my boyfriend wants us to tie the knot
2006-06-17 06:59:48 · 51 answers · asked by kathrynstacey2002 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
The first thing you have to ask yourself is if you are ready to spend the rest of your life with this one person? Don't take me as saying that you shouldn't do this or you should question your relationship. Just make sure that you are ready to do this and you aren't just doing it b/c you think it's a good way to show commitment. just being with a person and showing total honesty and trust should prove that you are committed.
2006-06-17 07:02:12 · answer #1 · answered by lojack 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
just a few to understand ...
WHAT IS MARRIAGE???
Message: 1. Marriage is not a word. It's a sentence (a life
sentence).
2. Marriage is love. Love is blind. Therefore
marriage is an institution for the blind.
3. Marriage is an institution in which a man loses
his Bachelor's Degree and the woman gets her
masters.
4. Marriage is a three-ring circus: engagement
ring, wedding ring and suffering.
5. Married life is full of excitement and frustration:
In the first year of marriage, the man speaks and
the woman listens. In the second year, the woman
speaks and the man listens. In the third year, they
both speak and the NEIGHBOUR listens.
6. Getting married is very much like going to a
restaurant with friends.You order what you want,
and when you see what the other person has, you
wish you had ordered that instead.
7. There was this man who muttered a few words
in the church and found himself married. A year
later he muttered something in his sleep and found
himself divorced.
8. A happy marriage is a matter of giving and
taking; the husband gives and the wife takes.
9. Son: How much does it cost to get married,
Dad? Father: I don't know son, I'm still paying for
it.
10. Son: Is it true Dad? I heard that in ancient
China, a man doesn't know his wife until he
marries her. Father: That happens everywhere,
son, EVERYWHERE!
11. Love is one long sweet dream, and marriage is
the alarm clock.
12. They say that when a man holds a woman's
hand before marriage, it is love; after marriage it is
self-defense.
13. When a newly married man looks happy, we
know why. But when a 10-year married man looks
happy, we wonder why.
14. There was this lover who said that he would go
through hell for her. They got married, and now he
is going through HELL.
16. When a man steals your wife, there is no
better revenge than to let him keep her.
17. Eighty percent of married men cheat in
America, the rest cheat in Europe.
18. After marriage, husband and wife become two
sides of a coin. They just can't face each other,
but they still stay together.
19. Marriage is man and a woman become one.
The trouble starts when they try to decide which
one.
20. Before marriage, a man yearns for the woman
he loves. After the marriage the "Y" becomes
silent.
21. I married Miss right; I just didn't know her first
name was Always.
22. It's not true that married men live longer than
single men, it only seems longer.
23. Losing a wife can be hard. In my case, it was
almost impossible.
24. A man was complaining to a friend: I HAD IT
ALL-MONEY, A BEAUTIFUL HOUSE, THE LOVE
OF A BEAUTIFUL WOMAN, THEN POW! IT WAS
ALL GONE. WHAT HAPPENED, asked his friend.
He says MY WIFE FOUND OUT.
25. WIFE: Let's go out and have some fun tonight.
HUSBAND: OK, but if you get home before I do,
leave the hallway light on.
26. At a cocktail party, one woman said to
another: AREN'T YOU WEARING YOUR RING ON
THE WRONG FINGER? The other replied, YES, I,
AM. I MARRIED THE WRONG MAN.
27. Man is incomplete until he gets married, then
he is finished.
28. It doesn't matter how often a married man
changes his job, he still ends up with the same
boss.
29. A man inserted an ad in the paper - WIFE
WANTED. The next day he received a hundred of
letters and they all said the same thing - YOU
CAN HAVE MINE.
30. When a man opens the door of his car for his
wife, you can be sure of one thing - either the car
is new or the wife is.
2006-06-25 18:42:30 · answer #2 · answered by vijaya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are other ways of showing commitment. Commitment is not just about tie the knot. Not seeing/ going out with another bloke is commitment.
E.g Definition
An agreement to perform a particular activity at a certain time in the future under certain circumstances.
If you feel you are not ready to get married then don't. Don't just do it because your partner wants this sort of commitment from you. If you have commited to him for so long he would understand. He might feel a little insecure and this might be the best way for him to feel better. Before saying yes or no sit down and talk to him about it. Find out what you both want from marriage. Don't rush.
If you decide yes then I wish you both the very best for the future. And wish you every happiness for the future.
2006-06-26 01:25:16 · answer #3 · answered by hazel1558 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say yes, but it depends on the person and the relationship. In my eyes you only get married once so it should mean everything to you, but some people see marriage as an easy route to happiness, as they can always get a divorce. For some people moving in is the biggest commitment as they may be very independent, and sharing is a big commitment, others it may be having children, or even getting a pet. you have to look after that thing together forever, there's no getting out of it.
Ask yourself if you would be happy to spend the rest of your life with this man, and there's your answer. Simple. Or do you not trust why he wants to get married?
2006-06-26 01:03:16 · answer #4 · answered by Lilac Lady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes and no.
Commitment is a vague term. Does it mean you won't cheat on him, and he won't cheat on you? Well, nothing can stop that, not even marriage. Does it mean you promise to stay together always? Well, yes, but you can get a divorce (it just takes longer and is harder to break up).
If your boyfriend wants to tie the knot with you, then he's decided that you're the only one he ever wants to be with. At least, that's what he's thinking right now.
If you're thinking that right now, then do it! If you're asking that question, however, then maybe there's other unanswered questions that you should answer first.
Now, where did I put my remote?
2006-06-17 14:48:48 · answer #5 · answered by Nathan D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're asking us, then you're not ready. My fiancee's grandmother and stepgrandfather were together until the day he died, a period of almost 54 years, without ever being married. Marriage is the way to show everyone else your commitment to the one you love, but the best way to show it to the one you love is to just live the commitment 24/7. If that to both of you means marriage, then yes, it is the best way. It all depends on what commitment and marriage mean to you. If you can't define both of those words separately, then it is. Again, if you have to pause to ask us, it's probably not ... or, at least, it's not with him.
2006-06-27 04:24:38 · answer #6 · answered by jaybirdri 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel that if you are having this much of a question you may not be ready for marriage and should take the time to think this through.
Secondly, I feel that when you are ready for marriage and the man you love asks to marry you you know in your heart the only answer is yes. Because you cant think of spending the rest of your life with anyone else and want this person to be in your life,bed, and future forever.
If you don't feel any of this you should slow things down until you do feel it.
2006-06-17 09:07:58 · answer #7 · answered by brownunicorn_75 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think loyalty and fidelity are the best ways to show commitment. If you've been together for awhile, enjoy each other, are friends, lovers, and confidants, then maybe it's time. But, I will share with you what my mother shared with me when I was deciding to get married or not. When it's time for that level of commitment, you will know...and won't need to ask anyone for permission or suggestions. Just a thought...
2006-06-17 07:04:23 · answer #8 · answered by spain_105 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that getting married is really the right way of showing commitment to the one u love. maybe it's a "wind of change" in the relationship. if it's a desire for both in the couple,then do it! Some people just do it for having kids. Anyway,u must always follow your heart no matter what. No one knows better...
Good luck!
2006-06-17 07:06:08 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you can show committment by being loyal, honest, being involved with activities he likes, and doing things for him that make him feel special. Also, supporting his decisions and standing by him. Do NOT feel pressured to get married until you feel completely sure he is the one you cant live without the rest of your life. Divorce is no fun, nor is being married to someone you dont like or who is not a good friend or companion. Believe me I have been there. Good luck and stay true to yourself!
2006-06-17 07:25:11 · answer #10 · answered by cowgirl_up11 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋