velocity relationship, internet, etc. don't be afraid to %. up a guy who seems thrilling to you (that's how I met my husband), save removing the unworthy one and are not getting desperate. a sturdy guy is well worth waiting for.

Answer 5

where are you meeting these men(boys)? Try going to a classy place. Old smelly bars are just meat markets. Ask around or look it up on the net for more classy places to go. Dress in a more conserative manor, but not granny like either. And just enjoy yourself, smile alot, and don't go for the first guy that flirts with you.

Answer 6

You answered your own question: Guys 18-30. Too young for a 28 year old. Start at your own age and work up. Also, ask yourself if you are attracting men by being yourself or by advertising sex. If you are advertising sex than that is what they will expect.

Answer 7

I am waaaaaaay past your age but I have daughters and grandaughters and my first reaction to your question was.....where did you meet them? If at a bar, you are automatically labled "easy". Also, if you dress provocatively, the same first impression. Look for a man in different places...charity work, church functions, political meetings, fund raising events, sports, and on and on....don't be in a hurry...HE will find you if you just quit looking so hard!! Good luck!!

Answer 8

I used to ask myself the same question about "Why I cannot find a decent/honest woman".

I gave up looking. Gave up falling for any woman. Gave up showing or having any interest in them. NEVER more than just friends.

I had totally given up hope... and then I found her. Today we are married for 7 years... and happy.

Oh... and when I found her... I didnt rush into it... and was patient... asked her to marry me many times for 3 years... she kept saying no and we kept being friends... finally... she said yes.

So, once again, my advice is... stop looking.

Answer 9

I agree with "Prince Charmin", recheck your definition of "DECENT" . Good man maybe in front of you and you may not appreciate him. Is he the good hearted janitor, or the lier lawyer

Also, you must be looking at the wrong places.

Answer 10

Probably because you're not looking in the right places... seek and ye shall find.